PS is making me want more money so I can afford...

[sushi]

I have been thinking. I have never been the type of person that wants to be rich. Ive always been happy with what I have, and never really had an aching desire to be able to afford crazy luxuries, up until now. After oogling PS, I now painfully yearn to own some of the incredible treasures showcased here.

Ive always believed that I shouldn't "wish" for money or riches, as it is incredibly selfish and shallow. I believe that you can get what you wish for, and if you get things there might be consequences, hence my belief that you should be happy with what you have, and be satisfied with life, but what has PS done to me? I spend day after day with my eyes glued to the screen like a moth to a lamp. Ive caught the bug, and im a convert to the bright sparkling side, and there is no turning back!

Now I would have to have about a gazillion dollars in the bank to fuel my imaginary jewellery box. Of course now I need an imaginary lear jet and an imaginary Mastiff dog with an imaginary diamond collar too... Oh and an apartment in the Upper East Side. Did I mention a Chauffeur and limousine?

Ive said goodbye now to the hippy clothes, yoga practising, friendship bracelet wearing little girl and im not quite sure what the PS created person Im saying hello to is, but HELLO!

So here goes, im asking the universe, (You've all read The Secret right?)... I want to be stinking rich so I can afford all the jewellery I want, with no bad karma attached. Phew, All said now. Oh and make it quick....

So PS'ers... say it loud, what do you want?! Dont be shy...

xoxo

Phew I feel better now, even though I probably just killed a few fairies with that statement!

 

[tyty333]

I want more jewels too . The sad thing is that even if I did have a ton of extra money to buy them with, I have no
where to wear them. So...bottom line is why bother? I'll just keep oggling all the pretty ones on PS .

I do have a small wish list that I guess I can be working on but I'm in no big hurry (gee, is it Valentines day???).

 

[Ravinmad]

There is both great age and station in life variances in individuals on PS. Its a community and with that you have all crosses of life along with young to retired. Depending on where you are at, you can aim or project your situation. I love PS because it allows me to buy better, high quality and larger size diamonds then if I were just a sheep and went to the typical mall B&M so you can always look at it that way, and with trade in policies, you can get what you can afford now, trade up the next year or say in 4-5 years, and continue on. This is a common practice in the USA for homes. Starter home, bigger, bigger, and finally the end game home some 10+ years after getting into the game. Its with this I hope to work it on the jewelery.

My .02 cents,

Ravin

 

[Black Jade]

It's true I want things more when I'm actively looking at Pricescope (so I do take breaks from looking when it gets unreasonable).

I don't know that I think wanting things is a sin, or anything like that. I'm older now (going to be 55 this year) andhave done a lot of doing without in my life becuase of kids and their education and house buying and so on, so I do feel now is my time to get little luxuries and ENJOY and that there shouldn't be guilt in that. But there's a balance. I know there are some things I will never afford, so I don't spend a lot of time in the celebrity jewelry thread, or in the 2-3 carat and above ring threads--it's just not going to happen. When I see something really desirable, I google around and look at the prices for similar things, and if it costs as much as a new car, I just forget it. But other things are affordable with a little sacrificing. I am looking a lot in the colored stones thread right now, becuase many of those are in my budget, if my plan. I am hoping to get a sapphire, and many are in a reasonable range.

I also don't focus too much on getting things brand new, or from a Pricescope vendor, necessarily. There are things I can have, but I can't have them NEW. Many of the things the recognized vendors have are absolutely beautiful, but outside of getting engaged all over again, or a once in a lifetime anniversary, they are not going to happen. But other SIMILAR things might. I think of ways to cut costs.

