When a RB solitaire covers my whole finger!
I don’t think it ever really ends. Your eye adjusts and everything just becomes ‘normal’. Then you have to take thinking to the next level. What ‘sounds’ big? Was there an original goal? Have I maxed out the amount I want to spend on a single piece of jewelry? Even though it might not look big now, is it - realistically speaking? Would another half carat of weight or x amount of diameter make me happier? Is there a size where it becomes ridiculous or makes me feel very self conscious? I think it is these kinds of questions that can keep us a bit grounded about size and goals! Many of us here now have diamonds that would have far surpassed our original thinking about a diamond ring! Isn’t it crazy?? Lol!!
Indeed, that's looking like what it would take for it to end!
@MissGotRocks I love this post--thank you! I've been trying to remind myself of this type of very rational, practical reasoning. When I first found PS, I thought 1ct was big! I have far exceeded the original goal and maxed out the amount I want to spend on a single diamond. It is the largest diamond by a long shot of my social circle, and I already feel self-conscious. But when I'm just out and about alone or with DH (who must never see this post! ), it doesn't seem big.
Please someone tell me I'm being crazy!
No you are not crazy - perspective just gets skewed. You have a large, beautiful diamond and I am sure you love it! I think I must have missed this ring so congratulations! Do you think it would help to focus on another piece of jewelry that you would like to have? I honestly think that sometimes we get fixated on things is such a way that we lose our sense of joy about what we do have. The great thing about jewelry is that no piece has to be forever so knowing that you do have choices - even if that means going larger at some point - should make it easier to enjoy this diamond. I will say though that because you wouldn’t want your husband to know your feelings tells me that even you doubt the fact that it is too small. I don’t say this to be judgmental as I know he would probably think ‘here we go again - lol!’ I am just saying this because you probably know he wouldn’t validate your feelings on the diamond being too small.Indeed, that's looking like what it would take for it to end!
@MissGotRocks I love this post--thank you! I've been trying to remind myself of this type of very rational, practical reasoning. When I first found PS, I thought 1ct was big! I have far exceeded the original goal and maxed out the amount I want to spend on a single diamond. It is the largest diamond by a long shot of my social circle, and I already feel self-conscious. But when I'm just out and about alone or with DH (who must never see this post! ), it doesn't seem big.
Please someone tell me I'm being crazy!
I'm going to need some details about your gorgeous diamond.❤
I'm kinda over it tbh.
I don’t have DSS anymore since my upgrade. It’s plenty big enough for me. I truly wouldn’t want a larger diamond. What I’m doing now is pining for an emerald cut..I drool over them. I tell myself I can’t have everything I want. I’m determined to just enjoy everyone else’s..
No you are not crazy - perspective just gets skewed. You have a large, beautiful diamond and I am sure you love it! I think I must have missed this ring so congratulations! Do you think it would help to focus on another piece of jewelry that you would like to have? I honestly think that sometimes we get fixated on things is such a way that we lose our sense of joy about what we do have. The great thing about jewelry is that no piece has to be forever so knowing that you do have choices - even if that means going larger at some point - should make it easier to enjoy this diamond. I will say though that because you wouldn’t want your husband to know your feelings tells me that even you doubt the fact that it is too small. I don’t say this to be judgmental as I know he would probably think ‘here we go again - lol!’ I am just saying this because you probably know he wouldn’t validate your feelings on the diamond being too small.
Wear it and enjoy it in all its glory! There may come a time that you will have to have that ‘come to husband. ‘ talk if the nagging in your mind won’t stop. In the meantime, enjoy it, lean on us like minded people and go to Home Depot to watch it put on a show!!
your ring is
i ended up with a bigger ring than i'd planned and i was self-conscious about wearing it for all of 2 days, then it seemed normal....it hasn't shrunk further yet so, there's hope?
congrats and enjoy your beautiful ring.
Get an even bigger colored stone....lol But, stay on the cheap side. no sapphires OK? Amethyst, Citrine, Topaz (and you can get some lovely blues for pretty cheap) It might help to some degree and give you something big.
I personally do not wear diamonds on my hands. I wear them on my ears only because the surface real estate there is super tiny...lol
Please someone tell me I'm being crazy!
I have a modest size ER by PS standards but plenty blingy for me- I would say I definitely adjusted to it after a few months but in my career field I feel it would be inappropriate to go bigger- although there are larger rings and lots of bling in my social circle. So, maybe DSS gets tempered by the practicality of actually wearing the item regularly?
OK, if it helps: you're being crazy.
Switch to colored stones -- there is always a better-colored sapphire that you can covet. May be bigger; may be smaller. No one but you and a handful of PSers will even know the difference...
Yes, DO switch to colored stones.
Just make sure they are Fancy Colored Diamonds, graded by GIA to be fully natural in both color origin and material being mined from the earth, not lab created.
Of course buy only primary colors with no secondary modifying hues.
Get pure red, pure green and pure blue.
For the green and blues get Fancy vivid only.
Do be sure to get em in large carat weights, 1 ct and up, and also buy examples that happened to be also cut for ideal light performance.
I'm kinda over it tbh.
@seaurchin was there anything in particular that got you to that point?
Sure, just give me a few lifetimes to save up and I'll get this one, and it doesn't even satisfy the weight criterion.
I feel the same, diamond size wise I’m good, so no dss, but PS has fueled my appetite for more diversified jewelry pieces (eg, tennis bracelets, or antique pieces) which never crossed my mind. I think the only way to quell dss is to avoid PS or similar websites!
There are far larger and better diamonds on here than mine but I still just started to feel like it was a little too much flashing wealth for me, around the people I know who don't have as much and also safety-wise. I decided I'd rather have something more subtle. I do like a larger stone on my hand though, so I'm working on a new e-ring with a colored stone.
The hue of this blue ain't too shabby ... that is if you don't mind cutesie smaller diamonds.
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People aren’t always focused on bigger and better.
If that’s your jam, I think you should reevaluate your priorities. I say that as a person who has sold off all of her diamonds, and kept only heirloom jewels/jewelry.
When a RB solitaire covers my whole finger!