I met a guy...!

[OUpearlgirl]

I''ve been single for oh... 6 or so months now. I''ve been loving it.

I went to a wedding 2 weekends ago and brought a friend as my date. He introduced me to his good friend who turned out to be a MAJOR catch. Here''s the deal.. He just graduated from the Air Force Academy last May and is now pilot training about 2 hours from where I live. We "caravanned" the day after the wedding til we got to where I live for dinner.. Then this weekend we went to a concert together (he brought friends as did I.) Now this coming weekend he is taking me to see the Lion King on stage.

He is the first guy in months to put forth so much effort and I am LOVING it. I''ve been running around the house like a giddy school girl. I really like him a lot (well, as much as you can like someone after 2 weeks.)

My question is this... I know that it''s very early, but we seem to really like each other. For those of you with experience, what is it like to date someone in the military? Luckily in the last few months I''ve gained lots of independence.. so the long distance thing does NOT bother me. I realize he won''t have as much free time as other guys his age.. I''d just like a little bit of insight for what I''m getting myself into.

 

[Blackpaw]

OOooh very exciting...a man in a uniform too, meow

well i got nothing on the military life but im glad to hear you''re being spoiled

 

[vintagelover229]

Date: 5/11/2009 11:48:07 PM
Author: Blackpaw
OOooh very exciting...a man in a uniform too, meow

well i got nothing on the military life but im glad to hear you''re being spoiled

Ditto that! And I can tell you...if he graduated from the AFA...he''s a MAJOR catch. That is IMPRESSIVE! I dont know if you know anything about getting in...but it NOT a walk in the park. You have to have an outstanding GPA, letters of recommendation from a senator/govenor/congressman, and MOST are in the top 10% of their graduating class. That is, just to name a few. Even THEN there are SO MANY APPLICANTS that (I''m talking in the thousands and there isnt very many spots). It''s AMAZING! I wanted to go...but alas, life took me in a different direction.

He sounds dreamy and amazing! I say go with the flow! I mean...what can it hurt?!?!? With the AF the time deployed is a lot less time than any other branch, and less likley, but it still does happen. The time that he is in training/school could be tough but well worth it IMO! YAY!...do you have pics that you wouldnt mind sharing

A man in uniform...swoon!

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Date: 5/11/2009 11:48:07 PM
Author: Blackpaw
OOooh very exciting...a man in a uniform too, meow

well i got nothing on the military life but im glad to hear you''re being spoiled

Hahah the uniform doesn''t hurt, now does it? Being chased is far more fun than doing the chasing. I wish more girls would figure that out!

 

[Cind11]

Wow! He is a cutie! Can''t help with any of your questions though.

 

[bee*]

That''s brilliant news and he''s quite a looker!! Enjoy dating!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/11/2009 11:48:07 PM
Author: Blackpaw
OOooh very exciting...a man in a uniform too, meow

well i got nothing on the military life but im glad to hear you're being spoiled

lol! What she said!

I really am happy to hear this.

Uniforms are sexay.

ETA Good lord, I just scrolled down the rest of the thread. Two words, hubba hubba!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Nice catch!!

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 5/12/2009 7:54:54 AM
Author: Ellen

Date: 5/11/2009 11:48:07 PM

Author: Blackpaw

OOooh very exciting...a man in a uniform too, meow

well i got nothing on the military life but im glad to hear you''re being spoiled

lol! What she said!

I really am happy to hear this.

Uniforms are sexay.

ETA Good lord, I just scrolled down the rest of the thread. Two words, hubba hubba!

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Hehe congats!! Got yourself a good looker there!!

I don''t know much about dating military guys, but I do know you gotta be pretty dang smart to get in the Air Force and then be a pilot on top of that. So if you''ve got someone that''s smart, plus in uniform, plus super duper nice to you... yeah sista!!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

AFA is prestegious and he is super handsome! I love the title of your photo! LMAO

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

"peargirliscreepy"

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

 

[Steel]

Fresh romance is wonderful. Enjoy it; by the looks of him I have no doubt you will

.

I am probably going to be the only debbie downer here and say - having your man be in any career which takes him away from you, puts him in harms way and makes him unavailable for life's events such as Christmas/Holidays, Birthdays, Anniversaries, Deaths, Births, Sickness is very hard. I don't think anybody who's man/woman is in one such career did not have a good hard think about how it will impact their life (& the lives of possible little peargirls) in the future. There are times it will be very very hard but I don't think anybody signs up for the lifestyle unless their partner is worth it. And if he/she is then the sickdays/hospital stays on your own, sleepless night hoping he/she comes home ok, holidays on your own, birthdays on your own, nights on your own are all worth it.

