by CNOS128 » Mar 13, 2008 Has anyone out there done this? Or thought about it? I think about it all the time, but (a) I don''t think BF would take me seriously and (b) he said if I propose then I don''t get an engagement ring. I don''t want to be shallow or anything, but c''mon -- no ring?! If I did ask and I managed to convince him I was serious, I know he''d say yes; but I''m pretty sure he''d also feel cheated out of being able to create a big romantic surprise for me as he''s planning to do (someday, eventually). Still, it''d be nice to feel like I was more in control of the timeline. Of course, I''m one of those people for whom it''s healthy to relinquish some control once in awhile . . . Anyway, I think if I were to propose I''d whisk him away to a romantic B&B for a weekend, take him for a walk, and give him a diamondless ring. Or, I might forget about the ring and give him something like tickets to a basketball game, which he''d treasure so much more. Would you propose to your guy? Would not getting an engagement ring bother you like it would bother me? Would you get him a ring? Would you want it to be a surprise? How would you ask?