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Natylad

Natylad

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Today we went out for lunch with the family. I was wearing my new 1.39ct yellow gold halo ring, that my husband got me as a gift for my birthday last December and my Tiffany band over it. When we came home, i took off and placed in front of the bathroom mirror all the jewelry that i was wearing: the halo ring and the Tiffany band, my earrings, my necklace, my watch...and then proceeded to giving my baby a bath. After we finished, i took my baby to her room and put her to sleep. When she slept, which was like, half an hour later, i went back to the bathroom to take my jewelry and everything else was there except of my halo ring.
The only people in the house with me are my DH and my 12 year old daughter. I asked them both and they both said that they don't know anything about it. Now i suspect that my daughter might have been playing with the ring in front of the sink and accidentally droped it and she's afraid to admit it...I hope i'm wrong but i honestly can't believe this is happening and i can't explain it. To DD's defense, she doesn't care about jewelry at all and i can't even imagine her ever being interested in the ring, but at this point i don't know what to think...Needless to say that i want to SCREAM FROM ANGER AND DESPAIR...
And in case you're wondering...No, there's no insurance...coz unfortunately, in my country, i know for a fact that they wouldn't insure the loss of the ring, only theft which is proved beyond any doubt.
 
Can you undo the "J" trap under the sink?? if it fell in the sink down the drain, it could be trapped there. Could it have fallen into a cabinet door/drawer? in behind the vanity? In your pocket just incase you were 'keeping it safe"... cuz I never do stupid things like put stuff in "safe" places.. oh no...

But Natylad!! THAT IS SCARY!!! YIKES!! It was your birthday ring - and stunning!! It can't be very far - it IS in the house, it will just be in an odd place. Did the baby grab at it when bending/holding/moving/playing????

Fingers crossed for you --- DUST DUST DUST!!!

Hopefully iLander may see this and have some insight to share... if her gift is still present...
 
Oh no. Nightmare!!

Definitely look in the J bend, before using the tap!
 
Naty...sorry to hear this,but the good news is that the ring is still somewhere inside your house.i'm sure sooner or later you'll find it.
 
Dancing Fire|1359923185|3371342 said:
Naty...sorry to hear this,but the good news is that the ring is still somewhere inside your house.i'm sure sooner or later you'll find it.
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I hope so.

Never, ever leave jewellery around a sink. Sooner or later, you will lose something down the drain!
 
I would definitely call in a plumber - and carefully ask your daughter again IF she might have been playing with it. She might be too scared to admit it at this point but explain to her that you need to know before you have to call the plumber.

I'm with everyone else - at least it is in the house. Must be very maddening and frustrating!
 
Oh dear :((

Were all the doors locked? Unlikely I know, but we lost a video camera off the top of our fridge through burglary. He/she was in and out in a matter of a few mins without being seen. It was likely the teen next door looking for drug money. We always lock our doors too, but it only took a couple of mins...

Get someone else to look for it with you...a fresh pair of eyes so to speak. Wish I could send over my 14 year old. He's got eyes like a hawk and thinks like Sherlock Holmes...
 
I agree with the consenus that it is in the house, somewhere. You remember wearing it out and taking it off in the house. Does anyone remember seeing it on your finger? I would take apart the drain, snake the toilet, and scour every nook and cranny of the bathroom before I started on the rest of the house. Just because your daughter is not interest doesn't mean she didn't put it on and has forgotten where she left it. Good luck, I feel your pain. :cry:
 
Maybe you went on autopilot and took it off thinking about the upcoming bath. Retrace your steps from the door...Don't get rid of any trash or recyclables until you find the ring!
 
A friend of mine once accidentally put her ring in the freezer compartment of her fridge...
 
Natylad -- HORRORS! I'm so sorry -- but agree w/everybody else, it has to be in your house somewhere. Don't use the sink until you call a plumber -- or take the pipe apart yourself if you can manage. I dropped my wedding ring down the drain once -- when the plumber came, there it was, sitting in the J trap.

Checking again w/your daughter is a good idea, making sure she doesn't think she'll get punished. Just the one ring missing makes it unlikely a thief crept in all the way to your bathroom & took only that, but it is possible she picked it up to have a look & dropped it or maybe is afraid to say she has it.

It will turn up, has to! Where's iLander???

--- Laurie
 
Naty, I am so very, very sorry!!!! :errrr: but as others have said, it's got to be in the house - definitely check the J trap, my earring fell down the drain and I took the J trap off myself (it's not hard) and it was right there - just stick a bucket underneath it for any excess water - I'm really hoping it turns up soon, keep us posted!
 
If your daughter did pick up and put on the ring and took it off somewhere, she may not even remember the location. Can you ask to do a family search and put out a "reward" for anyone who finds the ring? When my earrings went missing, I told my kids that if either of them found them, they would get $20 and that motivated them the help me look (and sometimes it's nice having others look because they may look in places you might not think to). Hope you find your ring!

Also, do you have any pets? My cat once attacked one of my hoop earrings and knocked it behind a bookcase.
 
So sorry naty! I hope that it turns up soon! Sending good sleuthing vibes your way!
 
Oh, Naty! I hope you find it soon!!! It has to be there!
 
Lately, I have been losing things like it is my J.O.B. Like, to the point where I am seriously considering ADD medication. Good times.

So, I sympathize, and I echo everybody's advice - and will add one additional, hopefully not too stupid sounding bit of advice: when you walk through what you do in advance of your baby's bath, add hand gestures.

