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imagardener2

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OK here's a dumb question. I love rainbows and photograph them a lot. I like the look of a rainbow ring but I'm not gay. Is wearing a rainbow ring a signal like the rainbow flag?

I wear a gold band (married) but don't have an e-ring (yet) and no immediate plans for one.
Hope I'm not offending anyone but the thought popped up in my head and you all are the experts.
 
If I saw a guy wearing a rainbow ring, yes I would think he was gay.
 
...but if I was a married man, I would not let that prevent me from buying and wearing one if thats what I wanted. People should wear what they like regardless of what others think.

ETA: if you are a woman (sorry shouldnt have assumed you were a guy, as I do not know) I dont think I would assume you were gay, as I think any woman can wear the rainbow colors...but thats just me.

ETA: Edited again just for a typo that made my sentence hard to understand, sorry. lol
 
I'm not sure why it would matter either way. If you love rainbows, you love them. I like them too and have quite a few rainbow items myself. Am I gay? I don't think anyone cares. I'm a woman though, and married.
 
Great topic, this whole "gay signal" vs. something that's naturally beautiful thing.

In spite of being gay I also happen to love rainbows. Who wouldn't; they are beautiful.
Personally I do not have a rainbow flag on our house or on my car as some signal.
I dont' care to have our house egged or my car keyed, thank you very much.

Aside from discussion fora or conversations with friends and neighbors where the subject comes up I don't "advertise" being gay.
Even then I don't shove it in anyone's face or scream it out.

Just like a straight man may mention that his wife and he saw movie Y last night I'd mention, "My partner and I" . . . I don't hide it.
I don't go to gay parades or have "gay" pride.
I think gay pride is as silly as gay shame.
Orientation is as meaningless as hair color.
Imagine a parade and festival celebrating red hair pride. :lol:

Others do see high visibility, via rainbow doodads, as an important act since (unlike race) we are invisible and since many people think they don't know anyone gay, it's easier for them to vote anti-equality legislation.
Knowing gay people and seeing they don't foam at the mouth and rape your children can be eye opening for some.
We are as boring and unremarkable as you are.

If you wear a rainbow ring in a city like San Francisco it may be seen as a "signal".
But even then it's not like someone of your gender is going to jump you and be surprised you don't want to have sex with them.
Believe me, someone does not need to wear a rainbow to be recognized as gay.
The nature of eye contact is 1000 times more revealing than a rainbow tattoo on a forehead.

Should you avoid getting a rainbow ring because you are not gay?
I'd not worry bout it and just ignore the whole gay signal stuff.
If you'd like a ring with a rainbow of stones then get one.

If someone thinks you are gay, so what? ... since there's nothing wrong with being gay.
Is there?
It doesn't bother me that people often mistake me for a straight person.
 
What is a rainbow ring?
 
JewelFreak|1349630193|3281007 said:
What is a rainbow ring?
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A ring with several colored stones arranged the way the colors are in a natural rainbow in the sky.

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Kenny, you explained that so much better than I did...lol.

That being said, c'mon. Your first thought would be 'he's gay' if you saw a guy wearing a rainbow ring...and I don't mean in SF. You would...I know you would.

A woman, not so much. Again, it DOESNT MATTER...which is the main point of my somewhat botched explanaition.

I would not participate in "gay pride" or "black pride" or "Irish Pride"...etc, but, I can see why others in the various "minority'" groups would, simply because it is a way for the groups to get together and celebrate something unique they have in common. I think it helps spread the word that anyone you know may be "gay, irish, or black" and that they are normal people. Does this make any sense, Kenny? The various pride activities spread awareness....in a positive way.
 
Yes, I do "get" the importance of such events.
They are great and serve a purpose for those just coming out.
But they are groovy only in reaction to the hatred and prejudice of the past. (As if that was all over and we were equal now . . . NOT yet!)
They are wonderful celebrations for those who previously lived in fear in a closet.
In a few generations I think all this will serve no purpose since gay will no longer be seen as bad.

And yes, a rainbow on a flag, bumper sticker or a ring is seen by many to be a "signal" of being gay.
I also do know straight people who intentionally display them as a symbol of support, and I guess a few who live in a cave have worn them because they are pretty and they actually are unaware of the association.

I expect in the year 2500 gay people will just blend in and nobody will care.
There will be no need for a group identity, signals or pride stuff.
Being gay won't matter to anyone, except their partners.
 
Kenny...we can only hope. Too bad we won't be around in 2500..can we aim for 2020 maybe? :D

ETA: OP, I am sorry that Kenny and I thread-jacked :twirl:
 
ChrisA222|1349634389|3281046 said:
Kenny...we can only hope.
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. . . and vote, and write checks. ;)
 
Google "chakra rainbow jewelry".

I love the rainbow rings, etc.

Wear what you want and to heck with what people think.
 
