Hey! Where''s Mine!?

[PrincessLily2009]

My roommate got a promise ring from her boyfriend of like, 8 or 9 months, and all of a sudden, I''m like, "hey, where''s my promise ring?" I come from a community where young marriages are pretty common, so I never thought of a promise ring as something you''d give after you were out of high school, but now I feel kind of left out. I know you can''t compare your relationship to another, but me and my BF are older, and we''ve been together longer. I feel like if either of us should be getting a promise ring, it''s me.

I feel so lame and childish for even caring. She just made such a huge deal out of it. I''m so mad at myself for even caring. I know how my SO feels, and I don''t need a ring to prove to the rest of the world that he''s serious about me. Yet, I couldn''t help but feel a little jealous and a little insecure about not receiving my own promise ring. Now I find myself hoping that I''ll get one, even though I know that I won''t, and then I''m going to be disappointed.

I don''t even want to post this-I feel so silly. I just needed to get it off my chest, I suppose.

 

[Mannequin]

I wouldn''t stress too much over this, PL. You know your man loves you, and you don''t have to use someone else''s things as a measuring stick for how much he loves you. Besides, the money that he doesn''t spend on a promise ring now goes into the e-ring fund for later! That extra couple hundred can go a long way towards the perfect setting or just the right stone.

I turned down getting a promise ring from my FF for this very reason.

 

[BeachRunner]

Date: 1/18/2009 1:14:20 PM
Author:PrincessLily2009
My roommate got a promise ring from her boyfriend of like, 8 or 9 months, and all of a sudden, I''m like, ''hey, where''s my promise ring?'' I come from a community where young marriages are pretty common, so I never thought of a promise ring as something you''d give after you were out of high school, but now I feel kind of left out. I know you can''t compare your relationship to another, but me and my BF are older, and we''ve been together longer. I feel like if either of us should be getting a promise ring, it''s me.


I feel so lame and childish for even caring. She just made such a huge deal out of it. I''m so mad at myself for even caring. I know how my SO feels, and I don''t need a ring to prove to the rest of the world that he''s serious about me. Yet, I couldn''t help but feel a little jealous and a little insecure about not receiving my own promise ring. Now I find myself hoping that I''ll get one, even though I know that I won''t, and then I''m going to be disappointed.


I don''t even want to post this-I feel so silly. I just needed to get it off my chest, I suppose.

I wouldn''t be too hard on yourself. When I hear promise ring, I DO think about high school and high school relationships. At my age (25), I wouldn''t want a promise ring, but rather wait for the real deal

 

[jcarlylew82]

i agree that the promise ring seems a bit young. also, (not to be a negative nelly) but they also seem like a way to make the girl happy, but hold off an actual engagement. i guess if i got a promise ring i would want to make sure my guy and i were still on the same page about timeline.

but hey, why not promise earings? or a necklace??

 

[Smurfysmiles]

haha in that case i wish i would have asked for a promise convertible!

 

[gwendolyn]

This could be seen as a blessing in disguise, if you''ve been bitten by the engagement bug. The way I see it, people are more likely to ask, "Oooh, is that an ENGAGEMENT ring?!!!" than "Ooh, is that a promise ring?!" And if you''re especially keen to be engaged (instead of promised), answering, "No, no, it''s just a promise ring" could eventually really bring you down as a reminder that you aren''t engaged yet. This way, you''re saving the bling for the real thing!

 

[jcarlylew82]

Date: 1/18/2009 3:23:22 PM
Author: gwendolyn
This could be seen as a blessing in disguise, if you''ve been bitten by the engagement bug. The way I see it, people are more likely to ask, ''Oooh, is that an ENGAGEMENT ring?!!!'' than ''Ooh, is that a promise ring?!'' And if you''re especially keen to be engaged (instead of promised), answering, ''No, no, it''s just a promise ring'' could eventually really bring you down as a reminder that you aren''t engaged yet. This way, you''re saving the bling for the real thing!

well said!!!

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 1/18/2009 3:23:22 PM
Author: gwendolyn
This could be seen as a blessing in disguise, if you''ve been bitten by the engagement bug. The way I see it, people are more likely to ask, ''Oooh, is that an ENGAGEMENT ring?!!!'' than ''Ooh, is that a promise ring?!'' And if you''re especially keen to be engaged (instead of promised), answering, ''No, no, it''s just a promise ring'' could eventually really bring you down as a reminder that you aren''t engaged yet. This way, you''re saving the bling for the real thing!

hehe yeah Gwen, I agree that a ''promise ring'' is likely to hold you over for only a fairly short time... once you''re out of high school anyway!
Although, I have seen a couple of huge ''promise'' rings, on PS!!
We don''t have that tradition over here, so I''m not sure what it entails... but from what I''ve picked up, it''s a way of marking a commitment amongst couples that are too young or too committed to their activities to commit to each other?
Anyway sounds sweet.