Last but not least I make sure to take out what I already have once in a while and think how lucky I am. I rotate jewelry, and find that when I put away my larger diamonds (larger is never large by Pricescope standards) for a bit, when I take them out they look HUGE. I notice what everyone else around me is wearing, in real life. Being on Pricescope a lot, you not only think that EVERYBODY has 3 carat diamond rings but owing to how large jewelry looks on the monitor, you think a three carat ring is much larger than it actually is. I also remember that good photography makes things look more beautiful. Some of the TDF jewelry is just well photographed. Mine is actually just as beautiful.
Those are my little tricks. If nothing else works, I remind myself out loud, It's just shiny rocks and go and make a gratitude list of all the things I enjoy, such as good health, a great husband etc and how many people in the world don't have a decent house, car,etc. (which I do).
And agin, if that doesn't work, I make myself stay away from Pricescope for a month--or four or five months. It's not that hard after the first 24 hours.

 

[Amys Bling]

Oh the curse of PS- wanting more!

 

[partgypsy]

The only thing I regret is not buying some things before the prices got really high, like some nice gold or platinum jewelry, and a really sweet demantoid and blue sapphire.
Now I have sticker shock at seeing the stuff I want, and pass. Even though I'm not jewish, I have alot of guilt on purchasing things now that they have gone beyond a psychological "limit". Iike, I could spent $500 on myself, but not more than that. But the stuff I want costs more than $500 so I just don't get anything. I'm cool with it.

And yes, taking breaks from online "shopping", or thinking about all the things you DO have in your life compared to most helps with the lust factor.

 

[decodelighted]

I think TRAVEL has a similar effect on me. The minute I get home from a trip I'm dreaming about my next trip. I'm dying to make more and more & more $$ so we can afford more and more and more trips. I want my whole life to be fantasy vacation time! Gah! And then, gradually, I come back to reality & realize that you can't really appreciate things unless they are the EXCEPTION not the RULE. Vacations are great BECAUSE they are different than every day. They are special & worthy of looking forward to & working towards.

 

[madelise]

you can't really appreciate things unless they are the EXCEPTION not the RULE. Vacations are great BECAUSE they are different than every day. They are special & worthy of looking forward to & working towards.

I've caught the disease as mostly a lurker, too. All my free time of browsing the pretties, and "studying" the threads.. instead of studying for my midterms this week!

I know what you mean though. A girl can dream, right? And with each new pretty bauble we collect along the ways of our lifetime is just tasting that rainbow. And my, that taste is succulent.. I think if we had our whole rainbow, we would never be getting to enjoy them all enough.. I just want enough to have a small wardrobe going on, and still be able to have a bit of variety. I'd never want so many that some just sit and collect dust in a jewelry box.

 

[decodelighted]

Being on Pricescope a lot, you not only think that EVERYBODY has 3 carat diamond rings but owing to how large jewelry looks on the monitor, you think a three carat ring is much larger than it actually is.

And in real life I rarely run into 22 year olds who think that a 3 carat ring is barely passable for her high powered career as a day care worker.

 

[missy]

The only thing I regret is not buying some things before the prices got really high, like some nice gold or platinum jewelry, and a really sweet demantoid and blue sapphire.
Now I have sticker shock at seeing the stuff I want, and pass.Even though I'm not jewish, I have alot of guilt on purchasing things now that they have gone beyond a psychological "limit". Iike, I could spent $500 on myself, but not more than that. But the stuff I want costs more than $500 so I just don't get anything. I'm cool with it.

And yes, taking breaks from online "shopping", or thinking about all the things you DO have in your life compared to most helps with the lust factor.

Excuse me part gypsy, could you please elaborate on this?

 

[motherof3inct]

A few weeks back, someone commented to my 11 yr old that our christmas tree was still up and it was almost February. He simply replied, "My mom is too busy on her diamond forum to take it down". I must admit that I am a bit pricescope obsessed. After my current purchase is completed, I need to take a break from PS. Reading the forum makes me want to buy things......for some reason I have been thinking about tennis bracelets when I never wanted one before.

