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fisherofmengirly

fisherofmengirly

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Hi there everybody.

Happy Good Friday to you all, by the way!

I''ve been looking around here for a little bit. I''m actually trying to find out if my boyfriend''s been around here. Not really sneaking, but just checking things out.

I found this forum back in the fall, but never posted anything. Actually, I''d been excited because we had started having the serious talks about marriage, and having a family and all that fun stuff. And well, I was bored one night and so I started looking at rings online, and Google led me here. Anyway, I''m feeling eager for the day he asks, and I thought maybe this forum could help me be calmer with him, because I have bene a little overboard here lately with him.

Anyway, we met and got along so quickly, and the whole clicking thing just really amazed me. We have different interests, but who knew I could really enjoy Braves games, too? It''s fun. SO much better than watching them on TV. I''ve still not found the entertainment aspect in that. And he even enjoys working on my scrap book with me, as far as helping with funny things to quote in it and stuff. I just find it amazing how our interests are varied, but yet we get along like we do, and enjoy time doing what the other likes, too. It makes me feel so comfortable with him.

You know that realization that you have when you realize that you feel completely safe with someone? Like, "hey, I can totally be myself with this person." Well, with him, I didn''t realize that I''d let my gaurd down, it just happened. And now I can say, do, express any feeling or emotion, and not worry about whether or not he accepts me still. God rocks when it comes to matching His childrens'' hearts together. That''s all I can say!

Well, I just wanted to say that I''m right there with all of you, too, and I can''t wait for the day when the man I''ve been waiting for all my life asks me to be his bride. Whoo Hoo!!

(have any of you had bouts of just about making your boyfriend insane, wanting to be married so badly? How do you deal? I have really calmed down in the past little bit, but I can feel it edging up again.)
 
I think maybe he has been around here! Hmm!
 
Welcome!
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I wonder if your boyfriend really is on here. I freaked out once because I saw someone with a name that looked like one he would have chosen asking for engagement ring advice, but then when I opened the thread it was about a 1+ carat princess cut. He could never afford that size right now, and he knows that princess cuts aren''t really my favorite. What kind of clues are you going off of?

I know what you mean about going a little overboard! Fortunately my BF seems to think it''s cute and starts to play around with me and tease me, although that does drive me even more insane! The girls here are really good at supporting each other and giving good advice. You''re in the right place.
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Well, Blenheim, I like smaller stones than that, and well, I just really *get the idea* he''s been here, mainly since he let it slip he''s been learning information from here, but well, he''s not said that he''s actually posted. I know what we''re looking at getting; I''m just trying to see if he''s done it yet. Is that bad??

And, I have a couple of ideas about threads that potentially could be him. I don''t know though. I guess I really am just torturing myself trying to find stuff out I shouldn''t know anyway. I was doing a lot of calling to WhiteFlash until he finally asked me to stop. But I still email. He said that was okay. I''m trying to stop though. It''s not getting me anywhere, anyway. I don''t get to buy it!
 
Welcome!

I think you are in the right place. We are all trying to find ways to realease anxiety so we don''t take it out on our BFs (sometimes successful, sometimes not
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It sounds like you two have a great relationship! Be sure to post in the "Introduce Yourself" thread.

As for your BF being around here, you never know
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. But I will admit that I convinced myself that a poster on here (right before Valentine''s Day) was my BF and he was going to propose! LOL!!! Turns out I was wrong.
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So you never really know. Any hints for us? We could do some recon for you!
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Out of curiousity, what kinds of diamonds and settings are you two looking at?
 
Welcome, Fisher... thanks for sharing your story... sounds like you guys have a great relationship! Do you really think your bf has been on here?? That would be such a funny coincidence... I hope you don''t find out any secret info you aren''t supposed to know!!
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I can only imagine my bf''s reaction if I found out what he''s planning... he is SO all about the surprise element. Actually, that''s the part that drives me the most crazy... I keep pointing out that if he really wanted it to be a surprise, he should have asked me 2 years ago!! By now it''s pretty much right in front of us, and the longer he waits, the less of a surprise it''s going to be... ugh.

Anyway, I do understand that feeling of exasperation as you wait for something you KNOW is coming, but have absolutely no control over when... I think sometimes all you can do is remind yourself that while you''re getting a beautiful ring, he''s getting the satisfaction of planning something perfect for you (well, and a beautiful fiancee also!)... so it''s kind of important to let him have that time.

Good luck to you... any idea on a timeline or are you totally in the dark?
 
Hints. I''m not sure what hints there would be. He''s the sweetest guy, but I guess we all think that about our men. He''s tossed out a few ideas as to when we''ll be engaged, but those ideas change with circumstances. That''s been the hardest thing for me, actually. I know it will happen, but I get so excited sometimes, and then it just really crushes me when it doesn''t happen when I expect it. In truth, though, he''s never said, "I will ask you at such-n-such time," but I do get clues, or I *read* them, and then I''m let down. My own doing, I suppose. But he has said it will be soon, and in the Spring, and that season ends in June, which is good. Is that what you meant by hints?

