Need some opinions from LIWs...

[wedge]

Hi folks,

I know this board isn't meant for male-folk like me, but I thought it the best place to ask for some advice/opinions from ladies in the same situation as my girlfriend (a LIW, who's not on PS, as far as I know).

What's everyone's opinion on proposals on holidays? I believe my girlfriend thinks Valentine's Day proposals are a no-no... but I don't know how she would feel about the other holidays.

I wouldn't go for Christmas Eve or Christmas Day... but New Years Eve and New Years Day falling on Friday and Saturday seems like an opportune time. Should I just wait another week until the weekend of January 8th/9th? Or would that just be another week of torture for a LIW?

Thanks in advance!

 

[maebelle]

Depends on what you are doing for New Years and your girlfriends preferences. If you are staying in or hanging out with a small group of people, and she wants a private engagement, go for it! If she would love the attention of a whole group, and you are dressing up and going out, do it! The other thing to think about is if she'd care that a lot of people get engaged around this time, so she won't be the only one showing off a brand new ring.

I think new years eve is a really great time for a proposal! Just keep in mind the public/private thing.

Congratulations!

 

[wedge]

Thanks for the quick and thoughtful input, maebelle! Your post reminded me that I should have given more info, so y'all know what we're working with...

Definitely private proposal, and with at least some degree of surprise.

We don't have plans to party with others for New Year's... it'll probably be just the two of us out, like a regular weekend date.

Good thinking on other ladies' rings appearing this time of year. I think that among our friends and family, there's no other proposals imminent.

 

[chemgirl]

I think that Valentine's day has a certain cheese factor with all of the pink paper hearts and glitter everywhere. Maybe that's what puts her off about a Valentine's day proposal.

I know a few girls who were proposed to over the Christmas season and none of them complained about it one bit. For a particularly cute proposal one of my friends put the ring in a Christmas Tree ornament and proposed while they were decorating the tree. Christmas eve and day would probably be a bad idea if you're doing it with family and she likes privacy. It all really depends on your girlfriend and how she would react to a public proposal. Newyears also seems fine to me. I think a lot of people propose on Newyears eve/day though so make sure nobody else in your group is planning a proposal on the same night.

Really I think that most girls would be thrilled with a proposal from the right guy regardless of whether the day is a holiday or not (I share your girlfriend's opinion about Valentine's day proposals, but had my husband decided to propose on Valentine's day I'm sure I would have changed my opinion and loved it). Just try to make it a nice moment for the two of you and nothing else really matters.

 

[brittany0613]

I think this is a fun and exciting time of year, so it would be just one more great memory to add to an already special time. I'd say go for it!

 

[kittybean]

I think New Year's is a great time to propose! It doesn't have the mushy, Hallmark-holiday stuff like Valentine's Day, and I think it's really romantic to begin the new year with a promise to spend the rest of your life with her. A friend of mine got engaged on New Year's morning, and she was absolutely thrilled about it. Good luck with your proposal!

 

[PrincessNatalie]

I am hoping for a xmas or New Years proposal!! It will make the day even more special

 

[brittany0613]

I am hoping for a xmas or New Years proposal!! It will make the day even more special

I'm in the same boat. It would be so special.

 

[wedge]

Thanks for all the great feedback so far! Sounds like the consensus is it's fine to go ahead with a New Years proposal... but of course additional input is welcome. :]

I'm sure all you LIWs' guys will come through for you! And whether proposals are imminent or a little farther off, may you enjoy the happiest of holiday seasons.

 

[HaloBelle]

Personally, i think a new years eve proposal would be so romantic. Its already a time for new beginnings, whats better than a new beginning with the one you love the most??

I love the idea of public and private - but i do love being the center of attention and would LOVE if it happened when we were surrounded by all my friends. Not family so much though, i would want it to be a little, umm, more PDA friendly environment than a room with my grandparents and parents.

