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Sizzle

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Recently Ive been preparing to reset my diamond. I had a halo micropave mount made for a 3ct princess diamond so I know it will be Over the Top... but at times so am I. ANYWAY, I was looking at halo settings a few weeks ago when a friend walked up and declared " I don't like those AT ALL".. She's kind of "plain" so no surprise there. Same friend mentioned that she used to like marquise diamonds until I declared I hated them.. I forgot all about that statement and I have since seen this fabulous engraved E-W marquise on here that I would LOVE for a RHR.. I was kind of surprised she'd change her mind based upon one comment from me. Has a friend ever "talked you out" of something you wanted?
 
Hmm, maybe something small. Usually, when I've been talked out of something, it's because that friend/family member brought up something I didn't see before. For example, if I were shopping with a friend and she pointed out that the seam across my thigh wasn't necessarily flattering, I'd listen. Or if I were about to buy a gorgeous gold necklace and my mom reminded me that I already own something similar.

Other than that, I like what I like and I don't care what other people think!
 
Usually, things that people say go right over my head... actually, they FLY way above my head. I know what I like, what's good for me cause I am the one living in this skin. When it comes to my husband, my brother and my most close friends, i will listen - and really take what they say as important and ponder upon their words.

On the other side of the token - I think I have influenced people around me, and people that i met either in real life or over the net.
May it be with jewelry or my crafts ( singing and nails ). I love to help out people, but find it EXTRMELY flattering when people kind of "study" you to see if things you do would work for them...

that is a great thread!!!
 
I think if it is my best friend, and she is letting me know that something is not right FOR ME, I'll take her opinion to heart. Otherwise, I really don't let others sway what I like.
 
I have been talked out of a few purchases. I don't know why but I always (I guess) gravitate towards really hideous shoes (the studs and rhinestone kind), so sometimes I do need a little help in that department.

A friend once told me I look horrible in yellow. She was right! But I still love the color...
 
My problem is that I don't really listen when people tell me what I should do. I do whatever I want to do.
 
The only person who influences me on jewelry purchases is DH. . .well, actually he doesn't influence me so much as he doesn't quite see my point of view. I told him I would like to upgrade my diamond earrings in a few years and he said that they wouldn't be proportionate. . .Sigh! Now, if I was talking a boob job, then he'd be all for that. lol

I have to say others do influence me as far as WHEN I wear my jewelry. Like, for example, I do not wear certain pieces around individuals from certain circles. Recently, though, I started wearing a diamond necklace I had made many years back. It's often looked at by viewers (not in a bad way - but glanced at) and it makes me really uncomfortable. I don't know why!
 
Nashville said:
I have been talked out of a few purchases. I don't know why but I always (I guess) gravitate towards really hideous shoes (the studs and rhinestone kind), so sometimes I do need a little help in that department.

A friend once told me I look horrible in yellow. She was right! But I still love the color...
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I always go shopping by myself so I can decide on my own if I like something. . .I have brought my kids, on occasion, and my younger son is very opinionated about whether he likes something or not. Taking them shopping for their clothes is a nightmare. They won't wear anything with buttons or any weave except regular cotton - no waffle knit, sweaters, etc., ...but that's another story.
 
I listen to my kids more than anyone else. They are 22 and 20 and have a great sense of style. My BFF should have been a model, tall skinny and gorgeous. I do ask her opinion as well. She knows what I can rock and what I can't. She's very honest, and is always a good person to go to for fashion advice. She knows squat about jewelry , so always comes to me for that.... :bigsmile:
 
Sizzle said:
Has a friend ever "talked you out" of something you wanted?
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No, honestly I decide what I want and I can't be talked out of it. My SO tried to talk me out of yellow gold, for instance, but I couldn't stop loving it. :tongue:
 
I have one friend who I noticed I kind of copycat, but not in terms of jewelry. She loves costume pieces and has a gigantic rock for an engagement ring. It's not my taste how it is set, but she usually has more crazy pieces of costume on that her ring almost looks like a fake as well. Her clothing taste is really neat though, and I have asked her to come shopping with me a few times to help me out. So far it's not happened. But I end up buying stuff after I see her wearing it.
 
