his friends are popping the question

[inflorescence]

So the last chat my bf and I had about proposals he used the fact that his friends have been in relationships for a little longer then us and they aren't engaged yet.... as it turns out over the last two weeks the two example couples he has used for his argument that there is no rush to be engaged because look how happy they are without a ring.... are now engaged..... he is free to remove the foot from his mouth at any time.... HAHAHA ..... He told me today leaving me with a huge smirk on my face....

 

[maebelle]

Haha, he will have to pull his foot from his mouth, but don't expect that to change his mind!

My BF and I have been dating longer than most couples we know (only one exception, who have been dating since the beginning of high school, and are getting married this summer), and we're the only one's not at least engaged.

 

[inflorescence]

His mind tends to change everyday.... I have a feeling that even the timeline he has given me will probably change. I have had a huge breakthrough with my LIWitis though... try as hard as possible to not think about it or talk about it.... but that's the point he brings it up nonstop and then Im back to step 1....*sigh*... I guess I'm not really listening to myself, because if I tried not to think about it I wouldn't be on this forum...

I know it will be awhile, any suggestions for getting it off my mind while on this trip?

Maebelle I am sorry to hear about the long wait.. how long have you been dating for?

 

[maebelle]

Haha, not too long, almost 4 years. A *lot* of our friends who are getting married in the next year or are already started dating after us though. To be honest when they started getting engaged I wasn't even close to ready! Now it's getting to the point where I feel really dumb calling him just "boyfriend" though. The wait is mostly due to him still being in med school, but that won't be the case for very much longer.

It's a very good sign that he keeps bringing getting engaged up though. Try to bide your time, who knows what is in guy's heads.

 

[inflorescence]

A *lot* of our friends who are getting married in the next year or are already started dating after us though. To be honest when they started getting engaged I wasn't even close to ready! Now it's getting to the point where I feel really dumb calling him just "boyfriend" though.

I would find that so frustrating... one of my girlfriend was engaged to a guy, broke up then started dating another man. She then got engaged and is already married in the time that I have been dating my bf....

I feel strange calling my boyfriend, boyfriend too. He's so much more then that, we have been through a lot and have lived together for awhile. He even makes comments sometimes about us being an "old married couple"... Me being a huge smartass says"YA, without the ring." But here we are with only a title of boyfriend. I feel the need to start calling him my partner?

The wait is mostly due to him still being in med school, but that won't be the case for very much longer.

Congrats on him being done soon!

I dated someone while they were in medical school, they were very focused on school and there wasn't a lot of talk about weddings...so it came as a huge shock that as soon as he graduated he wanted to get married and have a family... at that point of my life I was not ready. Now looking back it makes sense that he wanted to get that part of his life started after 8+ years of school.

It's frustrating now that I have found the man I want to spend the rest of my life with he's not at the same point.....yet.

 

[maebelle]

Haha, the only frustrating thing is when the married couples who have been together for less time than us start giving relationship advice I was very proud of BF when he practically yelled "WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER LONGER THAN YOU!" once.