 

[farmer gal]

The only thing I regret is not buying some things before the prices got really high, like some nice gold or platinum jewelry, and a really sweet demantoid and blue sapphire.
Now I have sticker shock at seeing the stuff I want, and pass.Even though I'm not jewish, I have alot of guilt on purchasing things now that they have gone beyond a psychological "limit". Iike, I could spent $500 on myself, but not more than that. But the stuff I want costs more than $500 so I just don't get anything. I'm cool with it.

And yes, taking breaks from online "shopping", or thinking about all the things you DO have in your life compared to most helps with the lust factor.

Excuse me part gypsy, could you please elaborate on this?

Yes, kind of an odd comment

 

[Enerchi]

Being on Pricescope a lot, you not only think that EVERYBODY has 3 carat diamond rings but owing to how large jewelry looks on the monitor, you think a three carat ring is much larger than it actually is.

And in real life I rarely run into 22 year olds who think that a 3 carat ring is barely passable for her high powered career as a day care worker.

 

[Circe]

I have been thinking. I have never been the type of person that wants to be rich. Ive always been happy with what I have, and never really had an aching desire to be able to afford crazy luxuries, up until now. After oogling PS, I now painfully yearn to own some of the incredible treasures showcased here.

Ive always believed that I shouldn't "wish" for money or riches, as it is incredibly selfish and shallow. I believe that you can get what you wish for, and if you get things there might be consequences, hence my belief that you should be happy with what you have, and be satisfied with life,but what has PS done to me? I spend day after day with my eyes glued to the screen like a moth to a lamp. Ive caught the bug, and im a convert to the bright sparkling side, and there is no turning back!

Now I would have to have about a gazillion dollars in the bank to fuel my imaginary jewellery box. Of course now I need an imaginary lear jet and an imaginary Mastiff dog with an imaginary diamond collar too... Oh and an apartment in the Upper East Side. Did I mention a Chauffeur and limousine?

Ive said goodbye now to the hippy clothes, yoga practising, friendship bracelet wearing little girl and im not quite sure what the PS created person Im saying hello to is, but HELLO!

So here goes, im asking the universe, (You've all read The Secret right?)... I want to be stinking rich so I can afford all the jewellery I want, with no bad karma attached. Phew, All said now. Oh and make it quick....

So PS'ers... say it loud, what do you want?! Dont be shy...

xoxo

Phew I feel better now, even though I probably just killed a few fairies with that statement!

If wishes were horses, as the saying goes. Wishing never hurt anybody. What on earth is shallow/selfish about having a fantasy life? It seems a lot more innocent than most leisure activities I can think of. And working for what you want? Also not a bad thing, so long as you adhere to your morals along the way. Never did understand the peculiar Puritanism of self-denial in reality, much less in imagination - I mean, in my imagination, I have an island where I get to run a fairy tale university, while wearing a tiara and waving a scepter with a diamond star on the end. Nothin' wrong with that .....

So, first, check out Barbara Ehrenreich's Brightsided:, which contains a really interesting discussion of The Secret, and second ... ditto to Black Jade! You can get a lot of what you want if you just come at it sideways. I've been doing so since I found PS 5 years ago - almost exactly 5 years ago! - and I actually feel almost ... sated. The only thing left on my "real" wishlist is a Cartier Roadster. The rest of the fantasy stuff - the 3 carat OEC earrings and the enormous cushion pendant and the like? Well, for that, I'm happy to wait and see if the universe provides.

 

[canuk-gal]

I think TRAVEL has a similar effect on me. The minute I get home from a trip I'm dreaming about my next trip. I'm dying to make more and more & more $$ so we can afford more and more and more trips. I want my whole life to be fantasy vacation time! Gah! And then, gradually, I come back to reality & realize that you can't really appreciate things unless they are the EXCEPTION not the RULE. Vacations are great BECAUSE they are different than every day. They are special & worthy of looking forward to & working towards.