Well you asked

.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 5/12/2009 8:54:50 AM
Author: Steel
Fresh romance is wonderful. Enjoy it; by the looks of him I have no doubt you will

.

I am probably going to be the only debbie downer here and say - having your man be in any career which takes him away from you, puts him in harms way and makes him unavailable for life's events such as Christmas/Holidays, Birthdays, Anniversaries, Deaths, Births, Sickness is very hard. I don't think anybody who's man/woman is in one such career did not have a good hard think about how it will impact their (& possible little peargirls) in the future. There are times it will be very very hard but I don't think anybody signs up for the lifestyle unless their partner is worth it. And if he/she is then the sickdays/hospital stays on your own, sleepless night hoping he/she comes home ok, holidays on your own, birthdays on your own, nights on your own are all worth it.

Well you asked

.

Steel, I am a military wife of many years, I would say you about summed it up.

It can be very difficult and as a flier Pear, your chappie will likely be gone for much of the time throughout his career. However it can be done and you can forge a solid partnership, but it isn't always easy.

 

[monarch64]

Oupear: glad to hear you''ve met someone who seems worth your time! Enjoy! (I have never dated a military man, so can''t offer advice, but I''m happy to hear that you are having a good time with this new friend.)

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Date: 5/12/2009 8:57:05 AM
Author: Lorelei

Date: 5/12/2009 8:54:50 AM

Author: Steel

Fresh romance is wonderful. Enjoy it; by the looks of him I have no doubt you will

.


I am probably going to be the only debbie downer here and say - having your man be in any career which takes him away from you, puts him in harms way and makes him unavailable for life''s events such as Christmas/Holidays, Birthdays, Anniversaries, Deaths, Births, Sickness is very hard. I don''t think anybody who''s man/woman is in one such career did not have a good hard think about how it will impact their (& possible little peargirls) in the future. There are times it will be very very hard but I don''t think anybody signs up for the lifestyle unless their partner is worth it. And if he/she is then the sickdays/hospital stays on your own, sleepless night hoping he/she comes home ok, holidays on your own, birthdays on your own, nights on your own are all worth it.


Well you asked

.

Steel, I am a military wife of many years, I would say you about summed it up.


It can be very difficult and as a flier Pear, your chappie will likely be gone for much of the time throughout his career. However it can be done and you can forge a solid partnership, but it isn''t always easy.

You aren''t being Debbie Downer... I asked because I actually wanted to know. So THANK YOU! If you both find that it''s worth it with the right person then that is really all I need to know. As I''ve said.. this is still really early. We talk a lot and have made plans for the next 3 weekends (goodness gracious) with each other, so I feel like it''s going somewhere fairly fast. So far I don''t see it as a deal breaker. I''m sure there are girls out there that would not be able to handle it.. I guess I''ll just have to see! I also grew up with a dad who was out of town for work a lot. I saw how hard it could be on my mom, but he also put in a lot of effort for her and for us when he was home.

P.S. When I was crying over that stupid ex boyfriend months ago.... If I had known the handsome devil that was in my future, I would have shut up about it a lot sooner!

Thank you all of my PS friends. You are wonderful!

 

[Miscka]

Yay for you, OU! Love a guy in uniform.

My cousin graduated from the NA, and is doing pilot training in TX, and the downside to that I would say is that he moves around a lot for various training levels. He never knows where he will be next, and sometimes does not know how long he will be in one place. BUT it says something about this guy that he is where he is...he must be smart and hardworking! I like a guy like that

Personally, I am ok with LD because I am pretty independent anyway, but the danger thing would not fly (get it??) with me, since I am a serious worrier.

Keep us posted! Glad to hear you are doing so well!

 

[LadyBlue]

I''m very happy for you!!! Enjoy the present, don''t let go a good oportunity to get to know a great guy

 

[Lorelei]

Well I have been a military wife for over 20 years now, yes it has been worth it but it can be extremely tough at times. My Husband''s job has meant he has had to be away for much of our married life and when you need support and they can''t be there it is so difficult.

If time goes on and you fall in love and want to be together it can work certainly. My advice to you is to build up resources so that you can carry on when he is gone, learn to be self reliant and do things for yourself and cultivate your own interests. I mean being self reliant in as much as if the boiler goes wrong in your house for example, know who to call to fix it and similar! Make sure you have your own friends and hobbies so that you can live a fulfilling life without him at times.

It isn''t easy being with a military guy, much will be required of you such as moving frequently and being on your own for a good portion of time, but if you work at it together then you can do it.

 

[vintagelover229]

HUBBA HUBBA! He''s quite a looker! I love the title of your pic to btw! LOL! I didnt really think you''d post it...but WOWZA! If thats a bad pic of him...I dont want to see a good one, lol.