Yeah, I was reading one the other day, and I was like, "that''s SO him..." but then, that guy proposed! Obviously not my man, cause I''m not blessed with being a fiancee yet. I hope I don''t find one that says it''ll be this weekend or something and think it''s him; I''ll make myself crazy.
 
What do I like, or what does he like?

I like delicate and small, and just simple and pretty, but with a unique element. He likes plain solitaires. For a moment I thought he was entertaining the thought of going with what I really like, but now I think he''s doing his own thing, based on what he''s said in the past couple of months. But, that''s also not like him, so I''m not sure. Maybe he''s trying to muddy the waters in my analytical head. We''ll see, I suppose.
 
What do you girls do when you''re really getting anxious about this stuff? I mean there are times when I just think I''ll go nuts if I focus on it too long. What I usually do at that time is either work on a project (I really enjoy craft type things... crochet, scrapbooks, cross-stitch, painting, etc.) or I give myself a pedicure. That''s what I''m about to do now. A good pampering on my day off will be nice!
 
Friends!!! When I''m going crazy focusing on it, I usually talk to my closest friend (who''s not in a serious relationship) and she brings me back down to earth. She''s good at reminding me just to be grateful for having such a wonderful guy who is open and excited about getting married, so there''s no need to really push him.

At my old job, 3 out of the 4 people I worked with were engaged and planning weddings, so there was NO escape there! But now I''m in school again and people tend to be a little younger and focused on different things, so that''s a good distraction too. And of course Pricescope is a great support, but tends to get me all worked up again about the ring itself! When I think about getting engaged/married though, lately I''ve just been getting excited about the thought of finally living together (and not having to pay for separate groceries, separate cable, separate laundry, etc anymore)... since we spend most of the time at each other''s places anyway!
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My best friend''s not married, and she is constantly bringing me back to reality. She reminds me of the things that make me love him so: his patience, his ability to keep a secret even though I can''t stand it, but I still love being surprised, and the way that he shows his love all the time, even when I''m being a huge brat. She''s a blessing!

I hear you on living together thing. We don''t, and I can''t wait til we get married and can. I''m at his house today, since I have the day off and he doesn''t, so it''s kind of fun. I love longer weekends, it means more time together.

Maybe if he is on here, he would be sad or disappointed if I found him. Maybe I shouldn''t look for him?
 
If he''s trying to keep a secret and you like being surprised, it might be best not to try to find him. And even if he''s not on here, it might be best not to try to find him because it''s easy to wonder if a guy who''s getting ready to propose is your boyfriend and get your hopes up only have him not propose. It might be hard though.

A pedicure sounds lovely!
 
I know that my BF would be disappointed if I found out what he was planning, but that is just because he gets SO excited about surprises. I don''t think he knows about this website though, because when I mentioned it, he just laughed at me for needing "support" from other LIWs.
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But if you really think he might be posting on here, maybe just stick to the LIW forum rather than read through all the threads on RockyTalky where people usually post looking for help with their diamond searches. And if you DO think you come across something he''s written... use some sort of crazy inner strength to stop reading!! Sometimes I am tempted to try and pry info out of my BF, but I remind myself of how upset he would be if he didn''t get his whole surprise thing, so I can make myself stop. It does take willpower though!!
 
I think if he knew I was looking for him, he''d find it funny, but then if I really did find him and he''d posted anything about what he was doing for sure, he''d be upset. So maybe I shouldn''t look. I just wanted to know if the ring I''d fallen in love with is what he''s going with, rather than the standard solitaire.

I''m not a very patient person. My mom sent an Easter basket for the two of us. I did good and didn''t open it until I saw him last night. Then I tore into it. Four days early! And I even had a Tootsie Roll from it, too. I''m bad!

Maybe tomorrow we''ll go to the Renaissance Festival. I''ve always wanted to go to one of those, and an old boyfriend always promised we''d go, but he never "felt up to it" when the time came for it. Thank heaven for a more active boyfriend who seeks my interests, too. And he really wants a turkey leg, too. That''s part of why he''s excited about it, I have no doubt. I want to see if we can get one of those charactures done. I just love pictures with tiny bodies, big heads, and huge teeth. They''re hilarious!
 
You''re both right. Maybe I should just leave and not look for him anymore. I''m really tempted.
 
I hope that you don''t mean leave leave! The main thing would just be to stay away from Rocky Talky, as that''s where he''d ask for diamond or setting advice, Proposal Ideas, for obvious reasons, and Show Me The Ring threads started by anyone who you don''t know for sure is one of the girls on the website, because he might post pictures that Whiteflash sends him. Does that sound pretty comprehensive, as to keeping it a surprise in case he is indeed posting?
 