Yes, this. Travel. I want work to stop calling me to work--b/c it interferes with my travel time! It is a cycle tho--b/c work certainly funds my travel!

cheers--Sharon

 

[partgypsy]

Sorry an inside joke. One of my best friends is Jewish. She makes self-depreceating comments about her own guilt about stuff and if I say something similar she would say something like like you're not Jewish, your'e not supposed to feel guilty. I apologize for any unintended offense

 

[missy]

Sorry an inside joke. One of my best friends is Jewish. She makes self-depreceating comments about her own guilt about stuff and if I say something similar she would say something like like you're not Jewish, your'e not supposed to feel guilty. I apologize for any unintended offense

Thanks for the explanation. I knew it had to be something like that. I always tell my dh that I can make Jewish jokes but he cannot as he is not Jewish. There was a Seinfeld episode I think about Jerry's dentist converting to Judaism just so he could have the privilege of making Jewish jokes.

 

[janetjoan64]

That is too funny! I can totally relate and...... I just purchased a 5 ct tennis bracelet. I am DONE for at least a year. I am happy with my 2 big recent purchases but also happy not have to be so focused on diamonds!! My 11 year old boy cant understand what I am doing on a diamond forum when I 'already bought my diamond'. because I am diamond obssessed son! Its fun to peruse the forum and enjoy other peoples acquisitions and admire them without spending money.

 

[Enerchi]

well--- EVERYTHING!!!

...but, it also reminds me that as wonderful as all these items are (and oh boy, ARE THEY EVER!) I think financial security for the future is still my #1 priority. We are all creatures who enjoy the niceties in life, but if I made more money, I'd be putting more into an RSP or TFSA or pension, so that my retirement years would remain comfortable to allow me to enjoy some of what I enjoy now.

Yeah, easy to say because I am NOT topping up my savings and I did purchase some lovely bling in 2011, but that would be what I'd like to aim for - future security.

 

[Christina...]

I think that it's more of a personality characteristinc that as PS thing. Some people want what they have and others want what they don't have.

Once upon a time my bestie got a new Coach, so I wanted a new Coach, my brother got a new SUV, and I wanted a new SUV, my parents built a cottage on the lake and guess what....I wanted a cottage on the lake too. Then one day as I was talking to my grandfather and talking about the newest whatever it was I wanted, he said to me....'Will it fill your belly this time?' And I decided at that moment to get super honest with myself, and simplify my life. I decided to want what I have and to be happy for and enjoy the things that my friends and family had. I took a great road trip with my brother in that huge SUV, and I have the most incredible memories of spending vacations and weekends at my parents cottage. I'm lucky and blessed to have had that oppurtuity. Now 'will it fill your belly?' is tossed around my house often and it helps put things into perspective. Oh, I'm still working on an upgrade and I still like nice things, but I don't expect them to fill me with happiness the way my frineds and family can. So, yeah, I love to drool over everyones bling and it makes me happy that they share it with us, but I don't begin to think that their jewelry box is indicative of their lives or how they live it.

 

[Enerchi]

I think that it's more of a personality characteristinc that as PS thing. Some people want what they have and others want what they don't have.

Once upon a time my bestie got a new Coach, so I wanted a new Coach, my brother got a new SUV, and I wanted a new SUV, my parents built a cottage on the lake and guess what....I wanted a cottage on the lake too. Then one day as I was talking to my grandfather and talking about the newest whatever it was I wanted, he said to me....'Will it fill your belly this time?' And I decided at that moment to get super honest with myself, and simplify my life. I decided to want and to be happy for and enjoy the things that my friends and family had. I took a great road trip with my brother in that huge SUV, and I have the most incredible memories of spending vacations and weekends at my parents cottage. I'm lucky and blessed to have had that oppurtuity. Now 'will it fill your belly?' is tossed around my house often and it helps put things into perspective. Oh, I'm still working on an upgrade and I still like nice things, but I don't expect them to fill me with happiness the way my frineds and family can. So, yeah, I love to drool over everyones bling and it makes me happy that they share it with us, but I don't begin to think that their jewelry box is indicative of their lives or how they live it.

