How do you let go?

[CharmedOne]

I really want to start a fund for a bigger diamond preferably an OEC, tranny or a EC but I'm having a hard time letting go of pieces I don't wear. How do you ladies do it? I am having such a hard time letting go and I don't know why. It's not like my DH bought them for me or they have some sentimental value. Have you sold something you thought you could do without and you regretted it? I have some that I can't fit but the jeweler I found wants $88 bucks to size them and it takes two to three weeks. I just think that is outrageous, is that what sizing normally cost? I have others I bought for one finger and they don't fit any others and since I have bought newer ones for the same finger I can't wear them anymore but I can't bring myself to sell them. I know I must sound crazy, but am I the only one that feels like this? How do you ladies let go of your jewelry to save for upgrades?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I have sold one little antique ring because I wasn't wearing it and a setting. I have several things that I never wear, but I think they would bring so little money that it isn't worth it to me to sell them! I already got rid of old gold things that weren't worth keeping. But I would absolutely sell things that had a lot of value that I knew I'd never wear. However, I really just give things that are still in style to my daughters rather than sell them.

But the key to selling is whether or not you ever wear the piece. If you don't, then there's no point in keeping it!

 

[bunnycat]

I'm in the middle of much the same thing. I am saving up right now and selling things I just don't use or wear. Most of the things I have contemplated selling are of a style I don't really wear anymore and have basically been sitting around not being used at all. I think that is mostly how I am deciding. If it's something that just doesn't fit my current styling then it may be up for sale.

For instance, I have had some very sentimental things sitting around that I knew I would never wear or haven't worn in over a decade, so it makes no sense to keep them. There are a few things my father gave me when he and his (at the time) wife dealt in estate jewelry. I kept my favorite 2 pieces and have sold the others so I still have the sentiment, just not so much clutter.

 

[CharmedOne]

When I really think about it, I regret selling two rings because I didn't want to sell it but my DH complained about them so much I sold them to shut him up. One was a pearl ring he hated because he said they look like something unpleasant and the other was a diamond ring given to me by a eBay seller as a Christmas gift for buying something from him. That one really bugs me because it was a tranny and a very nice size but I had no idea what it was at the time. You gals are right, I'm not wearing them and they are not my style for the most part. I just gotta get my head around it and figure what to sell them for if I can bring myself to do it.

 

[monarch64]

I think when the time is right, and you want something bad enough, you'll find yourself ready to part with things you don't actually need/want anymore. If you aren't ready, and you don't have the means to do the new project otherwise, put it on the proverbial back burner and set a time (ex. 6 months from now) to re-evaluate. If you still can't part with something, then I'd say keep it, and re-size/re-set. It shouldn't take up space in your everyday life for too long, though--bling should be an enjoyable thing!

 

[marymm]

I think when the time is right, and you want something bad enough, you'll find yourself ready to part with things you don't actually need/want anymore. If you aren't ready, and you don't have the means to do the new project otherwise, put it on the proverbial back burner and set a time (ex. 6 months from now) to re-evaluate. If you still can't part with something, then I'd say keep it, and re-size/re-set. It shouldn't take up space in your everyday life for too long, though--bling should be an enjoyable thing!

Agree with this 100% - it is exactly my approach - sometimes to make it more clear to me if I am ready to let something go, I ask myself how I would feel if I saw it on someone else's finger as their new prize.

 

[iheartscience]

If you like a ring and want to wear it then I don't think $88 and a few weeks is unreasonable for a resize. It makes a lot less sense to sell them because you don't want to resize them!

Also, confused as to why your husband made you sell a diamond ring you got as a gift from an eBay seller. It was free and you liked it-why sell it?!!

 

[bunnycat]

I think when the time is right, and you want something bad enough, you'll find yourself ready to part with things you don't actually need/want anymore. If you aren't ready, and you don't have the means to do the new project otherwise, put it on the proverbial back burner and set a time (ex. 6 months from now) to re-evaluate. If you still can't part with something, then I'd say keep it, and re-size/re-set. It shouldn't take up space in your everyday life for too long, though--bling should be an enjoyable thing!

This also. There are some things I keep that maybe I'll sell, if I need to, even though they aren't really part of my current style and I don't wear them all that much. I have one ring I got years and years ago, a vintage cocktail ring, probably from the 50's or something with enamel and diamonds on it in a big flower shape. It's not really my style anymore and probably no one else's either, but weighs almost 9g, and so I just keep holding on to it, until I get closer to my goal, then I'll reassess it and probably end up scrapping it after i take the stones out with gold being what it is these days.

 

[CharmedOne]

He always complained that it came from another guy and every time I wore I had to hear about it. Mind you this was an elderly man in New Mexico but I shouldn't have let him talk me into it. I just got tired of hearing about it.

I have pieces that are like that unique but not my style. I went on a kick buying vintage rings to replace the one I sold and that didn't work. I will have to do some research at what to sell them for. Since I haven't sold anything in quite a while. Thanks ladies for you thoughts.

 

[Mico]

A little late, but I hid mine, took pictures, and eventually listed it at a price I wouldn't regret as I was having trouble parting. I have realized I'm a bit of a hoarder and was having regrets even prior to posting! My situation was a little different, however, and it wasn't really feasible for me to keep my ring. I've never tried a big downscale (but can't wait to see what you get!)

 

[CharmedOne]

Mico, I think I am a jewelry hoarder when it comes to pieces that you don't see everyday. I think that's why I'm having an issue selling the vintage pieces. Maybe I need to find me something to buy to motivate me to sell. I took an eBay break because I was becoming obsessed with buying a adequate replacement [SMILING FACE WITH OPEN MOUTH AND SMILING EYES]

 

[Mico]

I totally understand, I actually stopped when I started comparing the bling I wants to things I could buy for the wedding. Maybe tell yourself what you want and how much you're willing to spend, and then "rank" your sparkly? That way you have a goal and you will sell your rings until you reach it, while looking for diamonds that are currently out of reach?

My big thing is not buying on credit. I have to have the money to justify buying. That has helped a lot

Let me know if you want help searching for things!!! I like searching eBay in my spare time

 

[CharmedOne]

Thanks Mico! I haven't had a CC in 15 years lol. So I am with you there [SMILING FACE WITH OPEN MOUTH AND SMILING EYES] I will have to figure out what they are worth because I usually do but it now listing on eBay. I really want a OEC or a tranny around 1ct. There is nothing wrong with buying retail but I really like finding beautiful pieces on eBay.