EmDressage
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Hey there! So, DF and I come up with a dilema in our 'wedding planning', so to speak. As in, deciding whether to move our wedding date up to this fall instead of next fall. (Married in 2010 instead of 2011 ). We have not sent out anything, etc. yet. We are in the process of 'finding' everything, as in, a venue.
So, let me backup and explain, and, my question to yall is what your thoughts are on this. Can we do it? We are both pretty confident that we can pull it off, but I (we) still have some doubts, so I thought, Ah! I will ask the PS group-they can help!
Love.
So, here goes:
We have been looking for venue in SC that will fit our budget (small!) and fit our 'style', which is outdoor, southern 'plantation' feel. So naturally, looking at some plantation houses. After much searching and shaking of heads at prices that were astronomically too high for us to afford, a friend of mine (owner of a local coffee shop and caterer ) mentioned she knows of an old plantation house that has been remodeled by a couple of guys and is currently their home, for sale ($1M), but that she knows them well and the house used to be in her family, etc. etc. so ties were there. So, talked with them, they were open to the idea. I went and saw an event she catered there, took some great pics, loved the place, and so does DF.
So, anyway, long story short, we are in the process of discussing prices, dates, etc.
Our first priority is the fact that the place is for sale, so what if it sells. Talked briefly about a 6-month contract after they sell it etc. etc. So that is a possibility, but if it sells tomorrow, 6-m. could go by and with our original date of next fall in 2011, it would be too late.
Throwing around a few other contract sort of deals, but at the end of the day, it boils down to if we could move our wedding date to be able to ensure this place was a go.
And, as we all agree on, a lot can happen with this place in a year, esp. for a place like this that is for sale, they are thinking about if it does not sell to perhaps hold events there (after we talked, they mulled it over and thought it would be a good idea to do with the house if they don't sell it, decide not to sell, etc. etc. it goes on and on ), but we = guinea pigs for their 'events' future if they go that route.
(Hence, perhaps a price neg. or trade-off deal with the price, so again, yet another reason we need to get on the ball about this and A). Make a decision on this place so if they do decide to do events, we would be in and set on a price before they came up with something set (that would prob. end up being too high for us to afford ), B). Decide on a date, with the earlier the better for ensuring this place will still be available in the remodeled-era condition (with era furniture, etc. etc.) it has now, etc. )
So, just some thoughts, advice, etc. on all this would be greatly appreciated, in addition to what you think about moving our date up a year. Is it too late already to send out invites for this fall, or to plan/etc. etc. for this fall. We want to do it during a green season, so usually up through Nov. stays pretty green here.)
Our original date idea was Oct.(or Nov) 2011.
Another reason, I forget to add earlier, was our original plan was that we would wait until I grad. college, which was May '11, now going to be Aug. '11. And, as we think about it now, it really is not that big of a deal as it was when we first got engaged. We live together and have gotten more and more comfortable with the idea of an earlier wedding. Almost thinking it would be good to go ahead and do it now. Also, after I grad. there will be lots of work going on as far as possibly moving, vet school work, interning, jobs, etc. so that will be some big stuff going on there.
The only hitch is that if we moved it to this fall, I would need to be able to work around, more or less, my fall '10 college classes. Mmmmmm,........
Another good thing though, as a last little note here, is that the friend who has the coffee shop/catering/connection to the house/the guys who own the house, is within a 'stone's throw' from my house, and the plantation house is about 5 minutes from my house, so it is all very convenient to our house, so if I did have to balance studies with wedding work, I think it would be do-able b/c everyone would be so close by.
Thanks, I think that's it.
-Em
So, let me backup and explain, and, my question to yall is what your thoughts are on this. Can we do it? We are both pretty confident that we can pull it off, but I (we) still have some doubts, so I thought, Ah! I will ask the PS group-they can help!
Love. So, here goes:
We have been looking for venue in SC that will fit our budget (small!) and fit our 'style', which is outdoor, southern 'plantation' feel. So naturally, looking at some plantation houses. After much searching and shaking of heads at prices that were astronomically too high for us to afford, a friend of mine (owner of a local coffee shop and caterer ) mentioned she knows of an old plantation house that has been remodeled by a couple of guys and is currently their home, for sale ($1M), but that she knows them well and the house used to be in her family, etc. etc. so ties were there. So, talked with them, they were open to the idea. I went and saw an event she catered there, took some great pics, loved the place, and so does DF.
So, anyway, long story short, we are in the process of discussing prices, dates, etc.
Our first priority is the fact that the place is for sale, so what if it sells. Talked briefly about a 6-month contract after they sell it etc. etc. So that is a possibility, but if it sells tomorrow, 6-m. could go by and with our original date of next fall in 2011, it would be too late.
Throwing around a few other contract sort of deals, but at the end of the day, it boils down to if we could move our wedding date to be able to ensure this place was a go.
And, as we all agree on, a lot can happen with this place in a year, esp. for a place like this that is for sale, they are thinking about if it does not sell to perhaps hold events there (after we talked, they mulled it over and thought it would be a good idea to do with the house if they don't sell it, decide not to sell, etc. etc. it goes on and on ), but we = guinea pigs for their 'events' future if they go that route.
(Hence, perhaps a price neg. or trade-off deal with the price, so again, yet another reason we need to get on the ball about this and A). Make a decision on this place so if they do decide to do events, we would be in and set on a price before they came up with something set (that would prob. end up being too high for us to afford ), B). Decide on a date, with the earlier the better for ensuring this place will still be available in the remodeled-era condition (with era furniture, etc. etc.) it has now, etc. )
So, just some thoughts, advice, etc. on all this would be greatly appreciated, in addition to what you think about moving our date up a year. Is it too late already to send out invites for this fall, or to plan/etc. etc. for this fall. We want to do it during a green season, so usually up through Nov. stays pretty green here.)
Our original date idea was Oct.(or Nov) 2011.
Another reason, I forget to add earlier, was our original plan was that we would wait until I grad. college, which was May '11, now going to be Aug. '11. And, as we think about it now, it really is not that big of a deal as it was when we first got engaged. We live together and have gotten more and more comfortable with the idea of an earlier wedding. Almost thinking it would be good to go ahead and do it now. Also, after I grad. there will be lots of work going on as far as possibly moving, vet school work, interning, jobs, etc. so that will be some big stuff going on there.
The only hitch is that if we moved it to this fall, I would need to be able to work around, more or less, my fall '10 college classes. Mmmmmm,........
Another good thing though, as a last little note here
, is that the friend who has the coffee shop/catering/connection to the house/the guys who own the house, is within a 'stone's throw' from my house, and the plantation house is about 5 minutes from my house, so it is all very convenient to our house, so if I did have to balance studies with wedding work, I think it would be do-able b/c everyone would be so close by.Thanks, I think that's it.
-Em
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