Just wanted to say welcome!! Definitely stick with the LIW''s -- most guys post on other threads. And if I were you, and I seriously am going nutty myself over this, I would still try to refrain from reading/looking at his posts if you in fact find him here. My thinking is that besides ruining HIS surprise, it''d ruin yours. Just my thoughts.

My BF knows I post on here and he could so easily come read my posts (and know who I am) but he doesn''t out of respect for my privacy. He thinks it''s funny, too, that I am part of this group, but he also likes hearing the stories about the girls getting engaged. Sometimes I *wish* he were on here learning more, but I''m glad to be able to spout off about him too
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Anyway, hope your stay is super-short!
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jen
 
How do I get on that list?

I don''t think I''ll leave, leave, I just don''t know how long I will be able to NOT look for him. Honestly, if I knew of a key phrase to find out if he went the ring he SENT me an email of, I''d be happy as a lark. But now he says he doesn''t know if that''s the one he likes anymore.
 
I''m almost wondering if he''s trying to throw you off...
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Men can be so sneaky.

If you want to be officially added to the list, just post under the Official LIW List and ask to be added. It may take a while. JenWill''s MIA for the moment, so the administrators are kindly updating every once in a while. Just be patient.
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Geesh, more patience! Ack!!

Just playing, ooh... here''s good news, though. The ren. faire starts this weekend, so if we go tomorrow, it''s the whole deal where two people get in for the price of one. Sweet!
 
Well you see how long my patience and not talking about getting engaged lasted... The ring we''ve been thinking about was originally like $4,000 over his budget and I''d never want to wear something all that expensive on my finger. I''m much too much of a forgetful, not so delicate person to be taking care of something like that. So then we thought we''d go the custom route, but their price was high, too. Then he found this ring that looks just like the one I love! And then he told me he didn''t think he really liked it all that much anymore, and started finding faults with it. Said that it probably would sit higher than I would prefer, things like that. So, I''m trying not to let him know it has me sad, since it was such a beautiful ring. That''s why I want to find him on here. But I doubt he''d post on her; he''s a relatively shy, quiet type of guy.
 
Okay, I''m like hardly ever home in the middle of the day, and I''ve not seen "The View" in ages. Starr Jones doesn''t look very healthy these days. I mean, I know she was very overweight before, but today, anyway, she looks horrible. I mean that she looks not healthy, not like she''s feeling well, not like she''s doing well. I don''t know. I had my own bout of weight perception issues when I was in college, so maybe it''s stemming from that, but wow. She looks almost emaciated!
 
Okay, now I''m dying to know what this ring is! Can you decribe it? Tell us who makes it? Better yet...Post a picture?
 
Hey there, fisher! Welcome!
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Just post on the official list thread to be added, I hope your stay will be short.

Please tell us more about your dream ring, and post pics if possible!
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ETA: I do cross-stitching too! I love it, it really helps me unwind. Unfortunately, I haven''t had the time to do much these past few weeks...
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Okay, so I told myself I wouldn''t look to see if he''s posted, and I''ve done good so far and I''ve not been poking around, but I did look at the diamonds we''ve been looking at, and one of them has sold. I''m either really, really, really happy, or really, really sad.
 
I''ve been looking for a picture of the almost custom thing we''d thought of, but I don''t know where it is. I''m not on my computer, so I''m not sure I could find it if I wanted to. Although, he''s the one who located all the stuff to make it like the expensive one, I think. It''s a really pretty simple thing. Tiny little band, white gold, small stone, a little bit of build up to the stone portion. Can you picture it?
 
Date: 4/14/2006 1:36:27 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
I''ve been looking for a picture of the almost custom thing we''d thought of, but I don''t know where it is. I''m not on my computer, so I''m not sure I could find it if I wanted to. Although, he''s the one who located all the stuff to make it like the expensive one, I think. It''s a really pretty simple thing. Tiny little band, white gold, small stone, a little bit of build up to the stone portion. Can you picture it?
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Hmmmm, not really.
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Is it a plain solitaire, or are there diamonds on the band part of the ring?
 
The stone that''s been sold is really the stone that I liked best, too. It was the smaller of them, but it was also the least expensive and I was hoping he could do that and save some money in the long run.

I promised him I won''t ask anything about the ring for a while, until April 30, actually. It''s a long story, but he just wanted to have time to do his thing, without me asking stuff and ruining his plans. So, I can''t ask if he bought it. But I want to. I wonder if most of Whiteflash''s customers are from this forum?
 
No, no other diamonds. I like simple, plain. But different, too. Plus, I was once engaged before and I had a ring with multiple diamonds, and I dislike that look for that reason, too. He was really a big jerk and I''m just so glad I moved on from that and got the sense to get out. Praise God!

But, it''s not a plain solitaire, either. I mean, by some of the rings I''ve seen on here, it is super plain, but I think it''s different, without taking from the elegance of the plain solitaire. It has metal that climbs up to the diamond, and leaves a cut-out between the band and the build up portion. That makes is special, and it also sits inside this really pretty setting, almost like it''s in a garden. I love it.
 
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