Wedding Superstitious?

[chicagolawyer]

Hi ladies,

I am kind of down this morning. I posted a few weeks earlier that the ceiling of our church is falling in, and that resultantly we had to move from a 2:30pm to 6:30pm reception because we could not find any other close church with availability.

Yesterday the center stone fell out of my ring. (See post on Rocky Talky).

Also, my dress is three months late and the shop is giving me the run around on when it will come it. I''m sure it will be here before the wedding, but June and July are horrible months for me at work, and I wanted to get the fittings mostly done by then. Now this will not happen.

I am not superstitious at all, but kind of feel like nothing is going right and is this a bad sign.

We just moved in together two weeks ago, having never lived with anyone else before. We are having a bit of an adjustment period. Moving itself was very strenous (we did it ourselves), plus we helped move my two sisters during the last two weeks as well. Plus we have spent the last two weeks buying furniture, putting things together, finding and fixing little things wrong with our new apartment. Definitely not bliss yet. We haven''t had time to relax and breathe together in ages. So I guess my two questions are:

1) Do you think its a bad sign when big things go wrong?
2) Is there any adjustment period when you move in together?

 

[AllieLuv83]

Honey, do not start freaking out. I am supersticious but when I start reading into things they seem much more grim. I guess I am supersticious about things that I do (ie. not going back into the house if I forgot something, not opening umbrellas in the house and spitting three times/knocking on wood three times when someone says something like "I hope they don''t have an accident") I really would not worry about it you have just had a small stroke of bad happenings but it happends to everyone, they say things come in threes and I am sure everything will turn around!

 

[chicagolawyer]

Thanks Allie, I hope you are right. And things do come in threes so hopefully the stone was the last straw...

 

[havernell]

Mishaps like this happen to everyone during wedding planning. My parent''s wedding invitations were ruined when the delivery truck carrying them got into an accident. The florist my cousin booked burned down three days before her wedding. Both couples are still married. I''m sure others on PS could give you a host of similar stories of things going wrong pre-wedding. If things like this were bad signs, practically no one would be married! So don''t let crazy thoughts of superstition into your head! You know in your heart (at least I hope you do!) that you and your FI are perfect for each other, so that''s all that matters.

As for the adjustment period after moving in together, YES there is totally an adjustment. Whenever two different people with different habits, different standards of cleanliness/dirtiness, different pet peeves, and different ways of conducting normal, everyday life try to combine their lives into one, there is going to be some getting used to it. So don''t fret and just keep the lines of communication between the two of you wide open. You''ll get through it I promise! good luck!!

 

[AllieLuv83]

First moving in with P was tough, the underwear on the bathroom counter that got piled up during the week, the shoes and socks being left everywhere, the inability to place the laundry in the hamper and instead being left on the lid of the hamper. They were all things that I needed to get used to. When all your furniture is put together, the urtains are hung and the cable installed you will sit with him and take a breath and realize that you are living with the man you will spend the rest of your life with and nothing beats that!

 

[Amandine]

Absolutely there is an adjustment period to moving in! FI actually had lived together with a third person perviously, so I thought when we got our own place that there wouldn''t be any more adjustments...boy, was I wrong! There was a lot more to adjust to when it was just the two of us then when there was a third person. Give yourself some time, learn that compromises are okay, and you will be fine.