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Ladies, how much do you prefer your OB-GYN to be female?

Ladies, how much do you prefer your OB-GYN to be female?

  • 1. Female Only

    Votes: 23 39.0%
  • 2.

    Votes: 1 1.7%
  • 3.

    Votes: 11 18.6%
  • 4.

    Votes: 4 6.8%
  • 5. No Preference

    Votes: 16 27.1%
  • 6.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 7.

    Votes: 1 1.7%
  • 8.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 9. Male Only

    Votes: 3 5.1%

  • Total voters
    59
  • Poll closed .

Puppmom

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When in labor - I don’t care. Even most prenatal - ok with a man. Pelvic exam - woman only.
 

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If you're a woman of a certain age, you did NOT come of age in a time where female OB/GYNs were the norm, rather the opposite.

Having said that, I have experience with both, and right now with that experience, women have my vote by about 10 miles. I NEVER want anyone to have to deal with the casual assumption that female body parts are disposable, that I did when I was seeing a man. The woman doctor (who has recently retired, but I've shifted to another woman) was a complete 180 in approach and attitude.
 

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Just like I prefer my knee doctor to have knees, I prefer my hoo ha doc to have a hoo ha. There's a lot to be said for "I know what you mean" and having it actually be true.
 

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I know this is opposite- but I agree with the women so far- I much prefer a male GP.
 

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I would "prefer" a female OBGYN, but would never not see one just because he's male. Actually, almost all the GPs & OBs who have treated me for pelvic-related topics have been men. In my area, it's hard enough to even find a doctor taking new patients, so I take what I can find.

Separately, I'm aware of another issue about some male doctors (across specialties) minimizing or invalidating womens' health concerns. So I'm always keeping an eye out for that.

Anne
 

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Just like I prefer my knee doctor to have knees, I prefer my hoo ha doc to have a hoo ha. There's a lot to be said for "I know what you mean" and having it actually be true.

This.

I feel they are better able to understand, describe symptoms or what to expect of different procedures, and are more able to reassure that something is normal. Since they have the same parts, it isn't just stuff they learned from a book.
 

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I have a preference, but I'm not that bothered. I find if they're a bit older, not so wet behind the ears they're more understanding. The last 20 something I had was too intense, didn't listen, and acted like it was now or never for children. With me at 34 then she's close to right, but I didn't need HER getting panicked about it during my appointment.

I expect my feelings towards doctors are not static. In my late teens I wanted a woman only. At the moment I don't mind. When I get older I may want a woman again. From older friends experiences they find females less hysterectomy happy.
 

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I would prefer a female but I have had the same male gyno for a long time. Since it's only once a year and I haven't had any problems, I stick with him. I'm just too lazy to find a female. If I had issues, I probably would.
 

baby monster

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I don't care as long as the person has good bedside manner and knows what they are doing. It's very difficult to find a good OB because most of them are complete a-holes male or female. I went through lots of OBs before finding a competent doctor who happens to be male.

As a side note, it's much easier to find a decent GYN because high liability insurance premiums are forcing doctors out of practicing OB.
 

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My good friend who is an Ob/Gyn and lives and practices far away recommended her former professor from medical school who is a male gynecologist and I saw him most of my adulthood until the last 5 years when I started going to a female gynecologist because he stopped taking my insurance. I like my current female Gyn very much and have even followed her through a practice change and move and doubt I would ever go back to seeing a male Gyn. Especially at this stage in my life when I know she gets what I am dealing with probably better than a male Gyn could.

However my current internist (who has been my internist for probably 15 plus years) is male and I really like him and hope I can stay with him as my internist for a very long time. He is very kind and knowledgeable and very caring and a do no harm first kind of doctor. Which I value.

For me the most important characteristic/feature/trait in my physicians are that 1. they are knowledgeable and that 2. they seem to care about my well being/compassionate and that 3. they are responsive and active listeners

Their gender is the least important thing IMO. There are males who are good physicians and females who are good physicians and males who are bad physicians and females who are bad physicians. One's gender is not indicative of one being a good or bad physician. And it is hard enough to find a doctor you like and click with so I am not going to limit it to one gender. As Rhett Butler said in GWTW, "frankly my dear, I don't give a damn" (about their gender).:halo:

@baby monster you make an excellent point about the high liability costs driving all the good Ob/Gyns out of the Ob practice and being solely Gyns. It's a real shame. All my Gyns have only practiced as Gyns and that is specifically what I wanted. I didnt want my appointments being rescheduled because of their other patients going into labor. So I specifically chose just a Gyn but I have heard from my girlfriends how difficult it is to find a good Ob. :blackeye:
 
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I prefer female doctors across the board. Had I listened to my male Gyn 17 years ago I would have been dead. He brushed off the lump I had in my breast as a cyst. Well, a few months later I was in surgery and having Chemo Therapy. After that incident, I vowed to only use female doctors with female parts.
 

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I have actually never had a male gyn. I never sought out a female, it just always kind of happened that way. That said, I wouldn't seek out a male either.
Regular doctor, I dont really care, I've had both and dont really have a preference.
 

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HI:

I look for compassion in any health care provider. If that is absent, I don't see them regardless of sex.

cheers--Sharon
 

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I would prefer a female ob/gyn with a gentle and competent bedside manner. Emphasis on gentle - the first one I ever saw rammed the speculum and it hurt like a mofo.
 

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I have a SUPER sweet male OBGYN. I normally do care about the gender of whom services me under the hood. I can't recall how I even found this guy now, but he's so great. Maybe the fact that he's gay helps me... lol
 

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Having moved in the past 8 months, I will be looking for a new OB/GYN very soon. I last saw mine in June. I wound up going to HIM by error, right after I moved to CA. He had bought the practice a few months before and my insurance company still had the previous doctor, a female. I caught on before the appointment began and the receptionist offered to cancel, but I needed to see some one, and as it turned out, I loved him.