No. My style is so different from all of my friends' styles, so it wouldn't work. We say things like "This is so YOU!" more than anything, and we're usually right! I can't imagine changing my mind about something just because someone else doesn't like it.

I've noticed that I have a new colleague who is constantly asking me where I buy my clothes and jewelry, and I think she's trying to emulate my style, if I even have any. My answer is usually "some thrift store" or "the Anthropologie sales rack" so that can't be very helpful. Just the other day she raved about a very thin cotton cardigan I was wearing, and when I told her that it was just a long sleeve tee that I cut right down the middle and then sewed some ribbon down the front and on the sleeves, her jaw went slack. Hey--if you ask, I'm going to tell you the truth!

I would never let someone else's opinions influence a purchase unless it was advice along the lines of "I just don't think that will look good on you," which is pretty useful advice, if you ask me.
 
I have different sets of friends with different styles, and I do try to blend in as much as possible, 'cos I guess I don't have a style?

-1st set of friends very blingy jewelry and high-end fashion. I'm talking designer handbags, 4" heels, and sexy designer jeans and tops for hanging out at bars
-2nd set of friends from church, still stylish (not frumpy wives), with cute dresses, sweater-sets and thong sandals. This is the "Coach" crowd.
-3rd set are my mommy friends, T-shits,capris, shorts, flip flops, back pack to put all the kids stuff in.

So I guess depending on which group I hang out with a dress a certain way, but I have to say, NO one really cares about jewelry except me! When I got my upgrade, only a couple people noticed it without me saying anything, and I don't thnk they can influence me on the style of my setting because it is simple, elegant and very "Me".
 
Eh, I'm sure I've let a friend talk me out of buying something or wearing something - but never something I loved or was comfortable with. I have a friend who is basically a hipster (though she claims to be anti-hipster hahaha) who is CONSTANTLY telling me how I *should* do things. That my glasses are out of style, that I shouldn't wear socks with my sandles (haha) and yanno I really don't care. I value her opinion WHEN I value it. Sometimes we mesh well and that's great, others I could care less what she thinks. Generally I would say that if my friends influence my style much it's that I do the opposite.
 
never :!: i buy what i like and don't care what anybody else thinks.
 
Not too much I hope but sometimes it is very subtle, I have a good friend that I do lots with and she dresses very casual, tennies, jeans and tees, no jewelry . I love clothes and do not get to dress often (I wear scrubs at work) so when I go somewhere I like to wear something nice, not fancy or outlandish but I like my boots, scarves, skirts and other fun nice things (don't forget the bling!) but I found myself dressing down when we did stuff and did not even realize it until one day dh said something, I guess I am more aware of it now and make a effort to wear what I love while being appropriate for the situation.. I have to say ps has influenced my jewelry choices but I think it is a matter of seeing things that I may have never even looked at before, it has broadened my exposure a bit.
 
What style?
I look at people around me, that seem to understand clothes, and I admire them, but cannot pull it off.
Jewelry? The only influence was my ex-husband, who did not like lower carat yellow gold on me.
 
I am a velvet-loving, shiny-addicted, recovering-Goth clothing-as-costume fashion weirdo.

My best friend? Is pretty much just like me, with a punkier edge.

My husband? Is a minimalist.

If both of them look at me and say, "Oh, honey, NO," I listen. This has lost me, a) one outfit of red tones which I thought went nicely together, which they claim clashed hideously, and b) bangs. For the most part, though, I'm all about following the beat of my own drummer.
 
I have a different style (if I have a style that is) from just about each one of my friends. My best work friend is into everything designer...she rocks $1,000 pairs of shoes like it's nothing. We talk about her latest shopping trips but it never makes me want to get that kind of stuff though.

My oldest friend is the hippy type. She loves free flowing skirts and funky jewelry. It totally fits her but it's not me.

I guess I never thought to not buy something because one of my friends didn't like it. Why deprive yourself because of someone esles tastes? It wouldn't occur to me!

ETA - My FI totally gets me and we have a similar style so I would probably listen to what he has to say. Last time I needed a dress for a wedding, we went on a Sunday morning (dangerously close to football kick off) and he actuallly went around and picked out a couple dresses for me to kind of move things along. I ended up getting one of the ones he picked and it's actually one of my favorite dresses now!
 