I think its worth a shot at it! I mean, you said he is a great guy, and if you think you can handle the long distance thing, as well as the possibility of being a military mans wife, then GO FOR IT! I have no doubt it can be very tough at times, but if you guys have a connection and really want it, you can make it work! Congrats again!

 

[Lilac]

I don''t know much about military life, but I do know he certainly is handsome! You sound really happy and excited... enjoy it!!

 

[absolut_blonde]

Yay! That's so exciting.

I don't have any experience with dating a guy in the military, but I did do LDR with SO for a year. We were 3 hrs apart, so we saw each other most weekends.

The upsides are that you get a lot of time to yourself. You don't fall into the neglecting your friends for your new flame trap as easily. In the longer-term, you tend to learn how to communicate with each other very effectively b/c you've no other options! LDR also keeps things exciting- the courtship period for us lasted way longer than any other relationship I've had. And I'd say we really appreciated- and still do now that we're non-LDR- each other more because of the situation; you cherish the time you get together.

The downsides are, well, it does suck when it's been 2-3 weeks and you really miss them. It can be lonely. Sometimes you semi-resent all the other lucky couples who get to live in the same city

. You will probably experience a lot of rude unsoclicited comments about how "LDR never works" or "I did LDR and it was a total waste of time". If you're not good at communication, it could be tough. And you've got to have a lot of trust.

Still, totally do-able and sounds promising! I hope it all works out.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Hotgratualtions on meeting someone new! It is always hotciting isn''t it? Seems like a nice fella and appears interested in the same things you are. Other than that, I do hot think it would be hotappropriate for me to comment on his looks

cheers--Sharon

 

[LaurenThePartier]

I can''t help much with advice on dating in the military, but WOOOOOHOOOOOOO!!!!!! He''s a cutie, and it sounds like things are going well! Just have fun, be yourself, and enjoy your time with him!

 

[tlh]

What a looker! I think I''m gonna rent officer and a gentleman this weekend... swoon!

 

[curlygirl]

Date: 5/12/2009 7:54:54 AM
Author: Ellen

Date: 5/11/2009 11:48:07 PM
Author: Blackpaw
OOooh very exciting...a man in a uniform too, meow

well i got nothing on the military life but im glad to hear you''re being spoiled

lol! What she said!

I really am happy to hear this.

Uniforms are sexay.

ETA Good lord, I just scrolled down the rest of the thread. Two words, hubba hubba!

Uh, yeah, what Ellen and blackpaw said!!! I''m too speechless to type!!

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Date: 5/12/2009 10:39:09 AM
Author: curlygirl

Date: 5/12/2009 7:54:54 AM

Author: Ellen

Date: 5/11/2009 11:48:07 PM

Author: Blackpaw

OOooh very exciting...a man in a uniform too, meow

well i got nothing on the military life but im glad to hear you''re being spoiled

lol! What she said!

I really am happy to hear this.

Uniforms are sexay.

ETA Good lord, I just scrolled down the rest of the thread. Two words, hubba hubba!

Uh, yeah, what Ellen and blackpaw said!!! I''m too speechless to type!!

Hahah... I''m totally in trouble! He is so. darn. cute. Glad you ladies agree! Swoooooooon.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Date: 5/12/2009 9:39:52 AM
Author: Lorelei
Well I have been a military wife for over 20 years now, yes it has been worth it but it can be extremely tough at times. My Husband''s job has meant he has had to be away for much of our married life and when you need support and they can''t be there it is so difficult.


If time goes on and you fall in love and want to be together it can work certainly. My advice to you is to build up resources so that you can carry on when he is gone, learn to be self reliant and do things for yourself and cultivate your own interests. I mean being self reliant in as much as if the boiler goes wrong in your house for example, know who to call to fix it and similar! Make sure you have your own friends and hobbies so that you can live a fulfilling life without him at times.


It isn''t easy being with a military guy, much will be required of you such as moving frequently and being on your own for a good portion of time, but if you work at it together then you can do it.

Thank you for your reply, again. You''re very sweet to give some insight. I''ve been in LDR before, and I realize if things get super, super serious that the LDR part would possibly never change. As of right now I think I am okay with that... We''ll see. I don''t mind being independent one bit. I think it''s good for me!

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Date: 5/12/2009 10:34:20 AM
Author: tlh
What a looker! I think I''m gonna rent officer and a gentleman this weekend... swoon!

Haha I watched Top Gun with my roommate last week... She has now started playing "Take My Breath Away" and "Danger Zone" whenever I come home. It''s hilarious, but man alive are those songs irritating!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I am so happy for you! How exciting!