I've had several ob/gyns over the years, thanks to moves, changes in insurance, ect. Both men and women. I can honestly say, that while I tend to look for a female, as long as I feel comfortable with a male, I will continue to see him.

Both my babies were delivered by female doctors, but that was mostly luck of the draw, as to who was on call the days they arrived.
 

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I have a male OB. He is actually the son of the Dr who delivered my children 25/27 years ago. At first I resisted, as he is close to my age, and switched to a woman. I didn't really like her as much and relented and returned to the son. He's very courteous and kind, even assisting me to sit up after the exam. :lol-2:
 

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The doctors sex does not concern me, bedside manner does.
 

the_mother_thing

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Just like I prefer my knee doctor to have knees, I prefer my hoo ha doc to have a hoo ha. There's a lot to be said for "I know what you mean" and having it actually be true.

Ditto! I am moving 30 miles away from my gyn in a few weeks, but I have been with her now for 13 years and I joke with her that she is my longest relationship so I will keep driving the distance to go see her. :lol: When it comes to trying to explain something or understand what's going on in the nether regions, it helps to have a bit of 'first-hand experience'. I have seen her male practice partner a couple times for basic stuff, but for my annual & discussing any changes/issues, it's always been her. :mrgreen2:

A guy doc may have seen a thousand hoo-has & delivered a thousand babies, but he's never had either one to know exactly what we go thru. :snooty:
 

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The doctors sex does not concern me, bedside manner does.
While I've generally been seen by women, the last two have been great bc I asked around for ones with great bedside manner. I know the doc that asscherhalolover goes to by reputation and he's on my list of who to see next.
 

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the OBGYN that saved my life twice was a man. prior to that I had dr's of both sexes that were absolutely horrible. I was told it was all in my head. I would be dead by now had I listened to that.

He was excellent. I honestly did not care if he was male, female, whatever. as it was, he was the age of my dad and had kids my age and was married. I say this only because he was really very kind and also hard to see! I was recommended him by someone I worked with at the time, and boy she was right on the money. Great bedside manner, paid attention to you, didn't just blow off what you thought about certain things. And lord knows I brought in several studies for him to look at and we discussed them in depth (from what he told me, he enjoyed the fact I would do this as it kept him on his toes!)

I really don't care who I see. I click a little more with male Dr's , and female Dr's seem to be a bit rougher (which I don't like) but that willingness to allow me to participate in my own healthcare is key to me no matter the sex.

Funny enough my other half blatantly prefers a female Dr. Not because its a sex thing, but because he feels they're more responsive.
 

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Weirdly I much prefer a female doctor for day to day female issues, I figure they “get it” a bit better. Yet for all my OB/ GYN surgeries and birth (caesarean) my specialists were all male. I just chose the recommended specialist.
 

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Would a man be comfortable going to a female urologist if he had penis issues?
I bet not.
 

kenny

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Would a man be comfortable going to a female urologist if he had penis issues?
I bet not.

I suspect men, like women here, vary.
That said, I suspect the peak of the bell curves for men and women would not match when answering this poll question.

As the examiner I'm pretty sure that male doctors are more likely than female ones to be, seem, or be suspected of being creepy, or generate concern/fear/anxiety about these examinations.

The women here on PS there have expressed a preference for female OB-GYNs.
So far there are 15 votes on the prefer-woman side vs. one on the prefer-man side.

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For totally different reasons men may actually prefer a woman handling his junk ... not all of course, but some.
Same reason, men are more likely than women to be creeps.

Sorry, but I think men and women are different when it comes to stuff below the belt.
But, it's an interesting topic.
 
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Kenny - thank you for the analysis. Appreciate the information.:wavey:
 

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Weirdly I much prefer a female doctor for day to day female issues, I figure they “get it” a bit better. Yet for all my OB/ GYN surgeries and birth (caesarean) my specialists were all male. I just chose the recommended specialist.

I wonder if that is an Aussie thing, because I'm the same mostly always have had female doctors, and the ratio here of most of the specialists that deliver babies is heavily a male dominated profession. My female doctor recommended a list of the best OB/GYNs where I live and out of 10 of them I think only one was a woman. And the best 3 were all men, and we went with the guy who at the time was number one on the list. He was and is a rude arrogant a@s#h*le with zero bedside manor, absolute brilliant doctor so I just put up with his personality, or lack thereof.

I also go with the theory if it's just looking at my lady parts then the female doctor is fine, if it's delivering a baby, we wanted the best so I was willing to tolerate the dude lacking any kind of positive personality traits. If a woman had of been no.1 on that list I would have selected the woman.
 
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I kinda prefer it but have have never had any issues with male doctors. Most gyno docs I’ve seen were men and absolutely wonderful, very kind & professional.
 

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Male...the two females I went to were ditzy. I could not wait to change doctors after the last female obgyn tried to sell eyelash lengthener products. Seriously? The last time I went to her for my exam the posters etc were GONE..and so was I. Very happy with my male obgyn. Professional...considerate, explains every step and he is adored in my community.

Parts are parts.

FM
 

Asscherhalo_lover

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Would a man be comfortable going to a female urologist if he had penis issues?
I bet not.

My husband would, a doctor is a doctor, they all have the same qualifications and had similar training. Not every man is scared of a female doctor touching their penis. If millenials have anything going for us, I think I can say overall we are less ashamed and embarrassed of our bodies.
 
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