Tell me what to say !

[Jemphrey]

Hi there

this is one for all you girls PS''s
I have a friend who always comments on my rings ie in particular the way I wear them
I have my original engagment ring which I recently had reset - it is a beautiful .5 carat round brilliant and I had it set with two tapered baquettes on either side and set in white gold. I wear that on the inside , them my plain thin white gold wedding band and the top ring I wear is a 1 carat marquise also set in white gold.

I was never into matchy things and I love the look on my finger -- I thought about wearing my e ring on my right hand but you know - I wont do it just becuase someone says I should..

I would NEVER comment on how a person should or should not wear their jewellery and I have learned from being a Pricescoper that you do what you want and wear what you want -- its such a personal thing.

What I would really love is to have a really good *one liner* ready for the next time she says I should not wear them together,
I want to wear them together because I love my ering and would feel funny about wearing on my right had and I love my marquise as it is my e ring upgrade.

any suggestions?

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Just so I understand, you wear all three rings on your left ring finger?

I saw wear them however you want. If it''s comfortable and looks OK to you, go for it.

 

[lknvrb4]

Maybe since she is your friend she was trying to be honest without hurting your feelings. I know you were not asking for her opinion though.

 

[Jemphrey]

Hi

thanks for that -- the bands on the rings are thin --I havent got a photo of them -- both rings a really delicate and beautiful so its not as if there is huge coverage -=- also i wear a size 6.5 so its a nice look -- but she is really into wearing matchy things and everything correct whereas I am more non matchy and actually drawn to things that are a bit different.

I dont want to say something really horrible, thats not me but I just always end up feeling silly following something she has said about my rings -- I just want to stop her by saying something just brilliant !

 

[D&T]

Where's Decodelighted...she always has something witty to say

in this kind of thread. Hmmmm... I'm not too matchy as well. and I think it would be very boring if everyone had the same taste. Sorry bout your friend

ETA: maybe in this instance your friend just think it odd as to wearing two engagement rings on the same finger?

 

[ericad]

If it were me, I''d say (dramatic eye roll and voice dripping with sarcasm), "Don''t hate - not everyone can pull off this kind of style..." then waggle your ring finger under her nose

I''m also a non-matchy person and love more eclectic stacks. Would love to see pics!

 

[D&T]

Date: 2/2/2010 11:10:08 AM
Author: ericad
If it were me, I''d say (dramatic eye roll and voice dripping with sarcasm), ''Don''t hate - not everyone can pull off this kind of style...'' then waggle your ring finger under her nose

I''m also a non-matchy person and love more eclectic stacks. Would love to see pics!

I like it!!!!..lol

 

[Dreamer_D]

I''d like to see a picture. Stacks of colores stones are really fashionable, why not diamonds? Seems fun to me.

I am not one for witty combacks, more like annoyed snark. I think if she said it to me again, I would say, "Arrgh, why the heck to do you even care?? You are obsessed!" and roll my eyes and end the convo. But I am the dominant type so that approach may not work for you.

 

[MMMD]

Erica had a great comeback. Or, you can tell her that you heard her the first few times she has made her comment and decided against her advice.

I''m sorry she''s made you feel bad. They are your rings and you should wear them the way you want.


And, handshots would be nice. I''d loooove to see your rings.

 

[Jemphrey]

LADIES LADIES

I love all the comments -- thanks so much -- My fave tho has to be

"Don''t hate - not everyone can pull off this kind of style..." then waggle your ring finger under her nose

I should, of course have take photos by now -- and posted as I am so nosey and totally love to see all your rings.
I currently have my .75 solitaire in for a reset so when I get that back in coupla weeks I will post all my rings together -- promise.

I am going on hols soon and am defo going to encounter some sort of comment re my rings -- of course the other thing is that I have several really nice diamond rings as I am also a diamond freak and she has only 1 .... mmmmm maybe I am onto something here!

thanks everyone and take care -- greeting from rainy Ireland

 

[Lurchie]

How about "Message received." If for whatever reason she persists, just ignore her.

 

[tyty333]

Date: 2/2/2010 10:50:31 AM
Author: D&T
Where''s Decodelighted...she always has something witty to say

in this kind of thread. Hmmmm... I''m not too matchy as well. and I think it would be very boring if everyone had the same taste. Sorry bout your friend

ETA: maybe in this instance your friend just think it odd as to wearing two engagement rings on the same finger?

I would say it like D&T commented...

