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First time at 28, second time at 38. I just didnt feel very mature in my early 20's. I felt like I was too young to be/get married. Of course I hadnt
met the right person so that might have made a difference.

My son has been dating his girlfriend for 5 years. He just turned 27. I think he is more nervous about the engagement/wedding process than he
is of marriage. He just feels like he knows nothing about who does what when as far as engagement/wedding. I dont push. I want him to be
comfortable to make the decision but the other day he said the thought will probably always make him nervous. I told him as long as he's not
nervous about his choice (his girlfriend) then he'll be ok.
 
I met my husband when I was 17, and he was 24, I was in high school and he was in the Marines, we got married when I was 19 and he was 26. We waited until he picked up Sgt., we have been married 34 years.

My daughter is 22 and has been with her fiancé for almost 3 years, engaged last Feb and waiting until he is out of college (about 1-1.5 years) to get married.
 
We met when I was 12 and he was 14. We didn't really "date". We hung out, went to the movies, etc. As we got older, we dated off and on. Eventually he went into the service while I was still in high school. We always kept in touch, and he would visit me and my family when he was home on leave. During that time, I had a steady boyfriend who was uncomfortable with the "family" visits, so he proposed. When my husband found out that I had halfheartedly accepted, he came home to ask if I was really sure I wanted to marry this person. The rest is history. My husband and I got married when I was 22 and he was 24. For us, it was perfect timing. We've been married almost 34 years.
 
We met at 24 and married at 25 and happily having our 30th anni in March next year. Our sons are 28 and not even a prospect yet so it has to be a generation thing.
 
I married “late” @ 40 , my sister married “early” @ 23 ... we’re both still married ...from what I’ve seen you have to be up for navigating more change together when marrying at a younger age but I know a lot of couples who have married young and are still happy
 
I married late at 46 (my better half was 40). By then we had one year old twins and had been in a relationship for eight years. We moved in together the day before I gave birth (we had been living separately due to our careers in different cities). We never bothered with a honeymoon, but who knows - maybe it's not too late five years later? :D
 
I had just turned 23. We waited almost a year from engagement to getting married because I wanted to be married on a specific date.

Different things work for different people. I like that we married young. We got to experience so many firsts together and we’ve kind of grown up together (but we also knew each other from HS and began dating shortly after I turned 19).
 
We met when we were 23/24 (me/him), but we were just "coworkers" for the first 2 years. Then we started dating at 25/26 and got married at 27/28. Had my kids at 29 and 31. We have been married for 20 years.

I really think the age I got married was perfect, I got to finish grad school, start on a career path by 27, and still energetic enough to start my family around 30. We are going to be empty nesters before 50! Whoohoo!
 
I met my DH the last year of high school. Married at 20 & 21 (after a 3 year engagement). We're going on 15 years now. No kids. Sometimes I look back and think we must have been crazy to marry so young but I don't regret it. I feel extremely blessed to have met him so young so that we could spend all these years together. We've grown up together and that's beautiful to me.


We live in New England. My parents were initially a little worried about such a young engagement but still very supportive. Now days, my Dad likes to say he knew we were going to get married from the first time I brought my DH home.
 
I just wanted to add - my husband and I were married while we were at university together. It inspired us in our studies and brought the best out of both of us, academically. After we married, I did three post grad degrees and he did all his post grad actuarial quals. This worked perfectly for us.

I completely understand that some people want to finish all their study before marrying, and there are plenty of good reasons for that. But if you're not talking about adding kids to the mix, studying while married can be very supportive and encouraging. Despite the offers of money from our parents, we gratefully declined and paid our own way through our university years together. We were poor as church mice, but it was a very simple, uncomplicated time, and we loved it. Nothing cooler than coming out of a lecture to find your hot young husband leaning against a post, smiling at you, ready to carry your books to the cafeteria for lunch.

<sigh>

Happy memories. :))
 
Started dating at 17, married at 25, kids in our 30's. I knew he was my person before I asked him out :lol: I've enjoyed every phase of the relationship and was in no rush along the way. I did start medical school after we married and had kids after school.
 
I got married at 27.

It was mostly unplanned. DH was offered a promotion and transfer to Germany by his company. We wanted to move there together. But since we weren't married, his company wouldn't pay for my move or sponsor my resident visa.

So DH & I eloped the week before he moved. Then I moved there a month later.

