Man of Honor?

[slg47]

Hi Ladies...I am considering having a Man of Honor and was wondering if anyone else did this and had experiences they would like to share!

 

[stephbolt]

I've been in one wedding and am going to another that have men of honor.

In one case, it was the bride's little brother. He was not involved in any of the dress shopping/shower/bachelorette party/planning stuff, although he did make the cakes and pies for her dessert buffet, since he's in culinary school.

In the other case, it's the bride's best friend. He's gay and was thrilled to be the only guy at the bachelorette, has been involved with the planning and dress shopping, etc. because he's interested in things like that.

I guess my point is, depending on who your man of honor might be, he might not be as involved with all of the details as a maid of honor might be. But then again, I've heard stories on here about plenty of maids of honor who haven't been very involved in the planning. If he's the person you feel is the best to have stand up next to you, then I say go for it!

 

[Rhea]

My close friend was my man of honour. But I also kind of didn't have a bridal party as I didn't have a traditional wedding. I didn't walk down the aisle so neither did he. I didn't have a shower or bachelorette party so those weren't a concern. The only thing I asked him to do was hold the rings before we exchanged them and to give a speech. He did both things very well!

It went well. I loved having him there with me.

 

[slg47]

I don't think ANY of the members of my bridal party will be that involved with planning/dress shopping since we all live in different states! I have two close female friends that I want to be bridesmaids and a very close male friend that I would like to ask to be the man of honor. He is not really into fashion or anything so I wouldn't expect him to help with dress shopping or anything like that but I would love for him to be there with me on my big day!

 

[septsparkle]

I say, do it! It's YOUR day. It's the one day in your life you can really have exactly how you want it - and you should! There are so many things we are doing that are not the traditional route, and I'm happier for it!

 

[merilenda]

I kind of don't want a bridal party (actually, I'd like to elope!) but FI wants one. So I might have a maid of honor and a man of honor. I think you should do whatever works for you!

 

[Echidna]

I'm in the same boat as Merilenda. My FI wanted groomsmen/BM while I didn't want a bridal party, so I compromised by asking my brother and sister to be man of honour and maid (matron? she'll be married before me) of honour respectively. Both parents (divorced) are walking me down the aisle, so it's fun for the whole family!

Do whatever makes you happy

 

[february2003bride]

I was MOH in a wedding back in 2007 and the bride had "bridedudes", her brother and a close guy friend.

 

[slg47]

bridedudes...that's awesome!

 

[mary poppins]

I am having a maid of honor, two bridesmaids and a bridesman. My bridesman, who is gay, was very happy when I asked him to be a part of the wedding party. He's been helping my ladies plan the pre-wedding celebration (co-ed evening of cocktails and hors d'oeuvres with our friends instead of traditional bridal shower) and helping me choose/design accessories for my MOH, bridesmaids and myself. FSIL will stand with the groomsmen. However, bridesman and FSIL could switch sides (but not teams, ha ha) if anyone expresses a preference for that arrangement. FI, bridesman, FSIL and I are fine either way.

 

[FrekeChild]

I had a Dude of Honor.

I asked my MOH/female BFF very early in the planning process. The ol' husband didn't decide WHO he wanted to have in his part of the wedding party until...less than a week before the wedding, when he picked his two nephews.

Suddenly I had ONE attendant and he had TWO. What the crap?! Anyway, he told me I needed to have two to be symmetrical and to work on that.

Well I'd wanted my male BFF (who is also MOH's live in boyfriend) to be in the wedding to begin with. He and I have known each other for 12 years, and we're like two peas in a pod. So when hubs told me I needed another one, I popped over to male BFF and *told* him he'd be in the wedding. Since he had already picked out his outfit (cobalt blue shirt, black pants, black dress shoes--read, MOH and I picked it out) he also got to dictate what hubs' nephews wore. I just had everyone add black ties (DOH's was plain black with a subtle pattern, the nephew's ties were black with a sparkly silver pattern on them--"bling" --they are 15 and 21, tee hee!)

It was great. Even though he was almost late to the wedding. Hilarious though that once they got up to the front (he escorted her) he steered MOH to be on the outside edge, so he was next to me. It's very cute though, because in all of the pictures, he's grinning at us.

Awwww....bringing back memories!

 

[SeattleSweetheart]

I had a man of honor and my husband had a best woman. Both people were our oldest friends so it worked out great. Yes, I didn't get to do some of the girlie stuff with him but that was okay with me. This was a second marriage for me so I didn't need any showers or partys and I don't think he would have known what to do anyway. Also, he and his spouse had just adopted a baby 6 weeks before my wedding so I wasn't going to make him work very hard because I knew he was sleep deprived and I was just thrilled he was going to be at my wedding. He was very helpful the day of the wedding and really helped me to stay calm and centered.

I don't know if I'm a very good example for having a man of honor because my wedding was very small and he was the only person in my bridal party. I love the fact that brides really can have whatever type of wedding they want now, including men in their bridal party. Do what you want, no regrets.

 

[bee*]

I had a Bridesman in my wedding. He's my best friend so he had to be up there with me. He didn't want to walk down the aisle with the bridesmaids so instead he escorted my mam down the aisle when she arrived at the church. He was in the photos etc with the bridesmaids.

 

[Bleed Burnt Orange]

A friend of mine had her sister and a guy friend as her people. I don't know if he was a man of honour, but, he was the only other person on her side. The groom had about 4 guys standing with him. It was not traditional, but, I think it's cool.

 

[slg47]

thanks for all of your replies (and to BBO: Hook 'Em!)

My BF will definitely have at least 4 attendants and I just don't have that many close friends...but I suppose it is OK to be uneven. I am happy to hear that 'bridedudes' are not too uncommon!

 

[Bleed Burnt Orange]

thanks for all of your replies (and to BBO: Hook 'Em!)

My BF will definitely have at least 4 attendants and I just don't have that many close friends...but I suppose it is OK to be uneven. I am happy to hear that 'bridedudes' are not too uncommon!

 

[Callisto]

I doubt I'll have a maid or man of honor (just not my style) but my brother will likely be asked to stand up in my bridal party. Do what you want, not what you think you "should" do based on other people's weddings.