Ever get that overwhelmed nervous feeling?

[chris143007]

I''m 25, looking for my first and only (hopefully ) engagement ring for my gf. Many of you know I''m looking for the perfect radiant, and have seen some beautiful ones and some ugly ones. Even went to LA diamond district for kicks yesterday and had fun looking at all the inventory there.

Thing is, I have enough money saved to buy anything I would want to get. When I began my search, I walked into Tiffany''s and was about to get a ring there- then I discovered PS!

I''ve since been researching for a couple of months and have some great stones as potential ones. Now though, my gf and I are trying to buy a new home and obviously save for life in general, etc. So, the $ I have all of a sudden seems split into so many different ways.

Anyone else feel like this too?

 

[windowshopper]

i dont know exactly what "i can buy whatever i want.." means but i would suggest you buy something in the 1 carat range , very high quality from a reputable vendor. Then in five years once your house , wedding etc and other priorities are addressed you can consider an upgrade. However, in the meantime you have something beautiful and of perfectly nice size and if you can never afford to upgrade once life''s responsibilities get more and more in number she will still have a lovely diamond. I am glad I have a nice e-ring but the e-ring doenst really mean anything.....................my wedding band is priceless (sentiment as opposed to size)

 

[hoorray]

I more or less agree with windowshopper. I had a 1.25 ct e-ring. It was a nice size -- big enough to last me longer than 5 years. I just upgraded after 16ish years. I personally would recommend that you buy large enough to be comfortably large now, and worry about upgrading when the moment seems right, whenever that is down the line.

That''s assuming that you have enough $$ saved that this approach would leave some left over. If this would wipe everything out, I''d size down so that there is some left over. I think having some savings is really a great thing for a young couple starting out. There are soooooo many big ticket expenses in the first years, as you are finding out. Rings can always be changed -- they are luxury items.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Hi,

My then boyfriend and I were split regarding size way back when as well. We ended up opting for a smaller stone (.42 ideal RB) so we both could pay our way through college without student loans. Later after marrying we bought a home. Just now we've finally have reached a point of financial stability and I'm planning an upgrade. I'm so glad we chose this route because I cannot imagine paying rent for someone else to make money from a home's appreciation! Having a smaller stone was worth the sacrifice back then and still is now.

Michelle

 

[belle]

that nervous feeling is yourself trying to tell you something! you don''t want to start your new life in debt.......it''s not fun! it''s hard enough adjusting to marriage.....mortagage payments.......children.........etc., make sure you are spending wisely. if you need to, sit down and make a budget and decide upon a reasonable amount to spend on a ring. if your budget doesn''t allow you the diamond you/she wants, save your money. you can always upgrade later. she may even want something different in a few years. styles change, it''ll be a good excuse to get a new ring!!