friends?

[purplediamond]

In the wake of one of my best friend''s weddings, a lot of her friends have gone a-wall. Share your stories?

 

[D&T]

Since we moved, my close friends haven''t been in contact with anymore, email has been sparse, but whenever I get a chance to visit the family we get together for Lunch, but its only like twice a year. I really miss my friends. I have a couple of childhood friends from when we were 3 years old that I have kept in contact with, but for the past year, I''ve tried to communicate, but she seemed to have dropped off the planet won''t call back, but her older sister is friends with my sister, and I ask how she is doing all the time, You''d think she would try to reconnect or something

as I have already made several attempts

Well at least I made some new PS friends

well online anyways

 

[purplediamond]

Date: 8/8/2009 10:52:25 PM
Author: D&T
Since we moved, my close friends haven''t been in contact with anymore, email has been sparse, but whenever I get a chance to visit the family we get together for Lunch, but its only like twice a year. I really miss my friends. I have a couple of childhood friends from when we were 3 years old that I have kept in contact with, but for the past year, I''ve tried to communicate, but she seemed to have dropped off the planet won''t call back, but her older sister is friends with my sister, and I ask how she is doing all the time, You''d think she would try to reconnect or something

as I have already made several attempts

Well at least I made some new PS friends

well online anyways

Hi D&T!

Thanks for sharing! I have tried to talk to her about it, but it just looks like she doesn''t care, I feel crazy because I care more. She has done some crazy bridezilla things though- She forgot one of her best friends birthdays and never apologized for it. I think it is great that you have tried, and for a year, major kuddos to you!!!!

 

[Sabine]

Weddings are difficult...the bride usually gets so caught up because the day is SO important to them, and it''s really easy to forget that it''s not nearly as important to everyone else. They can reveal some ugly sides of both brides and the friends they thought they had.

Personally, I didn''t lose any friends over my wedding...all my friends were really into the wedding planning with me, etc.

However, I recently moved and was sooooo sure I would easily keep in touch with all my friends. I was 8 months pregnant when I moved, and they all said they couldn''t wait to hear about the birth of my lo, etc. When my son was born, I got congrats from MOST of my friends and I''ve had a few longer emails here and there, but I really wish they would keep in touch more. And there is one friend who I haven''t heard from since the week we moved, she didn''t even comment on my son''s birth, which makes me really sad.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I lost 3 really good friends around the time of my wedding.

One friend before, 2 friends after.

My friend that went a-wall before my wedding was probably one that I counted amoung my closest. She was older than me by 10 years, and has been through a really hard breakup right before I got engaged. She made the comment about how she always thought she''d be getting married before me. I think it stung her, bummed her out and she just couldn''t be part of my wedding for her own sanity. I understood that, it hurt me a lot--but she had to figure her own stuff out. Our friendship never recovered. I wasn''t bitter or angry, but I believe she felt like she lost me to my husband--we were no longer single girls able to go out and be crazy together, I had responsibilities at home. We''ve gotten together a handful of times for lunch since my wedding 2 years ago, texted each other on occassion...but it''s not the same and that''s what kills me. I think in the end she just couldn''t adjust to me being married...our friendship, if it had continued, would have had to readjust to new dynamics and she wasn''t into that.

My 2 friends that I lost after my wedding were BM''s. It''s a very long story...but the moral is, sometimes things just don''t work out.

Tell your friend that it''s okay...that she''s still going to have a great wedding and to enjoy the ride!!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

In most traditional wedding ceremonies, the celebrant says to the bride and groom:
"(Bride''s Name/ Grooms name), do you take (Bride''s name/Groom''s Name) for your lawful wedded (husband/wife), to live in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love, honour, comfort, and cherish (him/her) from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto (him/her) for as long as you both shall live?"

Illogical as it may be, friends probably take that literally and believe that the new wife and husband won''t want or need to spend time with them after the marriage. The relationship with the friends will obviously never be the same again, and the friends figure they either have to settle for being a very minor part of the couple''s life or move on.

 

[joelly]

Good point, Madam!!!

Don''t worry about friends, they are not the highlight of any weddings. JMHO.

 

[brightlight]

Date: 8/9/2009 3:39:34 PM
Author: joelly
Good point, Madam!!!

Don''t worry about friends, they are not the highlight of any weddings. JMHO.

I disagree. I think being around friends and family are what make the wedding fabulous.