by Elizabeth35 » May 19, 2019 I am struggling with this one. And I will admit upfront that I am older (61). I found out that a 'wedding' I attended was for a couple who was already legally married. But---it was a secret. They played off the wedding as them getting married, when it was actually just the celebration. So, do you think it is wrong or deceitful to invite people to a wedding when you are already married? And keep it a secret? It doesn't pass the sniff test for me. I was happy to go celebrate but I am not comfortable with the duplicity. Maybe I am too old fashioned? I get people doing a courthouse wedding for military deployment or health insurance reasons and doing a big wedding later. But is it right to keep it a secret?