I don't really. Then again, I don't really go shopping with my friends, so the only way they could influence my style is by wearing something I like and want to copy, or by complementing something I'm wearing. I'm a pretty free thinker though and have never really cared what other people think about my style. Then again, my style is pretty plain and classic, so it's hard for people to have much of an opinion either way :tongue:
 
I don't let them influence my style, but I do let them influence my purchases. If I bring somebody shopping with me, it's because I want their opinion. Lately, though, I've started taking Thing2's shopping strategy. If I don't love it, I don't buy it. "Eh, it's okay," or "Well, it WOULD go with those pants..." aren't good enough reasons to spend my hard-earned moolah (and my precious closet space). "I can't live without this for one second longer," however, is a FANTASTIC reason to buy something, and I've never had anybody try to talk me out of that.
 
Sizzle said:
Recently Ive been preparing to reset my diamond. I had a halo micropave mount made for a 3ct princess diamond so I know it will be Over the Top... but at times so am I. ANYWAY, I was looking at halo settings a few weeks ago when a friend walked up and declared " I don't like those AT ALL".. She's kind of "plain" so no surprise there. Same friend mentioned that she used to like marquise diamonds until I declared I hated them.. I forgot all about that statement and I have since seen this fabulous engraved E-W marquise on here that I would LOVE for a RHR.. I was kind of surprised she'd change her mind based upon one comment from me. Has a friend ever "talked you out" of something you wanted?
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NEVER..I've never let anyone talk me out of anything (I'm a hard head that way). I've never been one for trends (like I prefer white gold over platinum) and always just went with my gut. I have a halo and I've known many ppl to say they don't like them, blah blah blah..good for them..don't buy them. I love them and that's all that matters because it's on my finger :naughty:

I also don't comment on certain things like jewelry styles, religion, politics around others..because those subjects are very personal and I know some ppl can get very heated if you don't share their opinion. As for jewelry if a friend would have said to me I didn't buy X because you said you hated it..I would have said but why would you listen to me..you should get what you want.

If I were you, buy what makes you happy! :wavey:
 
Haven said:
No. My style is so different from all of my friends' styles, so it wouldn't work. We say things like "This is so YOU!" more than anything, and we're usually right! I can't imagine changing my mind about something just because someone else doesn't like it.

I've noticed that I have a new colleague who is constantly asking me where I buy my clothes and jewelry, and I think she's trying to emulate my style, if I even have any. My answer is usually "some thrift store" or "the Anthropologie sales rack" so that can't be very helpful. Just the other day she raved about a very thin cotton cardigan I was wearing, and when I told her that it was just a long sleeve tee that I cut right down the middle and then sewed some ribbon down the front and on the sleeves, her jaw went slack. Hey--if you ask, I'm going to tell you the truth!

I would never let someone else's opinions influence a purchase unless it was advice along the lines of "I just don't think that will look good on you," which is pretty useful advice, if you ask me.
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Haven, do you have a pict of that "cardigan?" Sounds cute! lol (I wish I could sew!)
 
MC said:
Haven said:
No. My style is so different from all of my friends' styles, so it wouldn't work. We say things like "This is so YOU!" more than anything, and we're usually right! I can't imagine changing my mind about something just because someone else doesn't like it.

I've noticed that I have a new colleague who is constantly asking me where I buy my clothes and jewelry, and I think she's trying to emulate my style, if I even have any. My answer is usually "some thrift store" or "the Anthropologie sales rack" so that can't be very helpful. Just the other day she raved about a very thin cotton cardigan I was wearing, and when I told her that it was just a long sleeve tee that I cut right down the middle and then sewed some ribbon down the front and on the sleeves, her jaw went slack. Hey--if you ask, I'm going to tell you the truth!

I would never let someone else's opinions influence a purchase unless it was advice along the lines of "I just don't think that will look good on you," which is pretty useful advice, if you ask me.
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Haven, do you have a pict of that "cardigan?" Sounds cute! lol (I wish I could sew!)
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I was thinking the same thing! I wanna see it :) please.
 
not really...I've always stuck with my sense of taste.
 
Not at all. I've always had strong ideas and opinions about what I wanted.
 
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