I'm leaning toward getting it. I should have said more clearly that I'm more concerned about annoying someone who is gay by wearing it. Meaning that they thought I was and annoyed to find out I'm not, like I was a "poseur". You know, like a guy wearing a school tie and he didn't go to that school.
 
imagardener2|1349635808|3281065 said:
I'm leaning toward getting it. I should have said more clearly that I'm more concerned about annoying someone who is gay by wearing it. Meaning that they thought I was and annoyed to find out I'm not, like I was a "poseur". You know, like a guy wearing a school tie and he didn't go to that school.
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Like txgreeneyes said, "to heck with what people think."

They may also think you are showing support.
We can't read people's minds, but we can drive ourselves batty trying to, and living restricted lives that accommodate our imaginations.

Meaning is not universal and 'out there'; it's in our heads.
Problem is, we all have different heads.

You know what's in your heart.
If you like it, get it.
 
Guess I shoulda known! I've always liked those rings a lot, didn't know that's what they were called. Anyway, I agree with Kenny -- if you like it, wear it.

You can't know & are not responsible for what anybody else is thinking. If it makes you smile when you see it on your hand, that's what counts.
 
imagardener2|1349635808|3281065 said:
I'm leaning toward getting it. I should have said more clearly that I'm more concerned about annoying someone who is gay by wearing it. Meaning that they thought I was and annoyed to find out I'm not, like I was a "poseur". You know, like a guy wearing a school tie and he didn't go to that school.
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I can understand what you're thinking. I went to Mexico and bought a pretty necklace with a cross. Got home and wanted to hang it from my windshield mirror. My Mom told me that it was a rosary and that I may offend someone because I was not Catholic. I had no idea that it was a rosary.

So I put it in my jewelry drawer and have had it there ever since.
 
I have gay friends and (some) family. I live in the Bay Area, where Gay Pride is a big deal. Like Kenny, my friends and family are pretty low key and don't feel a need to make their gay-ness their biggest modifier, instead it could be their political leaning, the fact that they are an artist, their occupation, or whether they're parents.

I think of a certain type of rainbow, shape and all as identified on the Gay Pride Flag, as the Gay identifier. Frankly, it would never cross my mind that they were gay if they wore a rainbow ring. In all seriousness, the first thing that would come to mind, however, would be "Beryllium treatment." :o
 
Oh, and this goes for both women and men.
 
minousbijoux|1349650262|3281189 said:
Oh, and this goes for both women and men.
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They treat men with beryllium too? :o ;(


:mrgreen:
 
In my opinion, people these days are too afraid to be who they are, wear what they want and do what they want because they're too busy worrying about possibly offending someone or too worried about what people may think. Who cares what people think? Really, who cares?! Be yourself- enjoy what you enjoy. Life is too short.
 
kenny|1349651112|3281198 said:
minousbijoux|1349650262|3281189 said:
Oh, and this goes for both women and men.
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They treat men with beryllium too? :o ;(


:mrgreen:
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Just Gay men ;))
 
minousbijoux|1349651376|3281203 said:
kenny|1349651112|3281198 said:
minousbijoux|1349650262|3281189 said:
Oh, and this goes for both women and men.
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They treat men with beryllium too? :o ;(


:mrgreen:
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Just Gay men ;))
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Is it like botox?
Will it make me more cute?
 
Growing up in the Castro distict in S.F. I attended many gay pride events as a child. I even remember the candle light vigil the night Harvey Milk was shot. I love that the community shows it's pride and that there are rainbow flags everywhere.

But yes if I saw a guy with a rainbow ring and I didn't know much about him I'd probably assume he was gay, but I also agree that if someone enjoys rainbows they should wear them no matter.
 
minousbijoux|1349650194|3281188 said:
I have gay friends and (some) family. I live in the Bay Area, where Gay Pride is a big deal. Like Kenny, my friends and family are pretty low key and don't feel a need to make their gay-ness their biggest modifier, instead it could be their political leaning, the fact that they are an artist, their occupation, or whether they're parents.

I think of a certain type of rainbow, shape and all as identified on the Gay Pride Flag, as the Gay identifier. Frankly, it would never cross my mind that they were gay if they wore a rainbow ring. In all seriousness, the first thing that would come to mind, however, would be "Beryllium treatment." :o
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Hee hee, a true PSer!
 
kenny|1349651419|3281205 said:
Is it like botox?
Will it make me more cute?
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Kenny, I haven't even seen you and yet I know it is simply not possible for you to be any cuter than you already are... =)
 
If you like it, why not?

The very worse thing that could happen is that you may have to polite turn down a few men who misunderstand it and that a few women may judge you prematurely. On the other hand, it may also help you identify cool people who are more interested in why you like a colorful ring.
 
I believe strongly in wearing what pleases you personally as long as it isn't offensive. I do not see the connotation of any rainbow jewellery as being gay. It's just a natural graduation of pretty colours, that's all. Perhaps some might, but that's none of their business. Enjoy it for what it is before the pretty natural phenomena of light breaking up into prismatic colours came to stand for more than that. Perhaps my way of thinking is naive. ::)
 
My vote is the fancy colored diamonds - that would be beautiful! Who cares if its missing red?!!
 
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