What a nice story Christina!

 

[Dancing Fire]

very normal...i'm still waiting for my 2.5ct diamond...

 

[nhwhazup]

I've really been very happy with my diamond that my husband bought me on our 25th anniversary which was 12 years ago. At that time he told me that he wanted me to have a bigger diamond and I told him that I didn't want to spend the money on jewelry but would rather spend the money on something for the house or the family. He told that wasn't an issue - the choice was for a new diamond or not, period. So with only that option of course I took him up on the new diamond. We purchased this diamond with really little knowledge and at the mercy of the jeweler. Thankfully the diamond had great specs and shows an excellent cut on the HCA. It is more on the shallow side but no so shallow as to lose the show and sparkle and due to being a BIC it looks much larger with a nice spread. Since then I've had it reset from the simple 6 prong to a swirl type design and then more recently to a bezel with matching band. I really haven't longed for a larger diamond at all but did want the bezel setting. Now that I have exactly the setting I wanted, I am totally happy. The set is perfectly proportioned and just right for my finger size.

There's nothing wrong with wanting for more as long as it doesn't keep leading to never being happy with what you have.

 

[Ravinmad]

'It's not the destination in life, it's the journey that matters" a quote orginally by Steven Tyler, formally of Aerosmith

 

[mimi72]

I think that it's more of a personality characteristinc that as PS thing. Some people want what they have and others want what they don't have.

Once upon a time my bestie got a new Coach, so I wanted a new Coach, my brother got a new SUV, and I wanted a new SUV, my parents built a cottage on the lake and guess what....I wanted a cottage on the lake too. Then one day as I was talking to my grandfather and talking about the newest whatever it was I wanted, he said to me....'Will it fill your belly this time?' And I decided at that moment to get super honest with myself, and simplify my life. I decided to want what I have and to be happy for and enjoy the things that my friends and family had. I took a great road trip with my brother in that huge SUV, and I have the most incredible memories of spending vacations and weekends at my parents cottage. I'm lucky and blessed to have had that oppurtuity. Now 'will it fill your belly?' is tossed around my house often and it helps put things into perspective. Oh, I'm still working on an upgrade and I still like nice things, but I don't expect them to fill me with happiness the way my frineds and family can. So, yeah, I love to drool over everyones bling and it makes me happy that they share it with us, but I don't begin to think that their jewelry box is indicative of their lives or how they live it.

Love this. One thing I've found myself thinking is...as I recently told my sister when she was coveting something pricey...it is a measure of maturity (maybe more spiritual maturity than age-based maturity) to be able to appreciate something beautiful without having to own one. It takes strength and probably an ability to put the ego in it's place. Am I in the middle of designing an upgrade? Yes. But I'm trying to slow my need for more jewelry/stuff down after that. Trying to appreciate what others have, and admire the awesome pieces I see on this site, without having to obsess about how to get one for myself. Not easy!

 

[coda72]

I haven't made any jewelry purchases in over a year, and I think I'm pretty much done with jewelry purchases for a while. I realized I have quite a bit of beautiful jewelry, and I'm also looking at a lifestyle change in the next few years where I won't be wearing as much jewelry, so I may never be making major jewelry purchases again. Stepping away from PS helps too; I took about a six month break, and it was good for me. I noticed yesterday I started looking at SMTB, and I started wanting stuff again, so I will be avoiding that board. I still receive compliments on my jewelry all the time. Most people IRL do not see (or obviously have) the high quality jewelry that we purchase here, and it makes quite an impression on them. I guess I'm also to the point where I appreciate what I have without wanting bigger or more.

 

[sushi]

Hello All,

Oh My, I didnt have a chance to go online yesterday, so im really interested to see all these comments... So sosrry i have to dash to a meeting, but ill post a reply later, but this is actually very interesting...

S