 

[w.a.n.d]

Personally, i think a new years eve proposal would be so romantic. Its already a time for new beginnings, whats better than a new beginning with the one you love the most??

Couldn't agree more! You should definitely go for it!

 

[inflorescence]

I would have to agree with your GF, Valentines is a little tacky...

In respect to Christmas Eve, I wouldnt be a fan... because its a pretty hectic day as it is... as for Christmas day, for me I wouldnt want him to do it during the day, still hectic and family based... (probably not a good scene for a private proposal).... but Christmas Day evening/night is one of my favorite days. ... and the stress and hecticness of Christmas is all done and the day really settles in, you think about all the love and family you got to spend it with.... cuddling up by the fireplace after going for a skate/sledding... all cozy looking at the Christmas tree, who would expect the extra presesnt?

I figure New Years is up there for wonderful factor, you're starting your year off on the perfect foot, or hand in this case!

If you really want to surprise her a few days later would definately be unexpected, any idea that she might be getting one around now would decrease significantly ... and you could really make it unique!
Personally where my BF stands if he was to do that (lets say IF he was planning to propose), I would not be impressed if he waited a week after this New Years.... ( we will be inParis for New Years... )

I guess the question is, what do you have planned for New Years if you were going to do it?
What is your plan for Christmas?

 

[4ever]

OK, I think all the ladies will agree with me in saying, sooner is absolutly better (translation- if she knows it's coming and you make her wait a couple more weeks than is realy nessesary...well just don't do that).

I'm also anti Christmas proposal becasue of the privacy factor, it's not really a private intimate proposal if you then have to spend all day with family getting asking lots of questions and getting excited for you guys right afterwards. This may be 100% the dream of someone who wants a more public proposal but, as some one who would much prefer a private proposal, I would find the family situation right afterwards very stressful and intrusive.

Thumbs up to New Years, it's not really a "holiday" holiday if you know what I mean, like Easter and Christmas and Valentines and Thanks giving but it's still "special" and it will make it FEEL like a celebration.

Any ideas how you're going to do it?

 

[wedge]

Thanks to all the great feedback, LIWs! The near-unanimity is pretty encouraging too.

I don't have the plan hammered out yet (and am paranoid that she'll find out somehow if I say too much here), but I'll hope to have it sorted out in time for NYE. Won't be doing Christmas Eve (hectic, family, etc).

I would guess that anything out of the ordinary will have her guessing it's coming, so it probably won't be a complete surprise... but I think she'll still be happy and excited. :]

Again, you've all been great, and I wish only the best for you and yours.

 

[tyty333]

I had a surprise New Years Eve proposal and loved it! Great way to start off the year!

 

[Winks_Elf]

This is just my opinion...the NYE proposal is so overdone, even more so than Valentine's day.

I'm personally of the mind set that proposing at midnight, Christmas Eve, with the twinkling lights of the tree and candles glowing would be the most romantic proposal ever. After all, Christmas is the birth of the Savior, and it was the start of the Holy family. What a better way to start your family together than with a midnight proposal? Perhaps tie the ring box up with a ribbon, and slip a hook onto it, and place the box on the tree.

 

[rialaine]

I'm personally hoping for a Christmas proposal It can be really sweet and personal if you make it that way

 

[Prana]

I would have LOVED if my husband proposed to me during the Christmas holiday. Ideal for me would have been the evening before Christmas eve, so that we could enjoy the private moment, and then tell everyone on Christmas eve and Christmas day!

Don't get me wrong, my proposal was amazing, but there is just something so magical about Christmas!

Good luck with whatever you choose!

 

[Blackpaw]

I think New Year's is a great time to propose! It doesn't have the mushy, Hallmark-holiday stuff like Valentine's Day, and I think it's really romantic to begin the new year with a promise to spend the rest of your life with her. A friend of mine got engaged on New Year's morning, and she was absolutely thrilled about it. Good luck with your proposal!

This! yep i think a new years proposal would be lovely. Let us know how it goes