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gorri8

gorri8

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I''m not too happy with one of our friend''s wife. Here''s the story. We all went out to dinner one night before thanksgiving and this was back when we just got engaged. All the wives looked at my ring and the true genuine ones loved my ring. My ring is a natalie K setting in 14kt gold with a James Allen 1.7 diamond anyways one of my friend''s wife said in front of everyone... is it real? How rude and yes, I am very upset. I don''t understand why some people are so rude. I would never say that even if I thought it was. I talked to my FI about it he just said she is jealous, but he''s a guy and he doesn''t understand how rude it was. I am offended. Then I went to JC Penny the other night and I saw a ring setting almost like mine in a case that marked moissanite. Sheesh... maybe she thought it was a moissanite
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BTW my ring is a F color and sparkles like crazy! I am just so upset by this person.
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Try not to let it bother you. You know that it is real and that is all that matters. She is probably very insecure to have even made a remark like that.

ETA: It's happened to me too.
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Aw honey- don''t let jealous people bother you. I''ve gotten the same question, and just reply with a smile that yes, it is real, and move on. Some people just don''t know how to be gracious or happy for others. Don''t let one person''s pettiness diminish your excitement over your engagement, or your ring.
 
Don''t be upset! Some people are just like that-they say the first thing that crosses their minds without thinking if it''s rude or tactless. I''m used to these kind of comments since in my country giving diamond e-rings in not common at all and when people see my ring they always ask the same thing - is it real? (in a slightly suspicious tone). Well, who cares. You know it''s real, you love it and you love the man who gave it to you. The rest is unimportant, right?
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I love the support system here... Thank you all for caring so much and giving me that comfort. Another thing is, I am going to get my hair done today and SHE ( our friend''s wife) is working there. I don''t know if I should wear my ring or not. I don''t want ot hear another rude comment.
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Date: 12/19/2008 8:11:34 AM
Author: gorri8
I love the support system here... Thank you all for caring so much and giving me that comfort. Another thing is, I am going to get my hair done today and SHE ( our friend''s wife) is working there. I don''t know if I should wear my ring or not. I don''t want ot hear another rude comment.
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Ditto the ladies!

And if you want to wear your ring, go right ahead otherwise she might make a point of asking where it is if not....
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Of course you should wear it! Who cares what she thinks. Flaunt it
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And since this is in SMTR.....we need pics!
 
You absolutely should, and you should be very proud to. If she says something to you, just continue to smile. Tell her how wonderful your FI is to have gotten you something so beautiful!
 
Date: 12/19/2008 8:14:53 AM
Author: iluvcarats
Of course you should wear it! Who cares what she thinks. Flaunt it
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And since this is in SMTR.....we need pics!
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Ditto!

ETA: I just looked it up and it is absolutely stunning!
 
This is why I love pricescope, you guys turn my frown into a smile.
 
And if you get bored having your hair done, amuse yourself by watching your ring sparkle when you wiggle your fingers!

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Date: 12/19/2008 8:22:28 AM
Author: Lorelei
And if you get bored having your hair done, amuse yourself by watching your ring sparkle when you wiggle your fingers!

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Tis what I do when I have my hair done! The lighting is good!
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Date: 12/19/2008 8:22:28 AM
Author: Lorelei
And if you get bored having your hair done, amuse yourself by watching your ring sparkle when you wiggle your fingers!

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lol, just try not to blind her if she''s the one doing your hair. Otherwise you might as well do it - that''ll teach her!
 
She was definitely rude! Like you said gorri if you are not sure, just keep it to yourself, right? In addition, I think maybe people may not be used to seeing very sparkly diamonds. Most engagement rings I have seen IRL do not compete with those I have seen here on PS. So maybe she was just really surprised to see one so sparkly and white. Still, I can see how you might be irritated.
 
I wish you guys could go with me to the hair salon
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You know, she may have not meant anything rude at all. She may have asked, because she's not used to seeing well cut stone, most people arent.

I got my teeth cleaned not that long ago, by a gal I have known/been friends with (though not close now) for almost 30 years. Afterwards we were making my next appt., and I don't remember how the convo got started, but it became about PS and my diamond studs. She then said she had noticed my earrings while she was cleaning my teeth, were they real? I told her yes, and she went on about how pretty they were, and about how there was a depth to them, etc.

So I know she didn't ask it to be rude (and I wasn't offended), she was genuinely curious, because she just isn't used to seeing stones cut this well. She also wrote down the name of PS.
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So don't be too upset, ya just never know.
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This happened back in November...I''d just let it go. People are always going to surprise you...no worries.
 
She was just jealous, that''s all. The funny thing is, I have a friend with a CZ e-ring, and no one ever has called her on it, that I''ve seen - I don''t know if it''s because people can''t tell the difference, or because they can tell it''s fake but don''t want to be rude ...

