If you were a bridesmaid...

[CNOS128]

... would you rather receive as a gift:

1. a) a silver necklace or
b) a yellow gold-plated necklace

2. a) a locket or
b) a chain with an initial/monogram pendant


I''m trying to decide which necklaces to give my bridesmaids. I can''t afford to get them the necklaces I''d like to in gold (we''re paying for their dresses, too!), so I need to choose between gold-plated and silver. (For what it''s worth, my mom hate gold-plated stuff, and thinks silver is the way to go.)
I''ve also seen a lot of cute initial charms/pendants, but I''m not sure if it''s silly to get those since it''s kind of trend that''s already passed. I do like the look of lockets, but I''d like to know what other people think!

I would provide pictures, but I haven''t yet narrowed down the style choices. Am definitely open to ideas, too!

Thanks!

 

[redfaerythinker]

well I know I prefer silver over gold. I''ve never been a locket fan but only because I can never get the pictures in right. But that could just be because i''m a bit spastic that way. And I for one like initial stuff. I don''t think they have to be "trendy" as long as they''re in a classic style.

Hmmm, that probably didn''t help much did it?

 

[rockzilla]

Follow up question. If you were a bridesmaid, would you rather:

a) Pay for your own dress and receive a lovely ~$100 value bridesmaids gift

b) Have your dress paid for and receive a more inexpensive ($20-30) but still thoughtful gift

PS silver initial all the way!

 

[pocahontas]

I''m so in the silver initial camp! FWIW, I don''t like gold-plated anything. I would definitely prefer the second of the two scenarios Rockzilla presented. Your BM''s are going to be touched by your thoughtfulness!

 

[jstarfireb]

Silver initial for me!

 

[oobiecoo]

I''d probably rather have silver than gold plated... and a monogrammed bangle bracelet rather than a locket. I know you didn''t say anything about a bangle but I wanted to throw that in lol

And I''d much rather have my dress paid for and get a smaller gift.

 

[Deelight]

I would go the silver initial the one reason I wouldn''t go gold plated is I have funky body chemistry that turns gold plating green

. BTW I love initial jewelery, it is just so simple and wearable .

I think it is lovely your paying for their dresses and I am sure your BM''s totally appreciate it, an added gift is just like the cherry on top .

 

[AllieLuv83]

Date: 12/16/2008 12:05:03 AM
Author:TheBigT


... would you rather receive as a gift:


1. a) a silver necklace or

b) a yellow gold-plated necklace


2. a) a locket or

b) a chain with an initial/monogram pendant



I''m trying to decide which necklaces to give my bridesmaids. I can''t afford to get them the necklaces I''d like to in gold (we''re paying for their dresses, too!), so I need to choose between gold-plated and silver. (For what it''s worth, my mom hate gold-plated stuff, and thinks silver is the way to go.)

I''ve also seen a lot of cute initial charms/pendants, but I''m not sure if it''s silly to get those since it''s kind of trend that''s already passed. I do like the look of lockets, but I''d like to know what other people think!


I would provide pictures, but I haven''t yet narrowed down the style choices. Am definitely open to ideas, too!


Thanks!

A silver chain with an initial monogram pendant but I may be biased because that is exactly what I am getting three of my BM''s

 

[girlie-girl]

Another vote for silver and the initial/monogram pendant.

 

[zoebartlett]

Do you have pictures of the items you're thinking about? I'd love to see the options.

To answer your question, I'd prefer either a silver necklace or a locket. Do you know if your bridesmaids wear necklaces on a regular basis?

ETA: I just saw that you don't have pics yet.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I would absolutely prefer the silver monogram necklace, if those were my options.

However, I probably wouldn't wear the necklace much, either way. I'm not into monogram jewelry or lockets. But, thats just me...I have "interesting" taste in jewelry...I'm very particular.

 

[CNOS128]

Okay, looks like the consensus is silver!

Thanks so much for your opinions; this helps a lot.

