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I can''t believe this is happening, I still think I''m going to wake up from this bad dream.

I only take my rings off for two things - showering and doing surgery. When I shower, I put them on my bathroom counter. When I do surgery, I tie them to the cord of my scrubs. I know that I should have had a chain but I never found one that was comfortable to wear all the time. They never left my hand otherwise.

Today I put them on my scrubs and instead of putting them on right after I finished my last case like I normally do, I ran out the door since I was late for my next patients. I got in my car and drove to another hospital and go out and walked to my clinic. It was then I realized that my drawstring was undone and my rings were gone.

I put up reward flyers all around the hospital, sent an APB to all hospital employees through email, and posted an ad on Craigslist. Eventually someone turned in my aunt''s wedding ring which is a third band that I wear with them, but my engagement ring and wedding band are still missing.

I''m just heartbroken. I''m far from home and far from my husband. I don''t really see how we can ever afford to buy another one. And I don''t even want another one, I just want my old one back. I''m pretty sure it''s gone for good though - some unscrupulous person probably snatched it up.

I really never thought that I''d lose it. I don''t lose things. I don''t even lose pens or socks. So I can''t even believe that I lost my most important material possession.

I know it''s just a thing and it''s not a family member or a pet. It''s just a thing.

Anyone have any advice on getting over this? Right now I don''t feel like I ever will? Replace it with something less expensive? Don''t replace it at all? Wait until we can afford it?
 
So,so sorry! Don''t know what to say except next time get a neckchain to put them on?
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Did you retrace your steps? Are you insured?
 
My heart goes out to you. I hope they turn up or someone turns them in to you. I have a ring box in my purse that I put my rings in and then lock up my purse. PS Dust coming your way to find them.
 
Oh no!

Are they insured? If so contact your agency immediately to get the ball rolling. In the meantime, keep your fingers crossed...you never know when you might meet a good hearted person.

I''m so sorry...
 
Oh, how awful.

Given that somebody did turn in your aunt''s ring, I''m going to hope that someone else will find your e-ring and wedding band and turn them in, too (I can easily picture the rings falling off slowly at separate times and winding up strewn throughout the hospital). And, well, since someone did turn that one in - we know not everybody sucks, right?

As for getting over it ... I know if it was me, I''d be horribly disappointed, but also that it would make me feel better to have some new tangible symbol of my connection to my husband. I say, if they''re irretrievable, get a new band for your next anniversary and start fresh on building more memories. And maybe a chain to match? (Said with love, and nothing but - this totally sounds like the sort of thing I could do. Additionally: don''t kick yourself. This doesn''t make you irresponsible, or anything - sometimes, stuff just gets lost.)
 
Date: 10/12/2009 8:30:30 PM
Author:basil
I can't believe this is happening, I still think I'm going to wake up from this bad dream.

I only take my rings off for two things - showering and doing surgery. When I shower, I put them on my bathroom counter. When I do surgery, I tie them to the cord of my scrubs. I know that I should have had a chain but I never found one that was comfortable to wear all the time. They never left my hand otherwise.

Today I put them on my scrubs and instead of putting them on right after I finished my last case like I normally do, I ran out the door since I was late for my next patients. I got in my car and drove to another hospital and go out and walked to my clinic. It was then I realized that my drawstring was undone and my rings were gone.

I put up reward flyers all around the hospital, sent an APB to all hospital employees through email, and posted an ad on Craigslist. Eventually someone turned in my aunt's wedding ring which is a third band that I wear with them, but my engagement ring and wedding band are still missing.

I'm just heartbroken. I'm far from home and far from my husband. I don't really see how we can ever afford to buy another one. And I don't even want another one, I just want my old one back. I'm pretty sure it's gone for good though - some unscrupulous person probably snatched it up.

I really never thought that I'd lose it. I don't lose things. I don't even lose pens or socks. So I can't even believe that I lost my most important material possession.

I know it's just a thing and it's not a family member or a pet. It's just a thing.

Anyone have any advice on getting over this? Right now I don't feel like I ever will? Replace it with something less expensive? Don't replace it at all? Wait until we can afford it?
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I am sorry to hear you have lost your rings, Basil.

