My ring keeps jamming into my finger

[amyjokerette]

Hey PS''ers! A few months ago (September) I upgraded my e-ring. When I did that the new platinum prongs set the new diamond up higher. I keep hitting my ring against stuff, more than I ever did before. Whenever I hit it I always hold it up to my face to make sure the diamond isn''t loose. It''s been totally fine so far.

BUT, my main point is, I keep cutting the skin on my ring finger. It basically jams the ring back into my finger. then of course its even more sensitive if i whack it again, and again, and again.

As I type this I am wearing my ring on my right hand and I have ointment on my ring finger, hoping it will heal a bit. My question is... For those who this has happened to... Did your finger skin get tougher over time? I hope this doesn''t happen forever!! ahh

Thanks for your advice and shared experiences. Here is a link to an image of my ring: http://jokerette.com/amyjokerette9785.gif

 

[musey]

I think that you just stop hitting it as much as you get used to the height, rather than your skin building up a callus in that area. I don''t think that area is as capable of callusing as fingers/palms, feet, etc.

 

[Circe]

Date: 1/16/2009 6:44:01 PM
Author: musey
I think that you just stop hitting it as much as you get used to the height, rather than your skin building up a callus in that area. I don''t think that area is as capable of callusing as fingers/palms, feet, etc.

Ditto to NeatFreak, but in addition to that, no matter how hard you''re hitting your ring against stuff, it shouldn''t be cutting into your finger: consider taking it in to your jeweler to file down any sharp interior edges, and see if that helps.

 

[musey]

Date: 1/16/2009 6:48:41 PM
Author: Circe

Date: 1/16/2009 6:44:01 PM

Author: musey

I think that you just stop hitting it as much as you get used to the height, rather than your skin building up a callus in that area. I don''t think that area is as capable of callusing as fingers/palms, feet, etc.

Ditto to NeatFreak, but in addition to that, no matter how hard you''re hitting your ring against stuff, it shouldn''t be cutting into your finger: consider taking it in to your jeweler to file down any sharp interior edges, and see if that helps.

I know what she means though, it''s not necessarily that it''s cutting it''s just banging the bone sharply and giving blood-blister type injuries. It''s happened to me a couple of times, and my ring is certainly not sharp anywhere.

 

[Circe]

D''oh - Freudian! I think I''ve just gotten very used to dittoing NF. Sorry, Musey! That said, though, it still sounds ... odd to me. I''ve worn multiple rings every day of my life from adolescence onwards, and the only ones that have ever done that have been the ones with unusually sharp edges or projecting bits. It does sound like something that can be minimized with a piece of sandpaper and a little patience ....

 

[musey]

Date: 1/16/2009 7:11:22 PM
Author: Circe
D''oh - Freudian! I think I''ve just gotten very used to dittoing NF. Sorry, Musey! That said, though, it still sounds ... odd to me. I''ve worn multiple rings every day of my life from adolescence onwards, and the only ones that have ever done that have been the ones with unusually sharp edges or projecting bits. It does sound like something that can be minimized with a piece of sandpaper and a little patience ....

I dunno, I can''t speak for the OP''s rings, but I really don''t think there are sharp edges on mine... and I''ve had the problem with both my ering and wedding band. Not all the time of course, it only happens every couple of months for me (and I hit my ring once a week or so). To me it sounds like this ring is just higher than amy''s used to, so she''s hitting it more often, and the really hard hits make it dig into her finger.

 

[lyra]

When I had my higher 4 prong setting I really whacked my ring a few times--enough to leave a bruise. I don''t know what to suggest beyond the advice you''ve already been given. When I got my permanent setting, I chose a much lower profile head, and I virtually never bang it now. So maybe it is just the setting height. You should probably have your prongs inspected if you''re whacking the ring often.

 

[amyjokerette]

Date: 1/16/2009 6:51:53 PM
Author: musey

I know what she means though, it''s not necessarily that it''s cutting it''s just banging the bone sharply and giving blood-blister type injuries. It''s happened to me a couple of times, and my ring is certainly not sharp anywhere.

It is actually breaking the skin a bit... this photo is after it started to heal since yesterday. My husband thinks its the inner groove on my wedding band. Like, the outside edge of my wedding band has a smooth curve to it, but the inside just abruptly corners and maybe thats whats cutting into me. He suggested maybe he could polish it down... hm......

 

[amyjokerette]

possibly due to a sharp inner edge of the wedding band? Maybe we can polish it down?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Are you wearing your rings too tight? It looks like there is an indentation where your rings were on that finger. I have never heard of any injuries to a finger from wearing rings before. I would try to be cautious and aware if you are hitting your ring against things, because diamonds can and do shatter and chip. If it keeps happening, perhaps you should consider having the diamond set lower.

 

[Elmorton]

For the banging into things - no real suggestions. I still smack my rings into things, get caught, etc, and I have a really, really low setting.

But for the breaking skin, Amy, take your ring into your local jeweler. Maybe what you need is a polish on the inside of the ring. When I first got my e-ring, I always had this feeling that something was scraping my finger inside the ring. It hurt like heck esp when my finger swelled. I took my ring in, and the associate I was working with looked it over with a loupe and found this tiny little piece of metal that was sticking out - I really couldn''t even see it with the naked eye and never considered that unsmooth metal could be the problem. They polished and smoothed the inside of the band and I haven''t had a problem since.

 

[Bliss]

I had the same problem! I have a surprise diamond and it DIGS into my finger constantly when I'm putting gloves on. I've solved it for the time being with a thick band or a sliver of a band -- I put it on before the e-ring. That will totally protect your finger. Once I get my wedding band, it'll go there. But yes, if the ring is top heavy especially...that can happen! Thin finger + top heavy ring = ouchie! I guess it's because there's a larger stone and the band is thin/smaller size so it really digs in.

