Those expecting a 2009 engagement...

[absolut_blonde]

Have you done any planning so far? If so, what kind? Casual browsing, serious searching, actual booking/purchasing of items?

I am pretty sure SO will propose within the next 6 months or so (barring anything unusual financially).

I''ve been looking here and there, but nothing definitive yet. I feel like I won''t be able to make any actual decisions until I am forced to! Too indecisive, LOL.

 

[Lauren8211]

Not sure when the proposal is coming, but it''s definitely 2009. I thought it would be the first half, but now I''m not so sure. I''m starting to get a little worked up about it again, since I feel like he''s changed his tune a bit.

Anywho....

No planning is done on my part. I''m not even sure of a vague idea of what I want to do. We still haven''t decided about whether we have small wedding, and buy a house, or a big wedding and wait.

I''m leaning towards small wedding and a house. I can''t wait to buy my first house!!

 

[ckrickett]

Casual browsing. Since I have no clue what our budget would be.
It''s still fun to look!

 

[CNYHopeful]

Ah yes, the 2009 group.
SO says we''ll be engaged by the summer, so I know he''s planning something in the next few months. He''s also hinted that he has a particular date in his mind that he wants to propose and that it''s a day with meaning for both of us, so February is full of them (our first date, a concert we worked on together, my birthday and our first kiss, Valentine''s Day - though that''s overdone so it''s out).

Anyways, I''ve done a lot of web browsing, but I can''t make decisions until I know what season we''re getting married. He doesn''t want to talk about wedding plans until we''re actually engaged, so that throws a wrench in that. I guess I''ve just been gathering info about vendors in the area and color schemes for either a Fall or Spring 2010 wedding. Initially, I was hoping for a Fall 2009 (we both love the Fall) but he is taking so long and said last week that there won''t be enough time to put a 2009 wedding together (so maybe he will wait until later in the spring to propose).

I go in phases with the planning. A couple of weeks here and there I''ll peruse bridal magazines or online wedding sites to file some ideas. Then I''ll take a break when I remind myself that the proposal is still a while off and I can''t get much actual planning done until we''re engaged and he''s ready to talk about an actual date.

 

[Bia]

Prob 2009...when I have no idea. I thought I was expecting a 2008 proposal, but that is clearly not happening...or at least it doesn''t seem to be

So, no...no planning (to answer your question

)

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 12/22/2008 12:04:30 PM
Author: ckrickett
Casual browsing. Since I have no clue what our budget would be.

It''s still fun to look!

Same! Mostly just for venue options since England is a bit limiting in venue options (it has to be in a permanent structure open to the public). Although, who knows in which country we''ll get married, so I get to look all over the place!

 

[laughwithme]

blonde... I am expecting a proposal in the next few months (again, assuming no financial issues arise.) And yes, I have done a lot of planning. Mostly over the summer and up until Thanksgiving...but since then, work and holidays have made me so busy, I literally have no time or desire to plan. I have narrowed down a list of reception venues that we will check out and ideally book as soon as we get engaged... I''ve decided on a church...chosen the colors we''ll most likely go with (main color with be dark teal with pink/orange accents, trust me it''s stunning)....and I have a spreadsheet listing tons of other ideas, everything from favors to bridal party gifts to ceremony music to photographers....

It will be fun "picking the planning back up" once we do get engaged.

 

[jcarlylew82]

we have already picked out the style, and he has put on lay away. i am hoping by June 2009 (when our vacation is).
as far as wedding planning goes, i try (VERY HARD) not to plan anything. but as i told E, if i think of a good idea, or something sparks, i am going to check it out and then leave it at that.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

I browse online and check stuff out...I think I have the colors picked out for the most part....

I have no clue about venue or anything like that...my family is in the midwest and his family is here on the east coast....so I have no clue about that....

 

[stephbolt]

I have several friends who are engaged now and planning weddings, so when they send me things to look at I often file the ideas away for my own future use. I have a lot of general ideas but for the most part am waiting until we are engaged to start the concrete planning, in large part because I need to talk to my grad school advisor and find out when she anticipates me graduating, and we will plan the timeline of the wedding from there. I have such a hard time containing myself though, because I''m such a planner!

 

[ringless]

Date: 12/22/2008 12:05:52 PM
Author: Bia
Prob 2009...when I have no idea. I thought I was expecting a 2008 proposal, but that is clearly not happening...or at least it doesn't seem to be

So, no...no planning (to answer your question

)

Bia, why do you think that???

 

[ringless]

I've done some pre planning, but not too much. Mostly just save ideas on my computer
I'm trying not to get my hopes up... so it may happen in 2009, we'll see.

 

[LDubs]

I''m expecting one in the next month, and we''ve discussed when we want the wedding (jan/feb of 2010). As far as planning, I''ve casually browsed for MONTHS, and at this point, have it narrowed down to a few photogs, a few venues, and a few invite designs.