It was hard when I lost mine a few years back. I had put my ER and RHR in a 'safe place'...that would be a ziploc bag on my desk while my house was under construction...they weren't stolen, but I believe that I actually threw them out by mistake when moving my office for the contractors...Amazing those "safe places" we use for our rings, isn't it?

I was so angry with myself and disappointed in my stupidity. I waited over 6 months before 'fessing' up. In that time, I had cleaned out every closet, nook, cranny, etc in the house. So I had the cleanest house but no rings...

Sweet DH bought me a new ring to wear as an ER. It is a 3 stone stunner of a door knocker, but wasn't the sapphire that I had been engaged with. It only took a few days to realize that the new ring only made me miss the old sapphire more.

A year went by. And I was still mssing the old (probably fairly inexpensive) sapphire ER. So we decided to get another one made. My heart still misses the original one that I was engaged with. But the process of finding the sapphire and getting the ring made was extremely positive, fun, and exciting. The new ring is not the same as the original, but it has some elements that remind me of the one sweet DH gave me back in 1986....It was a lot more $$ but in the end, it is a LOT more of a ring too....and we joke about how I got my 'upgrade'.

I think more than anything it took some time to come to some acceptance of the loss, and then to find a way to accept a new ring, which will NEVER be the one you were married with. But you can make it special and lovely. And then you'll make new memories about it, instead. As they say, Time Heals All Wounds.

Best of luck with the process. And I am sorry you are without your rings.

LS
 
Basil, I am so sorry that this happened to you. I am guessing that they were not insured. I would try to get them replaced and maybe when you and your
husband are back in the same place you can return to where you were married, just the two of you. He could repeat his vows to you and slip it on your
finger. I won''t replace what you lost, but maybe give you some warm feelings about the new set.

On a positive note, once something like this has happened to you, chances are it wont again. You will be overly cautious. Try not to beat yourself up about
it, its one of those things you cant change now, so try not to let it make you crazy.

Prayers and ((hugs)) that it will be found and returned to you. Stranger things have happened, and we will rejoice with you when it does!
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Oh no! That''s terrible! I''ve lost rings before so I know exactly how awful and sad you must feel right now. I really hope that it is returned to you. Was the ring insured?
 
I''m so sorry this happened. I can only imagine how heartbroken you must be right now about losing your rings. Hopefully someone will turn them in, but if not, did you have insurance? Did you check under and between the seats of your car? Maybe they fell when you were driving to the other hospital.

I really hope someone finds the rings and returns them to you soon.
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Oh no!
I'm so sorry! I once left my ring in the pocket of my radiology vest, forgot about it, and went home. I didn't realize until dinner, and RAN to go get it and thankfully it was still there. But yeah, not a good feeling. My sincerest condolences.
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Similar things have happened at our hospital, but I know of one case where the ring was turned in for reward. Although in that instance the reward amount was more than the ring could be pawned for. Flyers were put up, and emails were actually sent out to almost every hospital-related list serve relating the loss. Is there a way you could ask an administrator to send out an email to hospital employees?


I'm hoping the ring still turns up as it's still early. But in the mean time, maybe at least replace the wedding band?
 
ohhh, I''m so sorry to hear this. I really really hope someone is honest and turns them in. Dust your way.
 
You are living my worst nightmare...I am so sorry. My rings are not insured as I write this. I have been too lazy to make the appt. at my jeweler. I can''t imagine how heartbroken you are right now. ((((Hugs))))
 
Whatever you are feeling right is natural - let yourself grieve this, not everything has to make sense anyway. Work toward finding a new peace... but don''t rush to it. I''m sorry.
 
Basil I''m so sorry. I hope someone finds them.
 
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry.

I am praying that you find your rings again!!!!

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I am so sorry. I pray they will be returned to you soon. I hope who ever finds them does the right thing, and here you are saving lives... I hope you get a break on this, you sooooo deserve one. I will be praying for their safe return. HUGS!!!!
 