Neither of my bridesmaids owns a lot of jewelry (and neither has much money to spend, which is why we're paying for their dresses and why I want to get them nice-ish gifts, within my budget), so I want to get them something that's easily wearable and that they can keep for a long time. Silver makes sense that way, and no one will turn green.

It seems like a lot of the contemporary jewelry designers are making jewelry in gold-fill these days (maybe because the price of gold has gone up so much?), which is really frustrating!



I'm also not married to the idea of an initial/monogram pendant, but I do want to get necklace (and I don't need to get them the same necklace). I'm totally open to other ideas, if there are any!


And, Rockzilla I choose (b) to your question. I have so much stuff at this point that I don't need gifts at all; I wouldn't want someone to spend a lot of money on me either way, whether or not they were purchasing my dress.


ETA: ItaliaHairColor, what would your ideal moderately-priced jewelry item be?

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I like the sentiment of this necklace....
http://gifts.redenvelope.com/flowers/circleoffriendsnecklace-30000960?viewpos=56&trackingpgroup=rffjw&catid=rffjw

This one is nice, with two pearls (one for each of you...)
http://gifts.redenvelope.com/gifts/lilypadpearlnecklace-28415398?viewpos=11&trackingpgroup=rneck&catid=rneck

This one could be completely personal..your wish for each of your friends...
http://gifts.redenvelope.com/gifts/wishcharmnecklaces-24558573?viewpos=18&trackingpgroup=rneck&catid=rneck

This is a cute message too....
http://gifts.redenvelope.com/gifts/inseparableringsnecklace-28370017?viewpos=57&trackingpgroup=rneck&catid=rneck

This one is pricey (over $100.00)...but it has **diamonds** and is sentimental
http://gifts.redenvelope.com/gifts/whatfillsherheartdiamondnecklace-25143628?viewpos=42&trackingpgroup=rneck&catid=rneck

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Date: 12/16/2008 2:25:40 AM
Author: Deelight
I would go the silver initial the one reason I wouldn''t go gold plated is I have funky body chemistry that turns gold plating green

. BTW I love initial jewelery, it is just so simple and wearable .

I think it is lovely your paying for their dresses and I am sure your BM''s totally appreciate it, an added gift is just like the cherry on top .

Ditto...I agree completely...i also turn things green...

How about a simple beaded necklace (DIY) and the charm?

 

[Rhea]

Silver initial.

But honestly, past the wedding, I wouldn''t wear it at all. All the gifts I received as a BM haven''t been my taste and have either gone to my sister or been donated. Buying the exact same thing for everyone just doesn''t always work.

 

[Rhea]

Date: 12/16/2008 12:22:34 AM
Author: rockzilla
Follow up question. If you were a bridesmaid, would you rather:


a) Pay for your own dress and receive a lovely ~$100 value bridesmaids gift


b) Have your dress paid for and receive a more inexpensive ($20-30) but still thoughtful gift


PS silver initial all the way!

B all the way!! Paying for dresses is the best present!

 

[musey]

Well, I don''t have to tell you that metal color preference will vary greatly between people. That said, I always prefer solid over plated. So for me it would be silver.

I personally love lockets, and feel kinda over the initial craze, so I''d choose a locket. Lots of people love initials though...

 

[musey]

Date: 12/16/2008 12:22:34 AM
Author: rockzilla
a) Pay for your own dress and receive a lovely ~$100 value bridesmaids gift

b) Have your dress paid for and receive a more inexpensive ($20-30) but still thoughtful gift

B, without question!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Silver all the way! I can''t stand gold plated stuff because the gold wears away and well.......it just seems cheap to me. (just sayin...)

 

[Elmorton]

Silver locket, hands down.

 

[bee*]

I''d prefer silver and I love the thought of a locket.

 

[CNOS128]

Thanks again for all your opinions! I am going to go with silver.

I will probably get one of them a locket, since she''s a new mother and I think I could put a picture of her kid inside and personalize it for her. Still debating about whether I want them matching -- but I have a while to decide!

You''ve all been most helpful!