PrincessLily2009
Rough_Rock
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This is only partially LIW related, so bear with me.
BF lives 50 miles away. This translates to approximately one hour by car each way.
I was never fond of his mother, although she SEEMED fond of me at first. We got along fine for a year or so, and then all of a sudden she became more and more critical of me, until she "banned" me from their home a few months ago. I''m not exaggerating-I am literally "not allowed" inside the house. Unfortunately, BF lives with them, and since my house is an hour away, this has proved to be a bit of a problem.
Since someone will probably ask exactly why I was "banned," I''ll try my best to explain what happened. When I came over, I would make small talk with her, but I''m not a talkative person, and I am extremely private about the details of my life. According to her, I was disrespectful because I didn''t talk to her, and that''s why I''m not allowed to visit them, anymore. I really don''t understand why she''s saying I didn''t talk to her, because I did, but it really doesn''t matter to me at this point.
Anyway, I feel that if BF really views me as his future wife, he should try to rectify the situation. He claims he''s tried to talk to her, but she''s not the kind of person who can be reasoned with-she''s the "it''s my way or the highway," type. She ALWAYS gets what she wants-no matter what. Everyone who lives with her is too scared of her to go against her. Even her own father (who lives with them, too) is too scared to speak up for himself.
Personally, I feel like if he really views me as his future wife, he shouldn''t allow me to be treated this way. I offered to get a place with him, but he doesn''t want to move out of their home. No, we wouldn''t be millionaires, but we wouldn''t end up starving on the street, either. Frankly, I''m a bit hurt that he wouldn''t be willing to tighten his belt a bit to get us both out of this situation. He''s shown interest in moving in with me for awhile-I know it''s not a relationship thing. He just doesn''t want to do it.
I would never allow my family to treat my significant other this way. I don''t know what to do. Help!
BF lives 50 miles away. This translates to approximately one hour by car each way.
I was never fond of his mother, although she SEEMED fond of me at first. We got along fine for a year or so, and then all of a sudden she became more and more critical of me, until she "banned" me from their home a few months ago. I''m not exaggerating-I am literally "not allowed" inside the house. Unfortunately, BF lives with them, and since my house is an hour away, this has proved to be a bit of a problem.
Since someone will probably ask exactly why I was "banned," I''ll try my best to explain what happened. When I came over, I would make small talk with her, but I''m not a talkative person, and I am extremely private about the details of my life. According to her, I was disrespectful because I didn''t talk to her, and that''s why I''m not allowed to visit them, anymore. I really don''t understand why she''s saying I didn''t talk to her, because I did, but it really doesn''t matter to me at this point.
Anyway, I feel that if BF really views me as his future wife, he should try to rectify the situation. He claims he''s tried to talk to her, but she''s not the kind of person who can be reasoned with-she''s the "it''s my way or the highway," type. She ALWAYS gets what she wants-no matter what. Everyone who lives with her is too scared of her to go against her. Even her own father (who lives with them, too) is too scared to speak up for himself.
Personally, I feel like if he really views me as his future wife, he shouldn''t allow me to be treated this way. I offered to get a place with him, but he doesn''t want to move out of their home. No, we wouldn''t be millionaires, but we wouldn''t end up starving on the street, either. Frankly, I''m a bit hurt that he wouldn''t be willing to tighten his belt a bit to get us both out of this situation. He''s shown interest in moving in with me for awhile-I know it''s not a relationship thing. He just doesn''t want to do it.
I would never allow my family to treat my significant other this way. I don''t know what to do. Help!