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Discussion in 'Ladies in Waiting' started by vip0802, Dec 27, 2011.

  1. vip0802
    Brilliant_Rock

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    by vip0802 » Dec 27, 2011
    hello ladies! it's been a very long time since i've posted anything, but i figure it's time to let you know what's been going on. in January, i broke up with my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years (the one i had originally joined the Ladies in Waiting list for). it was a really rough breakup considering neither of us really did anything wrong, but our relationship had become strained over the months leading up, and i had come to the realization that i hadn't been happy in the relationship for a while.

    during this time, i had met someone online through other online friends and we hit it off instantly! we began chatting just as friends, and he had been wonderful to talk to while i was going through the breakup. slowly but surely we began to develop feelings for each other, and started dating. it was strange at first since i hadn't expected to meet anyone so soon, and i swore up and down that i would never have a long distance relationship (he lived in Maine and i live in the suburbs outside DC) or be in a relationship with someone i met online. i must say that i'm happy i broke my "rules", and thank goodness for the technological achievement we call Skype. it's amazing how we both learned to be better communicators even though we were hundreds of miles apart!

    we finally met in person in March at a convention in Philadelphia that we were both attending, and it was love at first in-real-life sight! afterwards, we were able to see each other about every 2 months, but having to say good-bye to him after only a week together never got any easier. in late summer we decided we didn't want to waste any more time without one another, so he started looking for jobs in the DC area, and accepted one in September. in October, he officially moved in with me and it has been the most wonderful 2 1/2 months i could ever ask for! currently, we're saving up for a house and he's saving a little extra for a ring. :appl:

    it's definitely been a hectic year, and i had my share of people criticizing my decision to leave my ex and start this whirlwind relationship, but i've never been happier. he's 35 and i'm 31, so from the beginning we both knew that we weren't in it for a casual fling and we wanted to share our lives together. we compliment each other in so many ways, and i love the fact that we take the time to just appreciate each other's company every day. since the majority of our relationship was spent being long distance, the little mundane things like going to the grocery store with each other is special.

    anyway, thanks for letting me ramble about me and the bf, and i'm hoping i get to hang out with all you wonderful ladies more often! ***dust to all***
     
    


    


  2. vc10um
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    by vc10um » Dec 27, 2011
    vip!!! I was hoping you would check in at some point, and I'm so excited to hear that, while things haven't gone to "plan" they appear to be going very well! :appl: Congratulations on everything!
     
  3. madelise
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    by madelise » Dec 27, 2011
    I'm a sucker for these I-left-my-SO-in-waiting-of-a-long-time and finally found true love stories!! <3 glad you're in a happy place now!! Are you two in the same profession (re: the Convention)
     
  4. vip0802
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    by vip0802 » Dec 27, 2011
    VC - hiya!!!! thanks so much hon and a huge congrats on getting married! i'm off to find your wedding posts and catch up now! :appl:

    madelise - i'm a sucker for those stories too! it's amazing what i thought being happy truly meant compared to now. =) about the convention: no, we're not in the same profession at all. it was actually a convention for e-cig users and we had both used them to quit smoking about a year before we actually met. coincidentally we both lost a big chunk of weight 1 year prior to that, so we had a lot of things to talk about when we first started chatting.
     
    


    


  5. LJL
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    by LJL » Dec 30, 2011
    :bigsmile: I don't know your previous story (other than from this post) but it makes me happy.

    I feel like every relationship we go through shows us what we really want- so we break up and find someone who has the good qualities of the previous SO PLUS all the good qualities they didn't have. This has definitely been my experience and I have caught some sh*t for being a "serial dater" since I've not been single for more than a month at a time in the last 7 years. But I'm happy with my current SO who I have been with for almost three years. Being happy is what matters - so ignore those haters- there is nothing wrong with meeting someone online as long as you have all those things in common in person that make a relationship work.


    Congrats on your new-found happiness! Now that you know what feels right, you know how wrong that previous relationship was.
     

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