Totally up in the air is all the dress, the colors, and specific number of BMs, groomsmen. It''s tough to hold off planning, knowing that I''ll be looking at a shorter timeline than many. But it''s been fun narrowing stuff down at my leisure, and I think I''ll have a good head start on stuff.

 

[Bia]

Date: 12/22/2008 1:54:51 PM
Author: ringless

Date: 12/22/2008 12:05:52 PM
Author: Bia
Prob 2009...when I have no idea. I thought I was expecting a 2008 proposal, but that is clearly not happening...or at least it doesn''t seem to be

So, no...no planning (to answer your question

)

Bia, why do you think that???

mini, mini, mini threadjack:

Not sure ringless. He just doesn''t seem like the type to propose on Christmas and well, New Years...I don''t know. Plus, don''t most girls have an idea? I mean some hints...

I have nothing to go on, whatsoever. BUT, I refuse to say ANYTHING to him, OR get depressed about this and ruin my holidays.

 

[lucyandroger]

I''m hoping for a 2009 engagement -- probably in the first few months, definitley within the next 6 months. (knock on wood)

Last night I wanted to look at one of the videos on GOG''s website but I couldn''t on my mac so I asked the BF to steal his computer for a minute. When I told him why, he said okay but only if I can be involved...so we watched the video of my dream diamond together....It costs a bit more than I thought our budget would be but BF didn''t say anything about the price...he was just kind of soaking it in.

I''ve started thinking about locations and dates for the wedding and BF and I have even talked about it hypothetically but no firm planning yet. I''m really indecisive as well so it''ll be nice when I can openly plan with BF and the family -- maybe they could make some decisions!

 

[Mannequin]

If everything goes well with FF''s job and our finances in 09, I can likely expect a summer proposal. Don''t have much in the way of planning or purchases yet - I''ve got a few magazines and a cake topper

. I''m thinking small wedding, and he''s thinking bigger, so we have lots of details to work out.

 

[idreamofcushions]

Is it weird that I already have a wedding binder?

lol

I''m expecting the proposal HOPEFULLY in the next three months. Though it has gotten pushed back before for financial reasons. If that''s the case, I still think it won''t happen later than summer of 2009.

As for the wedding, we''re hoping to get married in May of 2010. We want to have the wedding in SO''s hometown of Naples, FL at the REALLY nice country club his dad manages (it''s gorgeous!) I''ve pretty much picked out everything...photographer, church, flowers, colors. Ugh I''m such an over planner. Oh well.

I do fantasize about eloping though. Then we could have an outrageous honeymoon

Still thinking about that option.

 

[Thomperchik]

Yes!!! I know he has my beautiful ring and I will be seeing him next month (he''s deployed oversea''s), so I''m pretty certain we''ll be engaged in a little under four weeks!! (So excited!!!). We''ve talked about a late 2010/early 2011 wedding. Once we are settled in San Diego we''ll be able to have a steady plan and wedding date. Hope that helps!

 

[JR320]

I''m thinking we''ll probably get engaged sometime during the first couple months of ''09. We''ve also discussed having a Fall 2009 wedding, which is pretty darn soon.

As far as planning goes, I''ve only browsed a little online. I have no idea how long it takes to plan a wedding, so I hope 6-8 months will be enough!

Do you think I''ll be pushing it?

 

[mrscushion]

Hi absolut_blonde! I''m expecting a proposal in the next couple months. I was originally hoping for a late 2007 proposal (which I now realize was not realistic at all), then a Fall ''08 proposal... and now early ''09 ...sigh (at least I know he''s now working on a ring...because he''s told me/asked me for input, etc.) Valentine''s Day will be our 8-year anniversary -- I know that date would be a bit cliche for a proposal, but I''d still love it.

I JUST started browsing online for wedding inspirations...in fact, I started just last night!!! I was looking at dresses on theknot.com. I don''t think I''ll go from engagement right into planning... I want to blissfully enjoy being engaged for a while first. Then, perhaps a very intimate, small Fall 2010 wedding. I could also see us having an even longer engagement.

 

[MissDimity]

My SO has bought the ring so definitely a proposal will come either before the end of the year, or next year.
Would have liked to book the venue, Long Reef Golf Club, a very popular venue where we live, however I have tried contacting them twice, and left messages and they haven''t got back to me yet.. which is very annoying.

 

[laughwithme]

Date: 12/22/2008 2:48:26 PM
Author: JR320
I''m thinking we''ll probably get engaged sometime during the first couple months of ''09. We''ve also discussed having a Fall 2009 wedding, which is pretty darn soon.

As far as planning goes, I''ve only browsed a little online. I have no idea how long it takes to plan a wedding, so I hope 6-8 months will be enough!

Do you think I''ll be pushing it?