I wouldn''t let the comment bother you, especially if you have a ring that you love :)
 
I would take "is it real" as a compliment. I do not understand why you're mad..... She is jealous and let her be. Your stone size is not seen very often.... Just smile and say yes it is, I am very lucky.
 
seriously, i would NOT take that as an insult. your ring is of substantial size and beauty and she''s (as well as myself) not used to seeing such beauty. i blurted out the same kinda thing to a person i''m friendly witch re: her new eternity band. after it came out of my mouth i realized the faux pas, but the truth was that it was SO nice and in a way you can look at it as a compliment. no really! to have something that is so luxurious and is so often not seen, would definitely make some think it wasn''t real. so there... what you own is obviously so beautiful & expensive it wouldn''t be absurd to think it was not a diamond.

anyhoo, i used to have an "fake diamond" eternity band i bought at banana republic that i''d wear when my ring was absent (getting resized, etc) and got tons of compliments. however, i did immediately tell everyone, "it''s cz".

bottom line - your ring is gorgeous!
 
Date: 12/19/2008 9:55:12 AM
Author: vespergirl
She was just jealous, that''s all. The funny thing is, I have a friend with a CZ e-ring, and no one ever has called her on it, that I''ve seen - I don''t know if it''s because people can''t tell the difference, or because they can tell it''s fake but don''t want to be rude ...

I wouldn''t let the comment bother you, especially if you have a ring that you love :)
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i have one that I wear when I travel and people still ooh and ahh over it....its kinda funny actually. But there is no need to the rudness...its just calas bs....
 
I agree with the others that it isn't worth being upset about. While I would NEVER ask that of someone, I have certainly thought it. In fact, I thought it this week when I saw a co-worker with large diamond studs!!!

Definitely look at it as a complement, though! It obviously looked so expensive that she wondered if it was real! Tacky to ask, yes, but not really negative toward your ring! I like the reply above: Yes, it's real, I am very lucky/blessed!
 
.. maybe she was just trying (but not succeeding) to be funny, b/c it''s a bigger stone than most people have. I doubt she REALLY thought it was fake.
 
hi everyone! I hope your week has gone well thus far! on to my story, it has nothing to do with diamonds, but to do with my son who was having problems with kids at school. My ex husband and I share custody, so our son spends summers there, with his Dad. He hunts, fishes and quads there, as they are in the country, and here, we are in town. A long story short, he shot a beaver a couple of years ago, and none of his school chums would believe him, and he was quite upset. So, dear old Mum, ends up printing the pictures of him and his beaver, and brings them to school at the next family lunch function, to show all his dis-believing buddies!! My point is: I guess you could be a smart ass, and happen to have a copy of the certs handy, and whip them out, and say: why YES, YES it is real, would you like to see the certs?? hehe!!
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Bottom line, try not to be upset, she is likely jealous: wear your ring with joy!


Merry Christmas!
 
Was she being rude or just curious? As somebody else has said, it''s a big, substantial diamond in a wonderful blingy setting so people are bound to ask questions. Let''s face it, if you didn''t want it to be noticed, you''d have gone for a smaller diamond and setting! I think if it wasn''t noticed, it''d be worse!!!! Don''t think of it as being rude - just inquisitive. When you said "yes it''s real" I bet she was thinking "wow, lucky you" and "I wish I could have one". Take that as a huge compliment.

I wear fairly big gemstones, Paraiba Tourmaline, Tanzanite, Rubies, some diamonds etc., and I''m always being asked if they''re real! People really want to talk about them. Just consider it a great talking piece.

It probably won''t be the last time you''ll be asked that question so try to think of it in another way other than rude otherwise you''ll drive yourself potty!
 
I suppose you can''t help being thin skinned any more than she can help being rude, but really it''s been almost a month and you''re still sounding like you''re about to cry over her comment
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There will always be rude people. They might say things like "is that your natural hair color?" "have you gained weight?" "are those real? (body parts)" "is that real?". I''m at a loss why you would let any of their comments get to you? Rude is when they say "that color is awful" "you look fat" "wow, fake boobs" or "hate your ring".

People are always grabbing my hand and asking "is that real?" about my rings. I think it''s kind of cute. They don''t see a lot of large diamonds here.
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I think it''s very likely that she didn''t intend to be rude at all. Maybe she thought she was being funny, maybe she was genuinely curious, maybe she even thought she was being complementary. I''d give her the benefit of the doubt on this one.

You do have a lovely ring, by the way!!
 
I''ve gotten the rude "Is it real?" questions a number of times, and here''s what I do:

1) If the person is a stranger, I smile and tell them, "Nope, it''s a CZ." I feel more comfortable that way--I''ll probably never see them again, and I''d rather not make myself a target.

2) If the person is a friend or acquaintance, I find that a raised eyebrow or pointed look shuts them right up.

Don''t worry about the hair salon. If she says anything else, ignore her or just roll your eyes (a little juvenile, maybe, but it gets the point across marvelously). Your ring is lovely, and she knows it!
 
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