Does it Matter?

[tlh]

Just a thought of the day to start an open thread....

Do you ever get ring envy?
Do you care if your friend''s ering is bigger than yours?
Do you want to have the largest e-ring out of your circle of friends?

... and discuss...

 

[chrono]

Doesn''t affect me at all. There will always be someone with something bigger and better than what you have be it a car, house, ring, etc. It does not prevent me from being able to appreciate it though.

 

[tlh]

I agree. My girlfriend doesn''t care if she is the biggest.... she just doesnt want to be the SMALLEST.

I get ring envy in that I wish I could have all shapes, I think... oooo I want a chunky cushion, oooo I want a fat juicy pear... esp when you see a well cut one, WOWZA.

 

[Deelight]

Date: 1/26/2009 11:26:11 AM
Author:tlh
Just a thought of the day to start an open thread....


Do you ever get ring envy? I think others rings are beautiful and I might lust over them but I don''t envy them.

Do you care if your friend''s ering is bigger than yours? No

Do you want to have the largest e-ring out of your circle of friends? Currently I do, but I couldn''t care less if someone got one bigger


... and discuss...

 

[fieryred33143]

Between the period of searching for a ring until it was purchased, it mattered. Not so much that it needed to be the best but I wanted to make sure I was getting a good deal (or I should say FI). I had some lingering thoughts about it and now I pay no attention at all to my ring. I don''t pay attention to the rings of other people either and pretty much don''t go in SMTR. Sometimes I lurk but PS has evolved for me into a community of so many other things besides diamonds that I sometimes forget that''s what this forum is all about. Oops

In my circle, it doesn''t matter. There is a wide range. With some friends, I have the biggest diamond and mine is only .75. With others its the smallest but not by much. And with others it looks like a pebble in comparison. It doesn''t bother me either way. FI notices more but he notices sparkle. He''ll say "yours sparkles more" or "hers sparkles as much as yours" lol

 

[princesss]

I could care less. I don''t let what other people have dimish my love of the things I have (and at this point, I have very llittle, lol).

I do wish my friends cared more about their jewelry, though. It makes me a little sad when they brush off my efforts to show them quality stuff and go to Zales (for an aqua that looks almost white and has a window I could walk through, surrounded by a bunch of little gray diamonds). So I guess no matter how much bigger any of their rings end up being, I''ll probably be the person that puts more effort into finding my stone, and the only one of us that comes close to knowing what I''m looking at. And all of that research just makes me

my things more!

 

[tlh]

Date: 1/26/2009 11:35:57 AM
Author: princesss
I could care less. I don''t let what other people have dimish my love of the things I have (and at this point, I have very llittle, lol).

I do wish my friends cared more about their jewelry, though. It makes me a little sad when they brush off my efforts to show them quality stuff and go to Zales (for an aqua that looks almost white and has a window I could walk through, surrounded by a bunch of little gray diamonds). So I guess no matter how much bigger any of their rings end up being, I''ll probably be the person that puts more effort into finding my stone, and the only one of us that comes close to knowing what I''m looking at. And all of that research just makes me

my things more!

OMG THAT IS SOOO TRUE! haha! I call them aqwhites! haah!

 

[sba771]

Do you ever get ring envy? I wouldn't say 'envy' because I love mine, but I also love looking and admiring other people's as well. A beautiful ring should always be looked at
Do you care if your friend's ering is bigger than yours? Nope, but being on PS I would only be upset if they spent a lot of money on something that was not good quality in order to 'one up' someone
Do you want to have the largest e-ring out of your circle of friends? ...I don't want to have the largest, but right now I do because no one else in my circle is engaged. I am very young and engaged to someone older. Frankly it can be embarassing at times and it makes me uncomfortable

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 1/26/2009 11:26:11 AM
Author:tlh
Just a thought of the day to start an open thread....


Do you ever get ring envy?

Do you care if your friend's ering is bigger than yours?

Do you want to have the largest e-ring out of your circle of friends?


... and discuss...

Well, I'm a jewelry nut, so I notice jewelry, but I don't feel ring envy. I'm really happy with my small collection. I will stop and admire someone else's piece, though--here on ps and irl.

Well, none of my closest female friends are engaged yet, but they have each enlisted my help in the future. They are just not into jewels--wish they were! Our married couple friends all wear simple plain bands!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I can appreciate the beauty of other people''s rings...and I do catch myself, from time to time, wondering if I should change my setting...but Mark was so **excited** about designing my engagement ring and wedding band, and he is so proud of himself every time anyone compliments me on it, I would never have the heart to change it (at least not right now

).

My Momma always told me no matter how wonderful you are, there is always going to be someone smarter, richer, prettier, and better ... so enjoy what you are/have and make the most of it. And I really do believe that. My diamond isn''t "small" by any means...but, it''s not *huge* either--at least not by PS standards, real life tends to be a little different. My diamond is worht what my husband felt comfortable with spending at the time we got engaged...we didn''t accumulate debt over it and we both loved it upon sight. It doesn''t need to be over-the-top large to have huge meaning, and that''s something everyone should rememember when ring shopping, I do believe. I''m very proud of my diamond.

 

[geckodani]

Do you ever get ring envy? Envy - Nah. Lust, perhaps.

I mean, there are rings on here that I think are STUNNING and would love to own - but I''m also perfectly in love with my own!

Do you care if your friend''s ering is bigger than yours? Nope. Some of my friends have larger rings, others smaller - and all are reflective of our personalities and tastes.

