How to bring up a great deal...

[maebelle]

...without sounding like he needs to get moving and buy now now now!

I've found what looks like the perfect center sapphire (pending looking at more pictures that the vendor could send). It's just the right color (for me), eyeclean + and bigger than I was looking at.... and about 30% less than the vague budget we've discussed. It would pretty much blow my mind to have it as my engagement stone.

I'm pretty timid about things like this, and while we've gone window shopping and discussed rings and the like, SO just dropped plenty of money on furniture for our house, and it feels selfish to just now say "OMG! Snap this up before someone else does!!"

So I have a feeling I'm just going to be checking the website everyday, crossing my fingers it doesn't get bought, and waiting until a better moment to bring it up.

It sure is frustrating!

 

[amc80]

I would bring it up exactly how you just said it-

"Honey, I really don't want to bring this up because I know you've just spent a lot of money, and I don't to seem like I'm pressuring you. But I found this awesome deal, here is the link, I won't bring it up again, but I thought you would appreciate the price."

 

[Grlsbestfrnd]

I would bring it up exactly how you just said it-

"Honey, I really don't want to bring this up because I know you've just spent a lot of money, and I don't to seem like I'm pressuring you. But I found this awesome deal, here is the link, I won't bring it up again, but I thought you would appreciate the price."

I think this is the perfect way to bring it up. I know you're nervous about mentioning it and seeming pushy but as long as you don't keep bringing it up after I think he'll appreciate you finding a good deal and then leaving it up to him. Also, I'm sure he wants to get you exactly what you want so it'll put some pressure off of him knowing he got your dream stone. Good luck!

 

[blacksand]

I agree. I'd explain it to him exactly as you explained it to us. Tell him you don't want him to feel pressured, but you fell in love with a stone and it's an amazing price. I can't imagine that would really upset him. But even if it does, he'll be upset for what--five minutes? He'll be over it soon enough and remember how much he loves you and wants to make you happy with the stone of your dreams. I understand not wanting to push him into anything, but I don't think you need to tiptoe around it, either.

 

[AdanaEsq]

I agree with the other ladies, that sounds like a perfectly reasonable way to broach the subject.

 

[maebelle]

Of course you are all right... why is it so easy to not come up with easy advise for yourself when you'd come up with it for other people?

I'm waiting for this weekend when we get a moment to ourselves. At the very least he'll get the clearest idea yet about exactly what I want for future information, (not that I haven't drilled round, medium blue sapphire into his head already .

 

[blacksand]

Good luck with the conversation.

More importantly, can we see pictures?

 

[maebelle]

An inexpertly photoshopped version of the stone in a standard three stone. The stone would actually be a bit bigger than this. It's 7.4 mm

 

[blacksand]

Oooh, very pretty! I love the cut and the color. I often find sapphires to be so dark blue that you can't really make out the pretty faceting. That's a gorgeous color.