Funny story, when I applied for my resident visa in Germany, the lady took one look at our marriage date and declared "no confidence". She would only give me an one-year visa, even though DH had a 5-year visa.

Talk about feeling judged, lol.
 
We married at 20. I am so glad we married young. We had nothing and everything we built we did together. I feel like we grew up together. We had our 40th this past July. Almost all of our friends married the same year we did and most of them are still together. I can only think of one who divorced. How weird is that?
We went to the same high school and had a very small graduating class of 77. In all the years, we never had a class together and I don't think we even spoke to each other once. We didn't have any of the same friends. We met at church when I came back from school out of state. We almost didn't get together as he was so shy. We are still really different although I am much more shy than he is now. But somehow it worked out.
 
I got married at 22. My husband and I lived in different countries and it was the only way we could realistically live in the same country. Before this, I had never even really considered marriage. It wasn't something I was interested in or important to me - definitely not right then and probably not in the future either.

I don't think anyone expected our marriage to last because we were so young and had not known each other very long (not even a year!). But now it is 18 years later and getting married turns out to be one of the best decisions ever. I wouldn't advise getting married so young for most people, though. We were very, very lucky and also went through some very difficult things at a time in life that should have been much more carefree - we actually spent a year living apart in our late 20s because we needed space from each other. We also limited some of our choices because we had to consider each other.

I never regret getting married - he is the best! - but I can for sure see the advantages of waiting much, much longer - or never marrying at all. We are unusually close because we spent such transformative life stages together and that's wonderful in a lot of ways - our closeness is something people often comment on. At the same time, we both lack a certain amount of independence that might be good to have.

There are always trade-offs.
 
29 after 5, 5 years together


In never wanted to get married never dreamed of "the wedding", never wanted kids. I had a long term relationship before - didn't want to get married (wrong person! Not a bad guy per se, just not Mr Right... Didn't know it then obviously).

15 years and 6 kids later it's still LOVE ❤ ... And so many more things.
 
kenny said:
I'm mid 60s and never got married.
Even today, when we human weeds are allowed to marry, I don't see the point of a fancy piece of paper.

... maybe in my 90s when I'm senile and no long able to think for myself.
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I think I remember you having a partner that you love...same thing....❤️
 
We first met when I was 35 and he was 45. We chatted a little but had no more contact for a full year. A full year later we met again at a picnic, began dating, got engaged in 3 months, married the following summer. First marriage for both of us. Kiddo born a few years later.

I feel this was good timing, for us. We both had interesting lives before we met and felt ready to finally settle down. We had rich life experiences to share with our daughter. Of course waiting so long to start a family is riskier, so I'd never recommend this for anyone if they really want to have kids. But it worked out for us. We're still going strong after 28 years. =)
 
after my husband and i met in art school at 19 and 20. we dated for 6 months. then we got married. we didn't get to go on a honeymoon until much later. we had the benefit of each others unwavering support through school. afterwards, we went straight into graduate programs. he went on to more graduate graduate studies. i was done, that was enough schooling for me.

i feel with the advantage of an early marriage, he and i were able to accomplish more because of the support and devotion and dedication and commitment that we had for one another and our marriage. we also had the benefit of our parents' financial support until we were out of school

i thank my lucky stars that i chose him and he chose me.
 
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Met at 21/23, married at 22(almost 23)/25, kids at 24/26/31/33. Married 15 years last May. It feels good to have shared my youth with someone so deserving. We've achieved more together than we ever could apart.
 
Met at 17/20, married at 21/24. We must have been nuts. Kids at 23/25/28/31. It’s been 40 years!
 
Met at 25/26, married at 29/30. It was a month and a half ago, so no anniversaries yet :lol:

I am one of the only people in my urban peer-group that is married. Some are dating, many are single.

I had gone through a lot of growth before I met him in my early 20s, and we've talked about wishing we met earlier - but I think we met at just the right time. I was a true wild child, and needed to figure out who I was first before I could give of myself, if that makes sense.

I never had any fantasies about getting married. I came from an unstable home, had multiple step-fathers...I was fiercely independent, and was totally at peace with being on my own. It wasn't until I had really come into my own that I met him, and it was so easy. I knew that once I grew open and even desirous of marriage and felt a deep attachment, that I had found my person.

Currently getting a master's degree, and plan to have kids in the next 2-3 years. We are starting with a puppy first. ;)2
 
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