by Weeivy73 » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:01 PM I'm at a stand still about what to do with my current engagement ring. It's a ruby and diamond double cluster set in yellow gold. The ruby is a 1.5ct oval with alot of character (Not great quality but I do like it) and there is 0.60tcw of very poor cut, colour and clarity diamonds. The diamonds are basically brown and heavily included. I knew that as soon as he surprised me with it and then the setting became compromised while it was being sized and it just pains me. I have tried to talk to my DH about a redesign and while he admits he didn't get the quality right he is extremely apprehensive about a redesign (even reusing the ruby, not forgoing the whole ring) and has just said that he doesn't really want me to do it. I don't really want to just source better diamonds and re set them as the setting is a tad wonky and I feel like it will be throwing good money at a bad situation. Please understand that my hubby is actually very generous with the purchase of jewellery for me, he actually spent more on a pair of earrings while we were holidaying in London than he did on my engagement ring and is amazingly thoughtful and not stingy as such. I think he is just more sentimentally attached to my engagement ring than I am. So in saying that I have started to feel bad for wanting an upgrade/ different ring and that is really my dilemma. I will very much welcome any thoughts and insight into how to move forward through this. I am a very sentimental person also, but the quality of my ring is just doing my head in, I even said to him that I would happily forgo any more purchases for how long he deems necessary to acquire something very special (ANYTHING from Lang's is high on that list!) I would love to not have to whine and hassle him to want this too. I really value everyone's input and advice here. Sorry for the novel.