Do you want to have the largest e-ring out of your circle of friends? I don''t currently and could care less. My set is unique to me.

... and discuss...

I''m totally with princesss on this one too - I hate it when my friends disregard sound advice and wander into Kay or Jared or whatever and come out with frozen spit or the like. One of my close friends lucked out and walked away with a gorgeous ring - but more often than not I want to konk them on the head and go - "Hello! Remember me - the jewelry nut with some good contacts? Let me HELP!"

 

[neatfreak]

I get ring envy on PS for sure as in "Ohhhh that''s gorgeous, I wish I could add that to my collection!" but that doesn''t mean I am not happy with what I have nor does it mean I need to compete with anyone IRL or otherwise. I just enjoy what I enjoy.

 

[Bia]

Never envious (jealous maybe

...in the best possible way! hehe). I love diamonds

, whether they are mine, or if I am simply admiring them on someone else (or from afar).

IRL, I've noticed that I'm a little shy about showing off my ring (a few people have called me out on it). Maybe because while its not huge (1.75 ct) it's bigger than most in my circle...I feel like secretly it makes me a bit self-conscious. Is that ludicrous?

 

[tlh]

Date: 1/26/2009 12:22:03 PM
Author: Bia
Never envious (jealous maybe

...in the best possible way! hehe). I love diamonds

, whether they are mine, or if I am simply admiring them on someone else (or from afar).

IRL, I''ve noticed that I''m a little shy about showing off my ring (a few people have called me out on it). Maybe because while its not huge (1.75 ct) it''s bigger than most in my circle...I feel like secretly it makes me a bit self-conscious. Is that ludicrous?

No, it is like the chesty girl that always wears turtlenecks... we''re know they are big under there... even if they aren''t on display!

 

[Porridge]

Nope I love my ring to pieces. I think big rings look gorgeous...on other people! I love my size on me. Otherwose, where does it end??

 

[Elmorton]

I don''t have any ring envy except for on PS ...and I actually do have the smallest e-ring of all my friends so far (most of my friends went with 1ct or right under, mine is a little bit bigger than a 1/2) - so no, I''m clearly not out to have the biggest diamond. I probably am out to have the prettiest collection of jewelry as a whole, though, haha. I do LOVE looking at friends'' e-rings though because they have different cuts and different styles that fit them - a friend of mine an incredibly blingy round, another has a radiant with trillions, a couple friends have massive sapphires... all gorgeous, gorgeous rings, but they''re not "me" the way that my EC and slightly different setting is.

Now...if a friend of mine got a gorgeous EC solitaire in a sleek, delicate, and unique setting and it was sooo my taste...that might be another story. I''d probably be kinda jealous, but in a good, "Lucky you!!!" way.

 

[kittybean]

Do you ever get ring envy? On PS, all the time

. I mostly just wish I had the option of borrowing someone else''s ring once in a while, for a little variety. I love my ring the most of all, of course, but it would be great to borrow something with tons of pave one day, then a simple ideal-cut solitaire the next. IRL, not as much, although I''d happily wear my friend''s mom''s 4-5 ct EC or my good friend''s amazing oval solitaire if given the chance.

Do you care if your friend''s ering is bigger than yours? No. It''s not a competition.

Do you want to have the largest e-ring out of your circle of friends? Same answer--not a competition. I do, however, think I have the prettiest e-ring of all my friends . . . but I might be a teeny bit biased

.

 

[AmberGretchen]

Honestly I just like to admire them if they are bigger than mine (and some of them definitely are!)

 

[musey]

Date: 1/26/2009 11:26:11 AM
Author:tlh
Do you ever get ring envy?

Sure, in the "wow that ring is beautiful, I''d love to own one like it!" kinda way. Never in the "I wish I had that instead of my ering/wedding ring/insert ring here" way.

Do you care if your friend''s ering is bigger than yours?

I guess I can''t really say, because I don''t have any friends that wear diamonds. I don''t think I would though. My love for my ring is not to do with its size, really

Do you want to have the largest e-ring out of your circle of friends?

I have the only e-ring out of my circle of friends. I''d bet that once they started getting engaged/married, they will leave my ring in the dust!

 

[soocool]

I typically am not jealous of another''s person "huge" bling. In fact, my friend bought a fake ring that, believe it or not, no one knew was a fake (probably because we did not pull it off her finger to examine it!) until she told me privately. A lot of my friends sport huge diamonds and have several rings that I really just don''t find appealing.

The stone in my e-ring is a fake and no one knows it either(or at least no one has ever said anything to me that they know it is a fake). It was more important for my husband and I to buy a house when we first got married instead of buying a real diamond. Suffice it to say, this is our second home (we built it 15 years ago) and it is all paid off! Nowafter 20 years of marriage, I want a real diamond ering.. Hubby says I deserve it and I asked how much and he said whatever you like. I keep asking how much can I spend and he said don''t think about the cost. Get what you want and don''t settle.

I will admit that I am finding it hard to spend that much money on myself, so that is why I am on PS, to educate myself on how to purchase a diamond ring and to get the ring I really want (to me that is a pronged halo with a 1.5 to 1.7 center RB...my ring size is a 4.75 and based on what I have tried on that is the limit for me).

Don''t get me wrong, I have plenty of other "real bling" that my lovely hubby has bestowed upon me. A 5- diamond RHR, a diamond wedding band, diamond bracelet, sapphire pendant, sapphire earrings, etc. But even with all that I still want the "blinding e-ring".