Seriously.

Sometimes, when I make the "motion" for whatever it is I'm thinking about, it triggers my memory. It's like it activates a different part of the brain.

No help if it was your daughter or somebody else being forgetful, but on the off chance it was A Moment, figured it couldn't hurt to chime in - hoping you'll tell us it turned up without the need for any of this!!!
 
You don't have a pet do you?
 
Guys, thank you all so much for the good advice and the moral support. The ring was found. As i was suspecting, my older daughter was involved in this. I spent the whole night sleepless, thinking what could have happened and this morning, as i was preparing her breakfast and was getting her ready for school, i started crying and i told her that if she knows what happened to my ring, even if she has lost it, she needs to tell me and i will not punish her or yell at her...i just needed to know the truth, instead of spending days searching for something that could be long gone.
And then, she started crying too and said that last night, while i was in the baby's room, she was playing in front of the mirror with her hair and she was using the brush, then leaving it down in front of the mirror, etc. At a certain point, as she took the brush from the mirror shelf, she accidentally droped both my ring AND my necklace. The necklace got stuck in the drain, before going all the way down and she recovered it but the ring just disappeared down the drain. She thought that it was lost forever and that i would...kill her if i found out, that's why she didn't say anything.
I took her in the bathroom, grabbed a bucket, unscrewed the J trap under the sink and the ring just slided down...I told her that if she had told the truth since last night, she would have saved her mom a sleepless, agonizing night...And i made sure that she understands that from now on, no matter what has happened, no matter how bad it is, she should always confide in her mom and trust that only good things will happen to her and not bad...
Phew...
 
Wow, I'm so happy for you. Kids, like adults, panic and don't think things through before answering a question. Then they get stuck with their answer. You handled the situation very well and now, hopefully she understands that to tell the truth is always the best way to go.
 
:appl: :appl: :appl:
 
Wow, I am so happy that your story has a happy ending. Please acknowledge your daughter for her honesty. From her perspective, she had nothing to gain and everything to lose by telling the truth and yet she did - eventually. I would be tempted to do something in the next few days to subtly reinforce her honesty, like allow her to earn a new privilege because you see that she is able to handle adult situations or something like that...just a thought. But good for her - you KNOW that had to be hard!
 
Oh I'm so glad it was found! And your daughter did a very brave thing for her age, by telling you the truth. Good for her. I hope you sleep well tonight.
 
I'm very glad you found your ring. I would have been panicking too. Can I just say that you handled the situation with your daughter very well. She will trust you so much more. If she ever needs to tell you something in the future she will feel much more able to. Well done mamma!
 
Wonderful ending to a scary story! I kinda figured this was probably what happened but I am glad you were able to coax the truth from her. I can imagine how overwhelming this must have seemed to her so it's good she sees that something good comes from telling the truth.

Whew is right! Sleep well tonight!
 
Glad it was found.
 
What a relief! I am SO pleased you found your ring. :appl:
 
natyLad|1359957585|3371687 said:
Guys, thank you all so much for the good advice and the moral support. The ring was found. As i was suspecting, my older daughter was involved in this. I spent the whole night sleepless, thinking what could have happened and this morning, as i was preparing her breakfast and was getting her ready for school, i started crying and i told her that if she knows what happened to my ring, even if she has lost it, she needs to tell me and i will not punish her or yell at her...i just needed to know the truth, instead of spending days searching for something that could be long gone.
And then, she started crying too and said that last night, while i was in the baby's room, she was playing in front of the mirror with her hair and she was using the brush, then leaving it down in front of the mirror, etc. At a certain point, as she took the brush from the mirror shelf, she accidentally droped both my ring AND my necklace. The necklace got stuck in the drain, before going all the way down and she recovered it but the ring just disappeared down the drain. She thought that it was lost forever and that i would...kill her if i found out, that's why she didn't say anything.
I took her in the bathroom, grabbed a bucket, unscrewed the J trap under the sink and the ring just slided down...I told her that if she had told the truth since last night, she would have saved her mom a sleepless, agonizing night...And i made sure that she understands that from now on, no matter what has happened, no matter how bad it is, she should always confide in her mom and trust that only good things will happen to her and not bad...
Phew...
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Oh thank goodness!!!
 
OMG Naty! So glad and relieved for you that the ring is found!!! I am so sorry for all the aggravation you went through but so happy the ring was found! :appl: :appl: :appl:
 
I was about your daughter's age when I had a similar incident happen to me with my Mom....

All ended well when my Mom calmly spoke to me that it is much better to "tell on yourself"
than to let her catch you in a fib....WHICH she will !!!

I loved my Mom so much when she told me that.... AND then she proved it by not getting angry with me

You are an awesome Mom and I bet this will really draw you and your daughter closer than ever :))

HUGS!!!!!!!!!!
 
minousbijoux|1359962041|3371717 said:
Wow, I am so happy that your story has a happy ending. Please acknowledge your daughter for her honesty. From her perspective, she had nothing to gain and everything to lose by telling the truth and yet she did - eventually. I would be tempted to do something in the next few days to subtly reinforce her honesty, like allow her to earn a new privilege because you see that she is able to handle adult situations or something like that...just a thought. But good for her - you KNOW that had to be hard!
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Oh I'm so glad you found your ring.
and snaps to your daughter for being such a good kid. she undoubtedly had a sleepless night too!!
all's well that ends well. :))
 
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