Promise ring question!

[ParkDaddy]

Ok, i plan on buying a promise ring for my gf for our 1 year anni. which is this upcoming sunday! Her dad is out of town and wont be in until after the date i plan to give it to her on! Is it customary to ask the father, because he is kinda of protective.... Her mom thought it was a good idea. Help me out guys

 

[Regular Guy]

Date: 7/23/2007 1:11:22 PM
Author:ParkDaddy
Her mom thought it was a good idea. Help me out guys

Ipso facto

Good idea.

Be patient.

Not sure any tradition underlies this, but one likes to honor those parents who make their preferences known, probably.

Good luck!

 

[ParkDaddy]

her mom didn''t say anything about her father... I meant she thought it was a good idea to give her the ring..

Anyone else here that could help!!!

 

[chrono]

I''ve never heard of this for a promise ring.

 

[Stephanie]

Nor have I... I would think that unless an engagement is soon to follow do you need to even bring it up to the father. My father is uber-protective and he didn''t really care when I was given a promise ring.

 

[ParkDaddy]

ok then... I think ill go today and pick out the ring! i found a 10k gold 1/4ct. ring for 89.99.....it has two hearts connected together! Sound good???

 

[Regular Guy]

Sally sews buttons on the 9th floor. Think she has a tough needle?

Again...good luck. I gave a promise ring, and it was 20 years ago, or so. Seems like I gave 1/3 carat, and spent a bit more than you, and a bit less than this.

It's the thought that counts.

Regards,

 

[chrono]

Date: 7/23/2007 1:55:51 PM
Author: Regular Guy
Sally sews buttons on the 9th floor. Think she has a tough needle?

Again...good luck. I gave a promise ring, and it was 20 years ago, or so. Seems like I gave 1/3 carat, and spent a bit more than you, and a bit less than this.

It''s the thought that counts.

Regards,

Ira,
That''s one serious promise ring.

 

[Regular Guy]

Date: 7/23/2007 1:58:27 PM
Author: Chrono

Date: 7/23/2007 1:55:51 PM
Author: Regular Guy
Sally sews buttons on the 9th floor. Think she has a tough needle?

Again...good luck. I gave a promise ring, and it was 20 years ago, or so. Seems like I gave 1/3 carat, and spent a bit more than you, and a bit less than this.

It''s the thought that counts.

Regards,

Ira,
That''s one serious promise ring.

Hmmmm.....it was an interesting time. I remember telling her...you know...this was for the RIGHT hand...(I wanted my options). And at the same time...I was looking for some kind of set of protections, you know?

Then, when my neighbor down the hall told me that, when I was to offer an engagement ring, minimum a carat is what I should have in mind, I said...whoa...

There''s a serious cost differential, if not a size differential, between 1/3 and 1 carat.

But...this is about ParkDaddy.

Best wishes to you.

Exciting times!

 

[jayreneepea]

Nah, I don''t see any reason to ask the dad.

 

[somethingshiny]

My opinion (counts for little), you don''t have to go with a diamond. If you''re just making the promise, maybe use a stone that she loves, like a pink sapphire or even her birthstone. I wear my promise ring on my pinky, so the fact that it''s not a mini engagement ring makes it continually wearable. Or, if you''re on a budget, I''ve seen little cluster rings that are really cute. Also, if she wears silver, I don''t think there''s anything wrong with a sterling silver ring.

You should have some sort of a "speech" when you give her the ring. Don''t let her be confused to think it''s an engagement. Good Luck!

 

[In the rough]

I def. don''t think talking to the father is required UNLESS you want to do it...in that case you should. However, I think it would mean more to ask for the daughter''s hand in marriage as opposed to asking for the permission to one day ask for the hand in marriage...does that make sense?...anyway...Good luck...

Oh...and pics of the ring would help us to better give you opinions...

 

[jayreneepea]

Date: 7/23/2007 4:27:54 PM
Author: somethingshiny
My opinion (counts for little), you don''t have to go with a diamond. If you''re just making the promise, maybe use a stone that she loves, like a pink sapphire or even her birthstone. I wear my promise ring on my pinky, so the fact that it''s not a mini engagement ring makes it continually wearable. Or, if you''re on a budget, I''ve seen little cluster rings that are really cute. Also, if she wears silver, I don''t think there''s anything wrong with a sterling silver ring.

You should have some sort of a ''speech'' when you give her the ring. Don''t let her be confused to think it''s an engagement. Good Luck!

I think a gemstone ring is a wonderful idea!! Less engagementy.

 

[Kaleigh]

I have never heard of asking the father for his blessings in giving his daughter a promise ring. But if you want to, that is very thoughtful...