Invitations and family

[ilovesparkles]

So I have several cousins that are in college, do I send them a separate invitation or can I send one to the family to include all the cousins that are off in school etc???

It would be so nice to save on the number of invites!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

If they still technically live with their parents during the summers, holidays, etc., I''d include them on their parents'' invitation. If they live on their own and support themselves, then I think they should get their own invitation. That is not according to an etiquette book...just my personal common sense!

 

[princesss]

I don''t know the official rule, but I''d think you can include them on their parents invitations unless you''re inviting them with a guest, in which case they would need their own invitation.

 

[Blair138]

If they are over 18 you usually send them their own invite. Especially if you are inviting them with a guest.

 

[ilovesparkles]

Thank you ladies! I''m mulling over this but haven''t asked my mom yet.

DS2006 - Some of them do and some of them don''t, and I want to keep it all uniform. Seems easier that way I guess, but I see your point.

Princess & Blair - The whole guest thing has me thinking that I had better send them all separate. I just don''t know who has a BF/GF and who doesn''t. And it would be the polite thing to offer the option to my family I would think. Grrrr.


So if family has a BF/GF, do you automatically invite them? Or only if you know they have one or have been introduced to the family???

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 5/23/2009 5:27:55 PM
Author: ilovesparkles
So if family has a BF/GF, do you automatically invite them? Or only if you know they have one or have been introduced to the family???

Totally up to you. I personally wouldn''t feel obligated to invite the younger family member with a boyfriend or girlfriend, especially if budget and space was an issue.

 

[kama_s]

Date: 5/23/2009 6:46:01 PM
Author: Clairitek


Totally up to you. I personally wouldn''t feel obligated to invite the younger family member with a boyfriend or girlfriend, especially if budget and space was an issue.

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I probably wouldn''t be inviting the bf/gf, unless your cousins are in grad school or higher and in a serious committed relationship.

Etiquette wise, if they''re above 18, they must get their own separate invite. Butttt, to save cost, I would probably send a joint invite to the family since their "permanent" residence is still the parent''s house.

 

[ilovesparkles]

Thank you Clairitek and Kama_s! After talking with H last night and going through his A list along with mine (which are both too long), I think we have decided that single people just aren''t going to get to bring a date. Some may think its harsh, but we simply can''t afford to feed people we don''t know, or give them favors, or programs etc etc. Cousins included! If I have never heard of cousin jane''s BF or he has never been introduced to the family, then he doesn''t get to come! After subtracting all the +1 after people''s names, I think the list is going to be a lot more manageable!

Thank you for the help girls!

As far as sending invites to cousins not living at home yet, I haven''t made a decision yet. Think I had better talk to good old mom first. Sigh.