ETA... I think your w-band's edge is too sharp! Maybe you can have it buffed? I was noticing that your finger where you usually wear your rings is indented a tiny bit. Do you think it's a combination of the ring being a little too tight and then it digs into your finger even more?

 

[neatfreak]

I think it might be a combo of the ring edge needing a polish and your rings being too tight. They shouldn''t leave a dent in your finger like they do.

 

[amyjokerette]

I agree that it is a combo... but my fingers are exaggerated swollen due to the irritation for being cut The dent isnt usually so pronounced... its usually just more like a white tan line with a slight slight indent.

I think I will look into getting it smoothed into more of a gentle curve on the band,.

Thanks to everyone!!

 

[swingirl]

Your rings look too tight. They shouldn''t be creating a dent in you finger. This happened to my friend and when she took her rings off it took about 2-3 weeks for the dent to disappear.

 

[DebShine]

That''s really odd because I had a ring that looked quite a bit like that - only my diamond was set up higher. I got the diamond lowered and never had a problem again. The weird thing is that when my diamond was lowered, it was about the height of yours now. Take it to the jeweler and ask their advice! Beautiful ring - but nobody wants the darn thing jamming their finger all the time.

 

[arjunajane]

Date: 1/16/2009 9:18:51 PM
Author: neatfreak
I think it might be a combo of the ring edge needing a polish and your rings being too tight. They shouldn''t leave a dent in your finger like they do.

ditto.
I know it is personal preference with ring sizing, but imho they should only cause the slightest of indents at the most, which should fade pretty much as soon as you take off the ring.

 

[musey]

I'm quite surprised to read so many posts saying that there should never be a dent on your ring finger. I have only been wearing my wedding band for 3.5 months now and I already have a dent (though not as pronounced as amy's is in that picture) and one that does not go away quickly (I've had my ring off for about an hour and it was still there). My rings are absolutely not too tight, either - they slip quite a bit along the length of my finger, especially (but not only) when my hands are wet or cold. Both my wedding band and e-ring are a little over a quarter size larger than my finger.

Maybe it's because I wear my wedding band 24/7, or maybe different peoples' fingers simply react differently to pressure (small as it may be) from rings.

 

[:)]

Ring looks too tight. Definitely check it at the jeweler for rough edges too, but ring too tight suppported by the deep ring indentation on your finger- blood is having a hard time returning through the venous system. You may be getting basically the equivalent of a stasis dermatitis (looks like a hint of a little scale around the raw area) of the finger from it which is causing the pain/swelling which is made worse when you hit it on something bc it is already sensitive from the swelling.

Is the ring the same size as previous? Is it the same metal as your prior ring? Does the area itch? Did the ring fit better (looser) when you first got it?

Try a little hydrocortisone (can buy over the counter, even in a 99 cent store, just check the date) on the raw area two to three times a day. Elevate your hand above your heart (with your ring off) to help get the swelling back down. Could mix the hydrocortisone with a small amt of topical antifungal if you have handy but would try the cortisone by itself first. Make sure to dry well after washing your hands.

 

[:)]

Date: 1/17/2009 3:36:05 AM
Author: musey
I'm quite surprised to read so many posts saying that there should never be a dent on your ring finger. I have only been wearing my wedding band for 3.5 months now and I already have a dent (though not as pronounced as amy's is in that picture) and one that does not go away quickly (I've had my ring off for about an hour and it was still there). My rings are absolutely not too tight, either - they slip quite a bit along the length of my finger, especially (but not only) when my hands are wet or cold. Both my wedding band and e-ring are a little over a quarter size larger than my finger.

Maybe it's because I wear my wedding band 24/7, or maybe different peoples' fingers simply react differently to pressure (small as it may be) from rings.

Yes, I think it is a problem for her, but not for all people that get edema - see the darkish ring just below where the ring goes in the first pic? Unless it is a picture artifact that, with the raw area which looks to have a hint of scale to it - the dark area looks almost like skin discoloration changes you usually see in venous stasis of the lower extremities (or it could be lichenification from the ring rubbing chronically, hard to tell from a pic, but cortisone may help with that too). I think her ring may be obstructing flow back out of her finger, resulting in a build up of fluid which can be painful esp if knocked on something. Of course she may take the ring in and find an actual rough edge causing the raw area and maybe the swelling is actually a response to that and I am incorrect...

 

[amyjokerette]

Hey thanks for all the advice!

Normally, I don''t think my rings are as tight as the line appears in those photos... that was due to swelling where the skin was broken, and the fact that I wore it on my hand for a full 24 hours after that. It also is usually not red like that... again just due to the broken skin.

But, I am taking my wedding band to my jeweler today to see if they can:
A) make it a 1/4 size looser
B) curve the inside edge a bit

I hope this works!!!! Thanks to everyone!

 

[precious jemz]

I''ve been reading this thread with interest - after wearing my high pronged very heavy plat setting 24 hours for 9 years, I experienced the same type of finger problem like you! I vowed to do something different after constantly hitting my stone around and getting my finger cut when someone shook my hand really hard (the underside of the band was a bit sharp-edged and their bear claw just did it!).
After doing a bit of research and investigation, I decided to go with a custom cushion halo (debated for a long time about that) and made sure that the band was going to be comfort fit. Also opted for 18k white gold instead of plat.
the result? A beautiful ring with the best fit and protection for my stone. My finger has recuperated - no more swelling and feels like heaven on my hand - no wideness between my fingers too. Zero regret and the center stone is super enhanced. I feel like the heavy prongs on my original ring minimized the look of the stone and now it''s beauty is unleashed.