My fiancé has a 16 year old sister. Whenever we discuss the wedding with his family, she always asks about her place in the wedding party. She was the last bridesmaid in the line in her cousins wedding. She voices that she doesn''t want to be last in line again. I had originally planned on her being a bridesmaid. Well...I have re-thought this issue. Jacob said to me that I can forget about having her in the wedding…but I don’t want to cause a family upheaval.
She doesn''t LIKE ME! Jacob (FI) and I took her out to dinner the other night, to be nice, and because she is his younger sister. The entire time she pointed out cute girls to him. She told him about her friend Jessica who is single, athletic, in shape, has DD breasts, and would go on a date with him.
We went to the bookstore and she said ''you should buy a magazine about how to clean your house'' You get the idea....
Jacob went to dinner at his parents for his Mothers birthday last night and he said to his sister... "Why do you want to be in the wedding so much if you dislike Danielle?'' She walked off.
Well the issue is.. How ''wrong'' would it be to exclude his sister? The other issue is.. She will be my sister-in-law forever. While I understand that she is young and petty and will probably get over her issues....should I try to confront her? I was thinking about asking her to go out for ice cream or something and try to find out what the problem is. Honestly, we have never had a fall out, or an argument of any kind. I don''t think she KNOWS why she doesn''t like me...she is just convinced that she doesn''t. Or, is it not worth the effort since she is the one with the problem? I have gone out of my way to make her feel welcome in our house, etc. Jacob thinks she is jealous that she lost ''her big brother'', but she didn''t. It may be because I have children, who he has taken on as his own. (I know his parents aren''t thrilled with him marrying a "divorced-Mom"
Ahhh. How do I handle all of this?