"Wouldn''t it be boring if everyone had the same taste?"

Sort of recognizes her opinion (that she doesnt like it) but comfirms that you do!

 

[Nomsdeplume]

"He REALLY liked it, so he had to put THREE rings on it."

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Depending on your mood, you could say any of these (with a great big smile):

"Well, I'm an innovator."

"Hubby and I are happy with it."

"You've mistaken me for someone who cares what you think."

"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you."

"Who died and made you the ring police?"

 

[jewelz617]

"I guess it''s a good thing I''m wearing them instead of you

"

 

[motownmama]

Actually, I think if she didn''t like your rings she wouldn''t have this level of interest. Have you humored her and put them on the way she likes? If not try that and say "it''s pretty, but I just prefer the way I wear them - thanks though."

 

[kas baby]

no one should have to defend why they wear a certain style of jewelry, but some people are so used to convention that anything else gets and "oh, wow, umm, yeah..." kind of response. I agree with many of the ladies here, and I would probably go with the ''I heard you the first time'' or go with some ridiculously mushy story about FI and go on and on about how every time I see my rings I think of it

maybe then shewon''t say anything for fear of hearing more mushy stories (I know this works with my friends, but yours may be different)

I have a colored wedding set, so it comes up every once in a while. Some one said in a different thread, pertaining to defending their colored gemstone e-ring "almost anyone can have a diamond- not everyone can have a world class colored gemstone"

Maybe you could say the same, but with three lovely rings instead of the colored gem bit.

just a thought

 

[Maisie]

I would say.. ''Oh watch out, here comes my face of concern..'' - then stare at her with a deadpan expression on your face.

 

[Sizzle]

maybe you should punch her once with your left hand! ha ha ha ha

 

[Laila619]

Date: 2/2/2010 1:20:22 PM
Author: kribbie
''He REALLY liked it, so he had to put THREE rings on it.''

LOL!

 

[chiquitapet]

Date: 2/2/2010 1:20:22 PM
Author: kribbie
''He REALLY liked it, so he had to put THREE rings on it.''

Love this one!

 

[acebruin]

"I heard you the first time around! Your opinion is noted. I don''t tell you how to dress now, do I?"

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 2/2/2010 1:20:22 PM
Author: kribbie
'He REALLY liked it, so he had to put THREE rings on it.'

Mama like, mama like

ETA: On the original scenario -- I would NEVER say anything to someone wearing two erings & a band on their left hand ring finger -- but it does bother my eye a bit. That's my own quirk though. No one else should have to "pay" for it!

Wear what you love how you love it. Life is SHORT!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/2/2010 1:28:03 PM
Author: Madam Bijoux
Depending on your mood, you could say any of these (with a great big smile):

''Well, I''m an innovator.''

''Hubby and I are happy with it.''

''You''ve mistaken me for someone who cares what you think.''

''When I want your opinion, I''ll beat it out of you.''

''Who died and made you the ring police?''

MB you arer always full of zingers!

 

[waterlilly]

Date: 2/2/2010 4:01:09 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 2/2/2010 1:20:22 PM

Author: kribbie

'He REALLY liked it, so he had to put THREE rings on it.'

Yup, I like that one too.

Of course, this is the "show me the ring" forum - so you must now post pics

. Only takes a second to do...

 

[butterfly 17]

If this was me, I would just say, "Whatever. Why does it bother you so much anyway?" And if she tells you it doesn''t, then I would say, "then why do you mention it all the time?"

If something really bothers me, which I take it this does since you started a thread on it, I would just address it directly and straight to the point. If you do that, I am positive she won''t mention it again.

 

[princesss]

"This is my ''I-don''t-give-a-s***'' face."

Bonus points if you point to your face with your left hand.

 

[laurenfischer5]

Date: 2/2/2010 1:28:03 PM
Author: Madam Bijoux
Depending on your mood, you could say any of these (with a great big smile):

''Well, I''m an innovator.''

''Hubby and I are happy with it.''

''You''ve mistaken me for someone who cares what you think.''

''When I want your opinion, I''ll beat it out of you.''

''Who died and made you the ring police?''

I like this one

 

[Diamond*Dana]

If you like the way you are wearing the rings then that is all that matters. Who really cares what anyone else thinks?

 

[Jemphrey]

thanks everyone for your fab and hilarious suggestions.
I feel more confident about what to say now and I love to wear my rings my way.

I took photos last night so watch this space.....