They aren''t insured. I know it''s stupid, but I honestly thought I would never lose them. I just didn''t think it was possible. I mean, they were always on my finger. I was so obsessed with them. I didn''t ever leave them in my apartment because I was worried someone would break in and steal them. I didn''t leave them in my locker or my purse cause I figured that on my person was safer. I thought it all through many times about how to be least likely to lose it, and it''s exactly what I managed to do anyway. I never even had a close call before this.

I sent out a hospital wide email and put up a bunch of posters offering a reward ($1000). I don''t know how much they could fetch if sold though.

I''m thinking of buying the same setting and getting it set with a cz, then replacing it when we''re comfortable with it.

I just feel so so stupid. It was like the perfect storm of ring losing - rushing so I didn''t put the ring back on, different scrubs than I''m used to, fell off in a heavily traveled public place. I''m pretty sure it must have been picked up by a patient/visitor who won''t necessarily return to see my reward signs or to get the email.
 
Basil, add me to the list of sympathizers! I cannot imagine how awful you must be feeling right now. Lots of hugs, and I'm hoping your rings turn up quick.

ETA: just saw your most recent post, and I'm putting out positive vibes into the world for you on hopes that if a random patient/visitor did pick them up, he/she will practice kindness and return them to lost & found at your place of employment. I wish you the best of luck.
 
Basil I feel so terrible for you.
Like Sara mentioned I think there will be stages of grief for the loss of such meaningful symbols.

Look on the bright side though; you and your DH have each other!!!
I sure hope someone returns your rings.
 
basil I am SO sorry to hear this. I hope someone does the right thing and turns in your wedding set. My fingers are crossed for you.
 
Oh no-I''m so sorry to hear this. I hope an honest person will turn your other two rings in, too. Dust to you that you get them back!

If that doesn''t happen, I think your idea to get your same setting with a temporary cz is a great idea. You could also do a colored stone in the setting.
 
I am just very, very sorry. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.
 
oh basil i''m so sorry to hear this... ! i really hope someone turns them in...you never know. in terms of replacing them, maybe wear the returned ring for now and take some time to think about what you really want to do for replacement. possibly you and your husband can come up with something together that would have some sort of new sentimental value. good luck!!
 
Oh, I am so very sorry this has happened, my heart goes out to you, I am hoping and praying that someone out there does the right thing. I''m not giving up hope, they''ve only been lost a short time, there''s still a chance you can recover them. Major (((hugs))) being sent your way!
 
*****DUST*****

I really really hope they turn up! You never know - someone could find them a day, a week or a month from now. Rings roll pretty far when they have a mind to do so... I can''t imagine someone finding something like this and keeping it. That would be too horrible to imagine, so I''m sending you positive vibes! I hope and pray you get reunited with your rings soon!

DUST DUST DUST
 
Dust Dust Dust! I am so sorry for the thoughts going on in your head right now. With a little luck, and hope that humanity is still going strong, you''ll get them back. I''m hoping for you.
 
I''m so sorry that you lost your wedding rings. I can''t advise you what to do. If it happened to me, I would want to replace them. They would be too important to be without.
 
Basil-

Hugs and dust for you, my dear
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I''m so, so, so sorry all of this has happened.

You may want to call local pawn shops, jewelers, or appraisers (if there are any) and let them know about your ring. Provide photos, etc, etc. *Just* in case someone happens to swing by and tries to sell it. They may be willing to work with you and help you out.

Maybe you can even call a local news station? I know it sounds silly- but who doesn''t want to get $1000, if you''re really willing to provide that as a reward. News stations are always scrambling for stories... A kind-hearted, worried local woman in search of an important piece of jewelry may spark their interest.
 
I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your rings.
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I would wait a little while, then replace them with a place holder for now (cheap temp stone in your old setting is a great idea- a colored stone could be lovely too).
I lost my original 0.2ish ct e-ring; I put it somewhere safe when it was not wearable (needed more work than the ring was worth, which was about $300). I have not yet ever told my husband, I still feel retarded about it to this day maybe four or five years later. I still miss it, despite the lack of monetary value, of course. I did exactly what you propose- wore a number of non-diamond rings in nice settings to decide what I liked, then ended up replacing it with an actual diamond like three or four years later. And now I insure my special jewelry fast, too.
 
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