I've always read that marital satisfaction tends to go down in the first year after having a baby, only to rebound a few years later. Do/did you find this to be the case in your own relationship?
I found the first few months to be very tough, especially going from being a very active, independent person to having my whole schedule revolve around my little one, even for simple things like going to the bathroom, having breakfast, or sending an email. It was a lot more exhausting than I thought it would be. Especially after night upon night of not getting any sleep.
Now that it's been 5 months and things have settled down, I feel a lot better. A lot more like myself. I'm finally getting sleep and getting opportunities to dress up and go out and reconnect with my hubby. On top of that, we're really enjoying our daughter. There are still sacrifices - time is still very limited, sleeping in and sleeping for 8 -hour stretches are still unheard of, going out is very restricted, and so are the finances! etc, but overall, I think I'm now feeling happier than I did before we had our baby. I feel like our marital/life satisfaction has gone up now, even with the sacrifices. I don't know if this is just a fleeting phase, though (didn't someone say that 5-6 months is the 'honeymoon' baby phase?), that will pass once toddlerhood comes and life gets crazy again.
What's been your experience?
I found the first few months to be very tough, especially going from being a very active, independent person to having my whole schedule revolve around my little one, even for simple things like going to the bathroom, having breakfast, or sending an email. It was a lot more exhausting than I thought it would be. Especially after night upon night of not getting any sleep.
Now that it's been 5 months and things have settled down, I feel a lot better. A lot more like myself. I'm finally getting sleep and getting opportunities to dress up and go out and reconnect with my hubby. On top of that, we're really enjoying our daughter. There are still sacrifices - time is still very limited, sleeping in and sleeping for 8 -hour stretches are still unheard of, going out is very restricted, and so are the finances! etc, but overall, I think I'm now feeling happier than I did before we had our baby. I feel like our marital/life satisfaction has gone up now, even with the sacrifices. I don't know if this is just a fleeting phase, though (didn't someone say that 5-6 months is the 'honeymoon' baby phase?), that will pass once toddlerhood comes and life gets crazy again.
What's been your experience?