Multiple Wedding Ceremonis

[SelenaDrake]

Ok, I know I saw a topic about this, but the last message was posted about a year ago.

What does everybody think of having multiple wedding ceremonies?
I live in the U.S. My fiance & I have been engaged for well over 5 years now.
We have attempted to marry several times but something always comes up with one of our families. We have come to the conclusion that neither of our families wishes to be anywhere near the other (At least the people that matter, i.e. my mom, his dad)
We have decided that we need to have multiple ceremonies so that nobody feels slighted.
Does anybody have any suggestions on how to go about doing this?
I am at my wits end and ready to either call the whole thing off or elope and never reveal it!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

How long have you and your fiance put off marring each other because of all this?

Why not elope and reveal it?

Having multiple ceremonies would be could end up costing a fortune. It''s about you two, not about making your family happy. If they do not wish that enough to make compromises, then you need to act on your own! Or you can just hold one ceremony and if some can''t make it, then that''s their loss.

 

[trillionaire]

elope, throw a reception or two when you get back (if you still want to). Stop putting your life on hold for other people, and tell your adult parents to act like adults! Be married and happy!

 

[QueenB29]

Oooh. That''s not a good situation at all.

My parents hate DH''s parents for the way they''ve treated me. But for my sake they bit their tongues, and were polite at my rehearsal dinner and wedding. They''ll do the same for any future christenings, b-days for grandchildren, etc. Because they love me more than they hate my in-laws.

If I were you I would A) plan one wedding, invite both of your families, and if they can''t get along for ONE DAY for your sake and your fiance''s, too bad. Or B) I would elope.

The idea of having two weddings is nice, but unless one family is halfway around the world, I think it''s an unnecessary expense. And then you run into the controversy of who''s family gets to go first and witness your "real" wedding.

It''s your and your FI''s day, and I''m so sorry it''s been pushed back for 5 years. I think you have the right to do what you want without worrying about your families'' feelings. Good luck!

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 7/28/2009 12:22:58 PM
Author: trillionaire
elope, throw a reception or two when you get back (if you still want to). Stop putting your life on hold for other people, and tell your adult parents to act like adults! Be married and happy!

So true and I second!

 

[tlh]

Date: 7/28/2009 12:40:39 PM
Author: Luckyeshe

Date: 7/28/2009 12:22:58 PM
Author: trillionaire
elope, throw a reception or two when you get back (if you still want to). Stop putting your life on hold for other people, and tell your adult parents to act like adults! Be married and happy!

So true and I second!

agreed!