ladies...should he dump you if ...

[Dancing Fire]

you got caught cheating on him?

PSers always talk about men cheating. how about the other way around?

 

[Autumnovember]

I wouldn't be cheating in the first place

 

[ForteKitty]

I sure hope so. Wouldn't have any respect left for him if he didn't dump my @ss right there and then.

 

[athenaworth]

I've always thought to myself that if I am looking at someone else in a way that I should be looking at my husband, then I don't need to be with my husband or I have to take myself out of the situation. Additionally, women are hard-wired differently than men. Men really can be lead around by their peenie. I honestly think that for a woman to cheat, there has to be some emotion attached to it, so when we cheat, we really cheat, as opposed to a man who could just get his rocks off (total generalization, I know, shoot me now). So, yes. I would think that he shoud dump me if he caught me, but if I were to that point, I'd probably want to be dumped.

 

[jstarfireb]

A few years ago I would have said yes. But now I think it should be taken in context, and I believe strongly in second chances. Neither my husband nor I have cheated, but if we slipped, I would hope the other would be kind enough to offer forgiveness and a second chance. Our relationship is too precious to be dissolved by a moment of weakness.

ETA: By the same token, I wouldn't dump him for cheating. In fact, I'd consider having an open marriage if I couldn't satisfy his needs.

 

[diva rose]

I sure hope so. Wouldn't have any respect left for him if he didn't dump my @ss right there and then.

LOL - this comment made me laugh.

DH has told me he'd dump me. This conversation started with what I would do if he cheated. So I asked him, what would you do if I cheated? That got him thinking - haha. He said straight away - dump you.

I really do think it's a personal preference. Can you or your partner trust again?
I know my DH would never be able to trust me again so there is no point of us staying in the relationship.

If they had sex with someone - I really don't think of it as 'a moment of weakness'.
That is a good 30 minutes of knowing he/she is doing the wrong thing. An affair - that's even worse - emotional or physical.

I did read somewhere though that men can tolerate emotional cheating over physical cheating. Women can tolerate more physical cheating over emotional cheating.

 

[manderz]

Yup. That's our agreement anyway.

 

[violet3]

I honestly don't know. i would have said yes years ago....but i was younger and didn't fully EVER comprehend the nature of a lengthy sustainable relationship. We've been together for 7 years now. I agree with Jstar...i think we could get past it if we had to. I would definitely NEVER say "absolutely i would leave him if he cheated" and i'd hope he would think the same. I just think you don't know until you experience it.

I had a REALLY good friend who is married (now with a 3 year old) and her husband cheated on her. They didn't have the baby then, but when she found out she called me and i spent a gut-wrenching night over at her house while she cried and couldn't believe what she had found out. He apologized and she retreated from all of us -- i couldn't understand why she would ever imagine taking him back after that. It was really hard to accept as a friend. I wasn't married then, and i suppose now that i am, i understand how complex relationships are and although i still don't know if i would react the same way, i am aware that being in a relationship is not always easy, but worth struggling for, if necessary.

 

[Nomsdeplume]

Yes. If I cheated on him, he deserves better.

 

[Jennifer W]

Should he? I don't know. I can't make hypothetical moral judgements like this.
Would he? No. Of course not. Which puts even more pressure on me not to cheat...

(I wouldn't!)

 

[Tuckins1]

Yep. Same rules apply. (Not that I ever would...)