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Ideal_Rock
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14 days to go...
FMIL has called FI this week about the following issues:
1) She''s upset that she''s not listed as the hostess to the RD. -- She''s NOT the hostess. She said she WOULDN''T pay for it. So we are. And guess who is listed as the host? NOBODY. We sent out the invitations while she was on a cruise to Bermuda. Number of times she mentioned the RD between telling us she wouldn''t pay for it and receiving her invitations? ZERO. I''m not quite sure how it was going to get planned if I hadn''t done it. She certainly showed no interest before.
2) She can''t believe that he didn''t ask Mr. So-and-So, family friend of 30 years, to do a reading in the wedding. She hasn''t mentioned it at all in the previous 14 months but M "should have known". Well, I''ve met the man ONCE, the programs are already PRINTED, and the only reading we are including has ALREADY been assigned. She''s going to blow up when she finds out my mom is doing it, but M and I decided it would be fitting based on the reading and my mom loves to speak in public... plus she''s paying for the whole reception. And she''s nice to M.
3) She is upset that she''s not getting her hair done at the same place that the bridesmaids are. M called to ask her to make her own appointment to suit her schedule and she told him repeatedly that I''d already made her appointment while he tried to tell her that in fact I had asked him to call her because she DIDN''T HAVE AN APPOINTMENT. I have 10 slots and they are all taken. So she made an appointment. Then she cancelled it and made her appointment somewhere else, but made another appointment for her granddaughter, who is my jr. bridesmaid and ALREADY HAS an appointment as she''s with the bridal party. She insists that only SHE knows how the 10 year old should have her hair done, but honestly the 10 year old has been telling me how she wants to wear her hair for the past year and I think she can tell the stylist herself.
4) She told M that he''s being "rail-roaded" on this wedding because she can''t see that he''s making just as many decisions as I am. She doesn''t like the decisions so he must be forced to agree to them or something. He says he does NOT feel this way.
Things he can''t bear to mention to her yet, lest she scream some more...
1) she''s upsetting M. Every SINGLE time she calls he screams when he hangs up the phone. He''s stressed out, not sleeping, and having stomach problems and he says it''s all because of her. This is no way to treat her son right before his wedding.
2) The song she picked out for the Mother-Son dance has uncomfortable romantic tones to it and M won''t agree to it... but he can''t figure out how to tell her because it will start another argument, nor does he have any other suggestions because he really doesn''t want to dance with her considering how she''s treating him.
3) If she has decided that she DOES want to be the hostess for the RD, she already owes us $2000, not including the food, because we planned it without her and made our own decisions, re: flowers, chartered bus, and a band, plus the full-color invitations.
I just can''t take much more of this and he''s at the end of his rope. He won''t let me call her to discuss it because he''s trying to protect me from her but I''m just about to give it back to her... She is just, UGH, so infuriating. I really wish she would get mad enough to not come, but I think she''ll get just mad enough to make sure EVERYBODY hears about it.
His bestman is his brother and I begged him to call him and ask him to step in but he can''t get in touch with him for some reason.
ugh.
FMIL has called FI this week about the following issues:
1) She''s upset that she''s not listed as the hostess to the RD. -- She''s NOT the hostess. She said she WOULDN''T pay for it. So we are. And guess who is listed as the host? NOBODY. We sent out the invitations while she was on a cruise to Bermuda. Number of times she mentioned the RD between telling us she wouldn''t pay for it and receiving her invitations? ZERO. I''m not quite sure how it was going to get planned if I hadn''t done it. She certainly showed no interest before.
2) She can''t believe that he didn''t ask Mr. So-and-So, family friend of 30 years, to do a reading in the wedding. She hasn''t mentioned it at all in the previous 14 months but M "should have known". Well, I''ve met the man ONCE, the programs are already PRINTED, and the only reading we are including has ALREADY been assigned. She''s going to blow up when she finds out my mom is doing it, but M and I decided it would be fitting based on the reading and my mom loves to speak in public... plus she''s paying for the whole reception. And she''s nice to M.
3) She is upset that she''s not getting her hair done at the same place that the bridesmaids are. M called to ask her to make her own appointment to suit her schedule and she told him repeatedly that I''d already made her appointment while he tried to tell her that in fact I had asked him to call her because she DIDN''T HAVE AN APPOINTMENT. I have 10 slots and they are all taken. So she made an appointment. Then she cancelled it and made her appointment somewhere else, but made another appointment for her granddaughter, who is my jr. bridesmaid and ALREADY HAS an appointment as she''s with the bridal party. She insists that only SHE knows how the 10 year old should have her hair done, but honestly the 10 year old has been telling me how she wants to wear her hair for the past year and I think she can tell the stylist herself.
4) She told M that he''s being "rail-roaded" on this wedding because she can''t see that he''s making just as many decisions as I am. She doesn''t like the decisions so he must be forced to agree to them or something. He says he does NOT feel this way.
Things he can''t bear to mention to her yet, lest she scream some more...
1) she''s upsetting M. Every SINGLE time she calls he screams when he hangs up the phone. He''s stressed out, not sleeping, and having stomach problems and he says it''s all because of her. This is no way to treat her son right before his wedding.
2) The song she picked out for the Mother-Son dance has uncomfortable romantic tones to it and M won''t agree to it... but he can''t figure out how to tell her because it will start another argument, nor does he have any other suggestions because he really doesn''t want to dance with her considering how she''s treating him.
3) If she has decided that she DOES want to be the hostess for the RD, she already owes us $2000, not including the food, because we planned it without her and made our own decisions, re: flowers, chartered bus, and a band, plus the full-color invitations.
I just can''t take much more of this and he''s at the end of his rope. He won''t let me call her to discuss it because he''s trying to protect me from her but I''m just about to give it back to her... She is just, UGH, so infuriating. I really wish she would get mad enough to not come, but I think she''ll get just mad enough to make sure EVERYBODY hears about it.
His bestman is his brother and I begged him to call him and ask him to step in but he can''t get in touch with him for some reason.
ugh.
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