Eternity Band - Danger of Outgrowing?

[DChokie]

Hi all -

My fiancee and I are in the market for wedding bands, and she prefers eternity bands. However, there is concern over the fact that it's very difficult (if not impossible) to have eternity bands re-sized if necessary. To be blunt, she won't be 110 pounds forever. Is outgrowing an eternity band a serious concern - is it serious enough to avoid the style altogether? I have no idea. I want her to have the ring she gets on the altar to be her ring for life, but she's a size 4!

Thanks all.

 

[pancake]

Has she lost a lot of weight for the wedding? I don't have much experience as I've only worn an eternity for the last 6 months, but I know that some other PSers have found that their finger size hasn't fluctuated as much as their weight. If it really worries you a lot, perhaps you could compromise and go for an almost-eternity with a small sizing bar where metal can be added if it needs to be made larger later on.

 

[PinkTower]

I have worn mine for fourteen years now. It still fits fine. I would say I got it a half size or more larger than needed, because I like the look of a loose ring. My engagement ring is a smaller size. Since it is in front, there is no danger of the eternity band falling off. And no, I don't think she will be wearing the ring forever. I had to replace my engagement ring at 27 years. It wore too thin and became razor sharp.

 

[AprilBaby]

After 30 years I wear 3/4 size larger than when I got married.

 

[AllyD]

I have an eternity band and I got mine a little bigger than I normally wear. My jeweler put in two balls to keep it from falling off. If I need to one day, he can take them out. Better to go a bit bigger than just the exact size when buying an eternity band, IMO.

 

[motownmama]

My weight (104) has stayed the same - 16 yrs and 4 kids later. I wear 4.25 size and even had to have a sizing bead put into my ER last year. I think have it made 1/4 - 1/2 bigger if you're worried. The other tip I have : wear the rings (close to ) 24/7, if possible. I really think it keeps your ring finger from expanding over time - just my 2 cents.

 

[kelpie]

I think most people get them 1/4 to 1/2 larger than their true size. But I honestly believe no matter what you do she will eventually outgrow it as most people tend to get arthritis which enlarges the knuckles as they age (hopefully decades away). I say this as someone who just bought an eternity a half size too large.

 

[that_someone_special]

My parents have been married for 25 years and my mothers ring size is about a half size larger than when they got married.
Mine changed a whole size in 3 years.

I think it depends on the person and if they gain weight.. where they gain weight. Not to mention if knuckle size increases.

There is no shame in a 3/4 eternity.

 

[clgwli]

My ring size has gotten smaller by over a size since even high school. I'm about 10 pounds lighter than I was in HS, but for some reason my ring size has gotten so much smaller. While pregnant I actually did go back up to the size I did wear in HS, but it went back to normal a week after the birth.

Personally if you want to keep with the same ring I would suggest a 3/4 eternity instead. That way you have a little wiggle room

 

[sparkledust]

I'm jealous Moto! So tiny after all these years and kids?!!! I'm lucky if I weigh today what I weighed last week...sheesh, you lucky gal!

Sorry to deviate from original post

 

[Circe]

To be blunt, she won't be 110 pounds forever. Is outgrowing an eternity band a serious concern - is it serious enough to avoid the style altogether? I have no idea. I want her to have the ring she gets on the altar to be her ring for life, but she's a size 4!

Thanks all.

Heheheh - this kind of cracked me up. My finger size has stayed the same through weight fluctuations of 20 lbs, give or take: however, given that pregnancy can cause significant size changes, and the concern of knuckles enlarging with age, it's good to have a little "room to grow." I'd recommend getting an eternity band that's maybe half a size bigger, and to have a sizing pad installed (sort of like sizing balls, but flat, so more comfortable). Alternately, if you get a fairly substantial metal band in the correct size now, if it becomes an issue in the future, a good jeweler should be able to shave it down by up to half a size.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Not too serious a concern. If so then get it reset, by that time she may want a change anyway!

cheers--Sharon

 

[DChokie]

Thanks all! We are going to go up a half size, and insert beads if necessary. I'm getting the impression (both from PSers here and jewelers I've spoken to in person) that women generally don't go up more than half a size, if at all.

Many thanks for your personal insights! Such a great forum.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Sizing beads is a good option as long as the larger eternity ring still fits well with the ering. After 33 years, my ring size is 3/4 of a size larger (from 4 3/4 to 5 1/2). It stayed the same for at least 25 and I gradually increased it, unfortunately!

 

[yssie]

Congrats