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I'll apologize in advance for the pity party I'm throwing for myself right now. Ugh, I hate myself for how I'm feeling, but I can't seem to help it. I guess my husband was in a really, really good mood during the Thanksgiving break - he saw I was on the bling blog and asked very jovially "So what's your next diamond purchase going to be?" my reaction -> 
. I'm not very proud of my response, unfortunately. I mumbled something about what I wanted being too expensive (what a brat), and he kept pressing me about how expensive, and I just became extremely embarrassed but somehow a budget of $10,000 finally came out. (the piece I have my heart set on is an antique oec ring with a large stone...da*m this DSS!) He mentioned something about getting it for me for Christmas, and again my response -> . So I happily started looking at antique oec rings on various sites, including Burk's gorgeous ring, over in the pre-loved section. I won't lie - it was a lot of fun! Well, several days later the hubs back-pedals a bit and says he might feel more comfortable waiting until the beginning of next year (Feb-March). I say "fine, no problem, I understand" and I totally do, because this is a big purchase. Although, if I'm being honest, I did feel a little disappointed. And then he says "well, on the other hand, no real reason to wait, we'll see." Again, I say fine. He just asked me this evening what I wanted for Christmas, so I take that to mean he's decided not to give me the ring for Christmas.
I couldn't help but feel a little let-down and disappointed, like someone let the air out of me. Talk about mixed emotions. Honestly, I understand that this is a big expense. I was having intermittent guilt feelings about the purchase even as I was gleefully browsing the web in search of a ring. But at the same time I can't help feeling a little...deflated. Objectively, it's far from the end of the world to wait a few months. But to tell you the truth, I feel so weird about the whole thing right now I might just give up on it. I'm sensing my husband's good mood has faded and he might be having second thoughts about such a big jewelry purchase. I guess I could talk to him about it (makes sense, after 27 years of marriage you'd think that wouldn't be a problem) but I feel oddly embarrassed and uncomfortable about the whole thing.
Well, thanks if you've made it this far, and for listening...I hate myself, and feel so guilty, for being bummed about something like this, when there are others dealing with much more serious issues. I guess that's the conundrum of this whole jewelry thing, isn't it?
. I'm not very proud of my response, unfortunately. I mumbled something about what I wanted being too expensive (what a brat), and he kept pressing me about how expensive, and I just became extremely embarrassed but somehow a budget of $10,000 finally came out. (the piece I have my heart set on is an antique oec ring with a large stone...da*m this DSS!) He mentioned something about getting it for me for Christmas, and again my response -> . So I happily started looking at antique oec rings on various sites, including Burk's gorgeous ring, over in the pre-loved section. I won't lie - it was a lot of fun! Well, several days later the hubs back-pedals a bit and says he might feel more comfortable waiting until the beginning of next year (Feb-March). I say "fine, no problem, I understand" and I totally do, because this is a big purchase. Although, if I'm being honest, I did feel a little disappointed. And then he says "well, on the other hand, no real reason to wait, we'll see." Again, I say fine. He just asked me this evening what I wanted for Christmas, so I take that to mean he's decided not to give me the ring for Christmas. I couldn't help but feel a little let-down and disappointed, like someone let the air out of me. Talk about mixed emotions. Honestly, I understand that this is a big expense. I was having intermittent guilt feelings about the purchase even as I was gleefully browsing the web in search of a ring. But at the same time I can't help feeling a little...deflated. Objectively, it's far from the end of the world to wait a few months. But to tell you the truth, I feel so weird about the whole thing right now I might just give up on it. I'm sensing my husband's good mood has faded and he might be having second thoughts about such a big jewelry purchase. I guess I could talk to him about it (makes sense, after 27 years of marriage you'd think that wouldn't be a problem) but I feel oddly embarrassed and uncomfortable about the whole thing.
Well, thanks if you've made it this far, and for listening...I hate myself, and feel so guilty, for being bummed about something like this, when there are others dealing with much more serious issues. I guess that's the conundrum of this whole jewelry thing, isn't it?
and don't forget the .10ct per year rule, so in your case 27 yrs = a 2.7ct stone... 
) on stones or jewelry, pure joy mixes with fear: "If we ever go broke I'll wish so hard to have that money back!" My parents grew up during the Depression & especially my mother was a very cautious spender all her life. I swear she grumbles at me, from wherever she is, when I buy an item for the sheer joy of having it. I know I hear her in my head!
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