- Dec 4, 2006
Many of you read months ago that I was pretty sure I genuinly hated my FMIL. We saw my in-laws the first weekend in January with his extended family for a late Hanukah. About a week later all hell broke loose and the FMIL said some aweful things to both me and the FI and we stopped speaking to her all together. My FI continued speaking to his Dad and we both spoke to his sister as they chose to stay out of it and not choose sides. We even went out to dinner for his sister''s BDAY on March 3rd. He didn''t want to go but I said our "beef" wasn''t with his sister but rather his mother so we should go to celebrate for her. Dinner wasn''t that aweful but some stuff came up about a week later (second week of March or so) she said some aweful things about him/us again, I got upset, and put up an "away message" which has the Dixie Chicks song Im Not Ready to Make Nice. CHILDISH, I KNOW, but I was upset and she seems to think I should kiss her feet. Well his sister (24y/o and how I met her brother as we were friends in HS) saw it, and instead of continuing to not choose sides she cut me off. She blew me off for lunch and cut off all contact without explanation. I mentioned it to my FI and he asked her about it, she replied about me not respecting her mother etc etc. He wrote her explaining out very NOT innocent their mother was and that if she couldn''t stay out of it or at least see both sides that it would be the end of the relationship between the two of them. This was 3/20/2007. She chose the latter option and now neither of us are speaking to any members of his immediate family. SO my question, we already have a hall booked,can we have a one family wedding? Has it been done? Does it work or is it awkward? The worst part is I genuinly love his extended family. His aunts and uncles, cousins etc, NTM his grandmother is pretty much AMAZING. Is it possible to have a wedding with THOSE loved ones of his? I am losing my mind, I NEVER wanted this type of a relationship with future in laws. I grew up hoping for a great relationship with a FMIL etc. So stressful. I CAN"T imagine having his mother who hates me and thinks I am SO aweful at my WEDDING as she will either be drunk and fake pretending she is so happy for us, or drunk and talking shit about me and my family (which BTW she actually did at my own brother''s bar mitzvah). Either way it will surely shit all over "OUR BIG DAY". Please tell me a wedding without his parents and satan in training of a sister, or there is another alternative.