Wedding Original first-dance song... as CD favor? Opinions, please = )

[Tinuviel]

Hi everyone... need your feedback on something

My fiance and I don''t have a favorite song that we consider "our song" and he doesn''t really care what we choose as a first dance song, so I decided to write a song for him as a surprise.

Since our wedding has a fairy-tale theme, I tried to write the song in the style of a Disney song... here is a link to listen to it.. (it''s short-- less than 3 min long). I haven''t presented it to him yet b/c I wanted to first get it onto a CD and make a nice CD cover for it... I think it would be a fun way to further personalize our wedding by using it for our first dance song!

http://www.sorstudios.com/ada/

Meanwhile, a few ppl (like my mom and the studio engineers) have suggested that I make CD favors out of the song, but I''m not sure if guests would like it as a favor b/c while some of our friends would certainly "get" the lyrics, I''m sure some of the references/ inside jokes in the song would go over most ppl''s heads .... what do you think?
plus, do you think it would come across as egotistical? Like, hey, I wrote a song, and now I''m giving you all copies of my performance b/c I''m sure you liked it so much you want your own copy?

Any feedback would be much appreciated! Thanks!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Hmm, the only problem I can see is what you already kind of were getting at. I can see how it might not resonate with everyone the same way it would for you and your FI. For favors maybe you should concentrate on something more broad that would resonate with most people. Does that make sense?

 

[mimzy]

i think it would definitely be a very personalized favor! i really can't think of how you would get more personal than that actually.....

but i'm not sure about it as a favor in all honesty

. it seems like it would be a very very personal thing between the two of you, and i would actually feel a little intrusive as a guest taking that home with me and listening to it over and over. and yeah...a lot of it i 'just wouldn't get'.

that aside, while it is a really creative and pretty song, the chances that it is going to get a TON of playtime by the guests after the reception is probably pretty low (i feel mean just typing that!), so it might be a wasted effort. but then again, most favors arent all that useful to guests....so i guess why not? haha i don't know. i'm sticking with "might be too personal".

 

[lucy love]

love the idea of writing your own song. that''s so original in more ways than one!!

not sure about having it as a favor though. at the moment, i''m sure the guests will be excited to have a copy for their own... but like the others have said, it might just be played once and not very much after.

 

[ephemery1]

Hmmm... having received many CDs as wedding favors that contained popular "radio" songs, I can honestly say I''ve never played a single one of them after getting it back home. Often I just leave them on the table cause they don''t fit in my bag! So personally I''m not a fan of CD favors in general, and although your song is lovely and meaningful, I doubt it would be completely appreciated by all of your guests. If anybody really wants a copy for themselves, I''m sure they know they can ask you for it, and you can email them the mp3 afterwards.

I usually try to think about giving favors/gifts in terms of what I''D like to receive if I were a guest. I''ve been to 20+ weddings in the past few years, and probably only really appreciated the edible favors, because they were useful immediately! Mints especially. Or donations made in our honor... I always love that. My fav wedding favor ever was a Livestrong bracelet (back when the foundation was first formed) honoring the bride''s brother''s battle with cancer.

But votive candles? Never burned. CDs? Never listened to. Soap? Never used. Lip balm? Not as good as my own. Champagne glasses? Too hard to transport home. Plus anything personalized with somebody else''s names and wedding date doesn''t really make sense to display in OUR home, so things like that were almost always wasted. So maybe try and think about the wedding favor as practically as possible....

All that being said, congrats on your creativity! The song is sweet and sentimental and your FI will love it.

 

[sap483]

Ephemery said it really well. Most of the favors I have received have really gone to waste. If you want to give a favor, you are definitely better off going the edible or donation route. Your song is very pretty by the way. I''m sure your new husband is going to be blown away!

 

[sap483]

Ephemery said it really well. Most of the favors I have received have gone to waste. If you really want to give favors, which are not "required", you are definitely better off going the edible or donation route - although lately I've noticed that donations are a point of contention with some people because they don't see it as a favor. Your song is really cute. I'm sure your new husband is going to be blown away that you wrote that for him.

 

[Tinuviel]

Thanks so much for all the feedback!

Hey... what about if I made a CD using selected songs from our wedding reception that we know will appeal to different groups of ppl, so that it''s like a soundtrack of our wedding day? E.g. a lot of our crowd would definitely appreciate certain hits from the 70s and 80s that we''ll be playing for the dance floor... also we could put some funny, quirky songs such as "MySpace Girl" by The Afters (my FI and I met on MySpace.com). Or would it still be a useless favor?

Hee hee I don''t know why I''m still thinking about favors when I *already* have favors for the guests! (donation favor and also bookmarks) I guess cuz I personally love soundtracks (to movies, Broadway musicals, etc) so I like the idea of making a soundtrack for my wedding ..haha

 

[mimzy]

of course you could go ahead and do it, but like ephemery said, they will still likely go to waste.

whenever i received a cd favor, i generally liked one or two songs on it, and that was about it....not enough to actually put the cd in the cd player. plus, if a lot of the songs are popular from the 70s or 80s, it is likely that if they like it enough to listen to it on your cd, they probably already have it.

I had wanted to do a cd favor too, but i realized that only about 10 people in attendance would really appreciate a cd filled with the descendants and alkaline trio. not worth it, and not really considerate to the other 190 guests haha.

maybe you could do the cd, but include it as a gift for your wedding party? if anyone is going to want to remember your wedding fondly it will most likely be them.

 

[Tinuviel]

Good points! Thanks, Mimzy!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Maybe what you could do is make a handful of copies and put them out so that people who do want a copy of the song can take one OR make copies for your parents and his parents and other relatives who you both think would really cherish a copy of the song. On the inside of the CD cover you could print the lyrics and maybe do something cute like say "limited edition". You could add the first dance songs on there for the father/daughter mother/son dances as well.

I love the song by the way...very cute and I can''t wait to hear what your FI thinks!

 

[Tinuviel]

oooh, I like your ideas, Keeping the Faith 21! Hee hee, the "Limited edition" idea is cute!

Thanks!