Now we know why middle school girls don't eat...

[Sparklelu]

http://themetapicture.com/young-girls-develop-body-complexes/

 

[AGBF]

My daughter is now 21, so I am out of touch with what is going on in middle schools. My daughter is, still, anorectic, however. She is also addicted to Facebook and has tried to give it up. Last week, for example, she went for three or four days before caving in and re-activating her account. Having it is very bad for her on many, many levels.

She has been telling me, however, that many black and Hispanic men prefer women who are "thick" (not "fat"). Since my daughter's life work is to be attractive to men, she is always trying to figure out what men find most attractive. She asks me, for instance, "Do men find tattoos sexy?"; "Do men like women who swear?"; "Do men like women with body piercings?", and so forth. It doesn't matter that she has asked and I have answered 1,000 times. She is obsessive.

Since she is flat chested, she is convinced that all men want is a woman with large breasts. Now she has become a bit confused over the plastic surgery for women in the wealthy white suburbs like the one in which she grew up to have their buttocks reduced while Hispanic women (especially those in Medellin, Colombia) to have theirs enlarged through implants.

My daughter was born in Colombia and, although she doesn't appear particularly Hispanic, is attracted mainly to Hispanic men and a few Italians. She likes the muscle bound white T-shirt look complete with gold chains and crosses. I mainly notice that they are from Central America and shorter than I am. But if they are going to like "thick" women, more power to them! (My daughter is 5' 5" and under 110 pounds at the moment, so they don't like her for her "thickness"!)

Am I being too sanguine in hoping that perhaps a new trend is emerging and that black and Hispanic people will lead the way to healthier body images for all women?

Deb/AGBF

 

[LLJsmom]

My daughter is now 21, so I am out of touch with what is going on in middle schools. My daughter is, still, anorectic, however. She is also addicted to Facebook and has tried to give it up. Last week, for example, she went for three or four days before caving in and re-activating her account. Having it is very bad for her on many, many levels.

She has been telling me, however, that many black and Hispanic men prefer women who are "thick" (not "fat"). Since my daughter's life work is to be attractive to men, she is always trying to figure out what men find most attractive. She asks me, for instance, "Do men find tattoos sexy?"; "Do men like women who swear?"; "Do men like women with body piercings?", and so forth. It doesn't matter that she has asked and I have answered 1,000 times. She is obsessive.

Since she is flat chested, she is convinced that all men want is a woman with large breasts. Now she has become a bit confused over the plastic surgery for women in the wealthy white suburbs like the one in which she grew up to have their buttocks reduced while Hispanic women (especially those in Medellin, Colombia) to have theirs enlarged through implants.

My daughter was born in Colombia and, although she doesn't appear particularly Hispanic, is attracted mainly to Hispanic men and a few Italians. She likes the muscle bound white T-shirt look complete with gold chains and crosses. I mainly notice that they are from Central America and shorter than I am. But if they are going to like "thick" women, more power to them! (My daughter is 5' 5" and under 110 pounds at the moment, so they don't like her for her "thickness"!)

Am I being too sanguine in hoping that perhaps a new trend is emerging and that black and Hispanic people will lead the way to healthier body images for all women?

Deb/AGBF

HI Deb, I really feel for you. It must be hard to see your own daughter deal with these body issues. 5'5 and under 110? Yes, that seems thin to me. We all have issues and can be obsessive at times. But when it's your own daughter, it's especially tough. My daughter is 8 and has asked me if she is fat. I keep reassuring her that she isn't. I wonder what more we can do as mothers to help our daughters not fall into this trap. I probably have to be very careful about what I say about myself, at least more careful than I am now. And yes, these images are so BAD for us as women, and even worse for young girls that are just starting out in life.

I looked at the FB post and thought it was ridiculous. Even if its not Cosmo that labeled her, the fashion industry has. So sad and so wrong...