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Snowdrop13

Snowdrop13

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My sons are in their late teens and both of them have quite serious and long-standing girlfriends. While I absolutely don’t expect either of them to get married any time soon I must admit to being quite surprised. At their age I was completely different, I had boyfriends but was very intent on my studies and developing a career. I didn’t meet my husband until I was 29, and we married when I was 32. Looking back, I think I nearly left it ”too late”, I have several friends in my profession who did just that and have been mostly single in adult life.

So...... when did you get married? What do you think is the best age to do it? Is marrying young a bad idea? I wonder if attitudes differ between the US and the rest of the world?
 
My husband and I were high school sweethearts, we started dating when we were 17 and we married at 23. We’ve just celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary!

When I look back I think wow we were so young, but when you know you’ve found your soul mate why wait.
I’m in Australia.
 
i met my husband when i was 19 and he was 20. we met in art school. we married at 20 and 21 with our parents blessing.

i feel marrying young has been a strength for us and very advantageous. some people are suited to marrying young while others need to experience more of life, before making such a commitment.

we reside in california
 
Aussie here too!

We met during university when we were 19 and got married at 24. I don't think we were too young. If anything it gave us lots of extra time together. The extra time made us better parents imo. By the time our son was born we had, had many adventures together and were more than ready to move onto the next phase in life.

I think we have settled over the years and are a much more compatible couple than the two crazy kids who got married but they were still some very fun years! It's lovely to have the memories to look back, laugh at ourselves and tell our son that the two sane people who are his parents were once crazy dramatic teens.
 
I was 19 DH was 27 when we got married, 42 years ago :-o

I do think looking back, I must’ve been mad to get married so young, and I don’t think for a second if DH had been the same age I would’ve even contemplated it.

It’s worked out well for us, but I wouldn’t have wanted DS to get married at that age. He’s in no rush, he’s 37, and although engaged (finally), they haven’t set a date yet because of everything that’s going on ATM.
 
Aussie here too! I got married 2 years ago when I was 30, hubby was 37. We met 10 years ago. In hindsight I had in my head that cut off age at 30, so we eloped. I don't think we're in a rush to get married I guess I just wanted to seal the deal on my 30th birthday.
 
We met when I was 19 and he was 20. We married at 20 and 21. We‘re married 46 years!
 
I'm mid 60s and never got married.
Even today, when we human weeds are allowed to marry, I don't see the point of a fancy piece of paper.

... maybe in my 90s when I'm senile and no long able to think for myself.
 
Met when I was 31 & he was 32. Married when I was 33 & he was 34. Had 2 children within the next 20 months.

I don't think we would have got on as well if we had met when young. I was fiercely independant, travelled the world, lived in New Zealand for a few years & had adventures with friends. He graduated Uni & was mortgaged up to his eyes at 22 with his ex & played video game marathons all weekend with his friends, smoking & drinking. Yuk.
 
We’re in NY. Met at 17, hubby was 20! Married at 21/24 (couldn’t even rent a car on our honeymoon/25 age requirement) Blissfully married for 32 years!! ♥️

DS met his wife at college at 18, just married last year at 26 years old. ❤️
 
32, we were together for 3 years before getting married for 7 years.

DK :))
 
We met when we were both 21, engaged at 22 then married at 27 and our first son was born when we were 28. Our second son was born when we were 35.

We live in Connecticut.
 
Started dating when I was 17 and he was almost 21. Married 10 years later at 27/31. If it were up to hubs we would have been married a lot earlier - but I wanted to complete university and get into a career before marriage. Celebrated our 5th anniversary this year. Caribbean girl here.
 
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When I met my ex-husband I was 18 and he was 23.
When we married I was 21 and he was 26.
I was far too young, and in hindsight it was a foolish decision, for many reasons.
 
22, DH was 23 when we married. This was in 2008 and pretty uncommon in my area (NY). We had been together since 15 & 16. ETA: FWIW We were both very focused on our studies and career development while in a relationship. DH had finished his degree and I had PLUS I was half way through grad school when we were married (and had been already working full time all through college). Having a relationship did not at all interfere with our aspirations, we were a team in accomplishing them. We did not have out first child until I was 30 and DH was 31, we are now about to have out second (and final), I will be 35 and DH is 36.
 
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I met my ex husband at 25 and got married at 26. He proposed after 5 months of knowing each other and we were married 13 months after knowing each other. Marriage ended in divorce. Marriage was awful and he was abusive. In my case, I don't think I was too young for marriage, but I 100% think I didn't know him well enough and I didn't pay enough attention to red flags prior to marriage.

While age is important, I think knowing the person well is equally if not more important.
 
Met my DH when I was 22 and he was 31. Married at 25 and 34. Will celebrate our 40th next year. Our son is 37 and still not married.
Live in New Hampshire.
 
Met when he was 18 and I was 22. Married when he was 19 (2 weeks short of 20) and I was just 24. His parents were NOT pleased and thought it would distract him from his life goals and wouldn't last as a relationship.

But 36 years later, we think it's probably gonna stick... :mrgreen:

Australian, born and bred, then UK, NY, now Boston. Very happy and have loved living my entire adult life with him. He loves the fact that he's been with me more than 2/3 of his entire life and occasionally gives me the stats and percentages of how long we've been together vs how old he is. When all is said and done, he IS an actuary, so what can one expect? :))

Marrying young, for us = Best. Decision. Ever.
 
I was married late for most in my peer group because I demanded to get an education first. We married when I was 28, which was about the same age as my mom was married. I couldn't have dated my husband really any earlier even though sometimes I wish I could have. He needed to grow up a little lmao. We were 18(him) and 22 (me) i had a crush on him but never said anything until years later when we re met on a game. Then i found out his age and was like oof. We dated anyway and married. So I just cringe sometimes when I have to say his birthday and my own since he is my sponsor lmao.

I wish I had been able to marry earlier mostly because by the time I was 25 or so I was already used to the fact that nobody would ever want someone my age and who looked like me and thought I would never have children because of that. I also felt I had raised my children by raising my disabled family from a young age and didn't necessarily want a ton of children like girls in my peer group did. So I got pretty set in my ways as I aged and was alone.
I had more energy and more patience when I was younger. I also hadn't injured my back yet. So often I feel my child isn't getting the best mom she could have gotten if I had been 22 or 23 or even 24 when we married. But I know that would not have been possible at all with my husband being the age he was. So I just do my best with her.
 
first time : 22 ex: 23 met ex at 18 freshman year of college

2nd time: 34 husband: 36, met him when I was 22 orginally and knew him in our large crowd of friends that my 1st husband and I hung out with, when my current husband heard I was divorcing he IMsged me and asked me out for a drink (a week after 1st husband left!)

Our older son married at 29 now 33,he had been dating/living with his wife since he was 19 and she was 18, they married when they decided they were ready for a child.

Younger son is 29 now and not hooked up or interested in any long term relationships till his career is where he wants to be.
 
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We were both 17 when we met. Engaged at 18 and married at 19. Had our first child at 23. Married 25 years this past March! Love our life together! ❤️
We live in the U.S
 
I was married at 36 but met my husband at 26.

Two of my kids met their spouses in high school. They were married at 24 and 26. They have very solid relationships.

I don’t think age has anything to do with when a person should get married. I think this is an issue of when a person is ready. Some people are never ready to share their life with another.
 
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