JR, I''d say it depends. Are you in a big city? The reason I ask is because, at least where I''m at, I feel like the good venues are fairly competitive and book up quickly - particularly May-Oct. Do you have any ideas for venues? It took me nearly six months to just get pricing info and narrow down a list from several dozen to a handful that we will check out once we get engaged. It scares me to think what would have happened if I hadn''t started looking until we got engaged - we probably would have had to give up our ideal date back b/c everything would have been taken. I think every situtation is different, so that''s just my two cents!

 

[SuiteLady]

I read blogs, save pictures and ideas. We eat out a lot so we always get information on the private rooms, we do drivebys and we have a ranking of venues we have visited through other folks'' weddings and suchl

 

[gryffindor]

I will likely get engaged in the next few months. Our stone has been purchased and the design for the setting will be ready after the holiday rush, and then the setting has to be cast and the ring needs to be finished. It probably would have happened by now if I hadn''t discovered PS and started researching our diamond and came across a zillion design options for settings. Reading PS pushed back the ring purchase and therefore the engagement back by at least 2 months, although in this case, too much information turned out to be a good thing!

We''re thinking for a fall 2009 or spring 2010 wedding, but I can''t search venues or dresses or anything until he gives me the ring thereby making it official to our families. I attended a bridal expo with my parents a few weeks ago but only because it is held once a year in our area and it maybe worthless to us by the time it returns next year.

Right now I''m trying to get back into my workout, weight loss, and eating healthy modes to prepare for the anticipated picture-worthy events of 2009!

 

[sammyj]

I''m also expecting a 2009 proposal...sometime within the next 6 months. We already have our setting designed and now my BF is looking for the stone and he has given me the boot from the e-ring process.

I''ve done some casual (and not-so-casual) browsing and my wedding planning wheels are constantly spinning!!! like many others, we don''t know what our budget is but we''re committed to keeping the guest list at 100 max and the wedding will be in June 2010.

 

[LoveRoundBrillants]

Im also expecting a 2009 proposal. We have talked about a summer 2009 married, and I would like to have a year to plan my wedding. So im guessing before the summer proposal...but to make things a little more complicated his father lives overseas and is coming march/april. His dad of course means a lot to him and has mentioned that he would like to be engaged before his father comes. Whether that happens or not...i have no idea...but what i do know is these next few months are killing me..lol.

As far as planning, I have very casually looked at outfits..but not booked anything or bought anything. I feel i need a proposal in order to be in that mindset..haha.

 

[LoveRoundBrillants]

lol..i mean Summer 2010 wedding NOT 2009...haha

getting way ahead of myself there

 

[Honey228]

I''m expecting a late 2009 proposal. We''ve set a budget for the ring. He''s put me in charge of picking out the ring and I''ve put him in charge of planning the proposal. He told me yesterday that his coworkers are surprised that he''s not picking out the ring, but he doesn''t feel comfortable spending that much money on something that I''m going to wear everyday and not giving me a say in it. And since I''m not big on surprises, I agree. I have a style in mind. When is too soon to start looking for the actual stone? I don''t want to look to soon and find the perfect one and have it be gone before we''ve saved up for it.

As far as wedding planning goes, we''re on the same page for the date, budget, size, and honeymoon. As far as style, well I''ve been planning that for the past ten years. I may have changed boyfriends, but I''ve stuck to my same wedding plan, lol. For the most part, he''ll let me pick the details, but he knows to give his input when asked for. He says, "I know it''s our wedding, but it''s YOUR day." Not looking at any venues until we''re engaged.

 

[ringless]

Date: 12/22/2008 2:02:51 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 12/22/2008 1:54:51 PM
Author: ringless

Date: 12/22/2008 12:05:52 PM
Author: Bia
Prob 2009...when I have no idea. I thought I was expecting a 2008 proposal, but that is clearly not happening...or at least it doesn't seem to be

So, no...no planning (to answer your question

)

Bia, why do you think that???

mini, mini, mini threadjack:

Not sure ringless. He just doesn't seem like the type to propose on Christmas and well, New Years...I don't know. Plus, don't most girls have an idea? I mean some hints...

I have nothing to go on, whatsoever. BUT, I refuse to say ANYTHING to him, OR get depressed about this and ruin my holidays.

I know it's hard. I was having some doubts the other day too. We can't mind read, all we can do is wait. Our time will come.. just have faith and try to enjoy our relationships... and the holidays. I know for me personally, I'm waiting until New Years Day... if nothing happens before then I will be probably visably upset (i'll try my hardest to keep a straight face and tough it out though). Hang in there girl. I will be so excited for you when you DO!

 

[dec2410]

i''m pretty sure we''ll be engaged late 2009. *fingers & toes crossed*

we plan on having a very small, intimate wedding with probably just our immediate family and the people who we would want to be in our bridal party (3 friends + significant other). so there won''t be as much planning needed as there would be for a full blown wedding.

i''ve started to bookmark on my comp dresses that i like. that''s really the only "planning" i''ve done. i do keep my mind open and take notes whenever i go to a nice restaurant or a wedding for ideas. that''s about it.