I lost my Christmas present

[Erin]

Boyfriend gave me a pair of chocolate pearl drop earrings for Christmas. I wore them on New Year''s eve afternoon while shopping for the perfect shirt to wear that night with my new earrings. Instead I found something else I liked so I didn''t wear them. When I took my earrings out of my ears to take a shower - I had one. My choices are:

 

[ladypirate]

I voted tell him, but it''s mostly because even though I would feel bad, I am a horrible liar and he would totally find out anyhow. It''s not like he can be mad at you--it was certainly not intentional.

 

[geckodani]

I would tell him, ask him where he got them and go purchase another pair. Lying is never a good option, IMO.

I''m so sorry you lost one of your earrings!

 

[rockzilla]

If he brings it up, tell him the truth, but don''t go to him all guilty. Earrings fall out all the time, unfortunately. Hopefully they weren''t too pricy!

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I voted to tell him...it obviously was not done intentionally.

 

[swingirl]

I voted to replace them. True it''s not your fault but telling him makes two of you disappointed. Replacing them leaves only one of you disappointed.

 

[Burk]

I''m so sorry! I voted to tell him, too. It was an accident, he''ll understand and then you can go out and replace them!

 

[steph72276]

Oh no! I would tell him. I am sooo not a good liar, so it would be written all over my face if I did something sneaky. I''m sure he won''t be that upset, it was an accident.

 

[Elmorton]

I lost the first necklace (first gift, actually!) DH ever gave me. I didn''t tell him for a week while I searched, and once I was absolutely certain it was lost (I think our kitty batted it off a dresser into a trashcan), I told DH. Then I spent a week tracking down the necklace, since it was a few years old and from Zales. I ended up paying more than DH originally did, but it was worth it to have that gift. I haven''t even worn the necklace since I replaced it (it''s a martini with a diamond/emerald swizzle stick...cute when we were in college but makes me feel like an alcoholic now), but I couldn''t stand to not have the gift DH gave me way back when. I say search a little more, fess up, and then replace them (so...all of the above?).

 

[MichelleCarmen]

"Tell him the truth and feel horrible???" Don''t you already feel bad enough? If you know where he purchased them and can afford to replace them, then I vote for that.

 

[AmberGretchen]

I''d tell him - its not like you deliberately lost it or anything, mistakes happen, and everyone is human.

 

[mrssalvo]

I''d probably buy a new pair and tell him.

 

[musey]

It''s not like you did it on purpose. No reason not to tell him

 

[Erin]

The third option I just put out there because I like things in threes.
So I''ve searched and called anywhere that makes sense. I could call every store at St Claire Square but I doubt it''ll come up. I only called the stores where I tried stuff on. I was wearing a large collar turtleneck sweater that day and anytime I sat down it pushed the earring out of my ear a little. So I can''t find the *exact* style on line. The closest I found was $400! I''m so pissed I lost one. I guess this would also be a good time to explain to him that if he were to buy me earrings in the future (ha, not likely after this) that they need to be leverback or something more secure than just the french hook thing.

Silver lining?
I could turn the one earring into a pendant?

Crap now I have to tell him.

 

[Erin]

12mm of chocolately goodness - only the ones he got me were white gold

 

[Italiahaircolor]

tell him, and then buy yourself a new pair.

 

[snlee]

Date: 1/14/2009 12:56:56 PM
Author: geckodani
I would tell him, ask him where he got them and go purchase another pair. Lying is never a good option, IMO.

I''m so sorry you lost one of your earrings!

Ditto.

 

[coatimundi_org]

Sorry Starset--I''d tell him. It wasn''t your fault.

 

[steph72276]

oooh, I like the pendant idea so it would still be the one he bought you.

 

[Circe]

I voted for "tell him the truth and feel horrible," but I don''t think that''s the right description - right now you feel horrible both because you lost the earring, and because you''re apprehensive about how he''ll react. But it was an accident, and I bet he''ll see that and sympathize. Tell him! And definitely turn the survivor into a pendant - that''s a great idea.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Tell him the truth for sure! It will actually make you feel better. Honesty and truth are KEY in a relationship. You don''t want to go on without ever telling him...

Sorry you lost it, perhaps it will show up in the least likely place? Don''t give up hope, keep looking for it! I thought I lost a ring my boyfriend gave me and I looked EVERYWHERE for it..turns out it was in my ''pants'' drawer. Apparently the top of the drawer took it right off my finger while closing the drawer and I never knew it. I found it the next day. Keep an eye out!!!

 

[April20]

If there is NO chance of finding it, I''d tell him. Better to have honesty.

A few years ago, a friend of mine lost a diamond bracelet her DH (then BF) had given her. We looked ALL week for that thing. She was trying to figure out how to tell him it was gone. She wore it everyday and he had started to ask her why she wasn''t wearing it. A little while later, we were all at my house and were sitting in my living room- I looked down and there was the bracelet between the arm and the bottom cushion of the chair I was in. I tricked her BF into going into my kitchen and while he was out of the room, tossed it to her. To this day, I don''t know that he knows it was ever missing.

 

[Steel]

I voted for tell him and feel horrible. But only because there was not an option that just said: Tell him.

I am sorry you lost an earring; they look very pretty.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I voted for replacing them, but I certainly did not mean for you to lie to him. If you got another pair, then you'd have a back-up one in case another gets lost! Or, the third one could be made into a pendant! I love those earrings you posted above!

PS..did you check inside your sweater to be sure it didn't get stuck in there?

 

[BlueSki231]

I vote tell him..

this would be something that I would have trouble hiding.
The minute that I realize that the earring''s gone I woulda been running to him, sobbing about it.

 

[HollyS]

If you never wore them again, he would notice. You could replace them, but you would have to find the exact pair, wouldn''t you?

I would have told him that night. He might have been POd, or just unhappy, or even sad for you and the dent in his wallet for jewelry lost on a first wearing. But he would have understood that sometimes this stuff happens. And he would probably have gone shopping again.

The longer you wait to tell him, he''ll wonder why you waited.

 

[iheartscience]

I picked option 1, but I definitely wouldn''t feel horrible. Mistakes happen and stuff gets lost-no big deal!

 

[marcy]

Sorry to hear that happened but I would tell him.

 

[Kaleigh]

You should tell him. Honesty is always the best policy. I am sure he'll understand, it wasn't your fault.

 

[DiamanteBlu]

I''d go to the store and have them make me one earring. No point in paying for 2 more [unless you think you may lose a second one]. Also, I would have been retracing my steps or called the stores to see if anybody found it in a dressing room and turned it in. I assume you did that with no luck?

I''d probably tell him eventually.