Does it matter to you where someone''s e-ring comes from?

[february2003bride]

Let''s say a friend/coworker/family member get''s engaged, the ring is bought and on her finger. She loves it and her FI is proud he gave her a ring she loves. You think it''s beautiful as well until you here those words..."It was bought at (fill in the blank of any b&m store you dislike- Jared''s, Kay''s, Zales, Helzberg''s, etc.).

Knowing that, does you opinion on the ring change? Would you say something?

 

[DivaDiamond007]

To me it doesn''t. If the bride-to-be is happy with it then that''s all that matters. I would not say anything unless asked, in private, by the bride-to-be.

 

[upgrade]

A beautiful ring is still a beautiful ring, no matter where it was purchased so no, it wouldn''t change my opinion of the ring. I think I would privately feel like they could have bought so more for their money elsewhere but I would never, ever say anything about it.

 

[swingirl]

Date: 12/4/2009 8:17:44 PM
Author:february2003bride
Let's say a friend/coworker/family member get's engaged, the ring is bought and on her finger. She loves it and her FI is proud he gave her a ring she loves. You think it's beautiful as well until you here those words...'It was bought at (fill in the blank of any b&m store you dislike- Jared's, Kay's, Zales, Helzberg's, etc.).

Knowing that, does you opinion on the ring change? Would you say something?

What on earth would you say? You mean something other than a compliment and congratulations?

 

[february2003bride]

Date: 12/4/2009 8:26:26 PM
Author: swingirl

Date: 12/4/2009 8:17:44 PM
Author:february2003bride
Let''s say a friend/coworker/family member get''s engaged, the ring is bought and on her finger. She loves it and her FI is proud he gave her a ring she loves. You think it''s beautiful as well until you here those words...''It was bought at (fill in the blank of any b&m store you dislike- Jared''s, Kay''s, Zales, Helzberg''s, etc.).

Knowing that, does you opinion on the ring change? Would you say something?

What on earth would you say? You mean something other than a compliment and congratulations?

No, I would only say congratulations because it doesn''t matter to me where someone buys their e-ring. Why I posted this thread was because of a story I posted in the insult thread about a friend of mine who''s e-ring was insulted because of where it was from.

 

[Bia]

I, personally, wouldn''t purchase a diamond from a B&M store but that''s not to say jewelry stores don''t sell beautiful pieces. If I thought it was beautiful before I learned where it came from I''m still going to think it''s beautiful after I know.

Even if my opinion were changed, I would never say anything. Most people I know aren''t interested in diamond knowledge, I find anyway. So I keep my ''expertise'' to myself - unless people ask of course

Then you can''t shut me up.

 

[Rachel9]

No, people have different tastes and budgets, I'd honestly congratulate and share their happiness.

 

[junebug17]

If I thought the ring was pretty before finding out where it was from , finding out where it was purchased would definitely not change my opinion. If the bride to be loves her ring, that's all that matters and it's immaterial what I think! I honestly wouldn't care where the ring was purchased, I would be happy and excited for her and admire her ring. I got mad when I read the nasty and catty remarks people have made about another's ring in the other thread, I can't believe how mean some people can be!!!

 

[LilyKat]

No, of course not. But my opinion of the store might improve if it was a beautiful piece.

 

[D&T]

Date: 12/4/2009 8:25:23 PM
Author: upgrade
A beautiful ring is still a beautiful ring, no matter where it was purchased so no, it wouldn''t change my opinion of the ring. I think I would privately feel like they could have bought so more for their money elsewhere but I would never, ever say anything about it.

well said, I agree here

 

[Circe]

Date: 12/4/2009 9:07:52 PM
Author: D&T

Date: 12/4/2009 8:25:23 PM

Author: upgrade

A beautiful ring is still a beautiful ring, no matter where it was purchased so no, it wouldn''t change my opinion of the ring. I think I would privately feel like they could have bought so more for their money elsewhere but I would never, ever say anything about it.

well said, I agree here

Thritto - I was composing basically the same reply in my head as I scrolled down. Great minds!

 

[vc10um]

Date: 12/4/2009 9:03:43 PM
Author: LilyKat
No, of course not. But my opinion of the store might improve if it was a beautiful piece.

Agreed, LilyKat. I don''t think my opinion of the ring itself would change...a beautiful ring is a beautiful ring, regardless of where it was purchased...but like upgrade said...I might think that they could have gotten so much more for their money...

 

[princesss]

My opinion of the ring would not change, nor would my excitement for the couple.

 

[kenny]

Before the sale, yes.
After the sale, no.

Before the sale you can direct them to where they can get a better diamond for less.
After the sale you just say, "Oh, it's beautiful." no matter what it looks like or where it came from.

 

[purrfectpear]

I don''t care if she says he bought it at KMart. If the young woman proudly states the store, then clearly SHE is comfortable with the purchase. Why would anyone want to rain on her parade

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Date: 12/4/2009 9:53:47 PM
Author: kenny
Before the sale, yes.

After the sale, no.


Before the sale you can direct them to where they can get a better diamond for less.

After the sale you just say, ''Oh, it''s beautiful.'' no matter what it looks like or where it came from.

This.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Absolutely not. If it''s a beautiful ring, it''s a beautiful ring.

 

[Haven]

Date: 12/4/2009 9:53:47 PM
Author: kenny
Before the sale, yes.
After the sale, no.

Before the sale you can direct them to where they can get a better diamond for less.
After the sale you just say, ''Oh, it''s beautiful.'' no matter what it looks like or where it came from.

Agreed.

I don''t think anyone has ever told me where they got their ring, though. I wonder how that even comes up--does someone else *ask* where the ring is from? That seems like it would be a rude question.

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 12/4/2009 9:53:47 PM
Author: kenny
Before the sale, yes.
After the sale, no.

Before the sale you can direct them to where they can get a better diamond for less.
After the sale you just say, ''Oh, it''s beautiful.'' no matter what it looks like or where it came from.

Thritto!!

It''s just like the BWW threads about wedding dresses. Before it''s purchased we can give feedback and advice. Once it''s the dress, we congratulate, support and compliment.

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 12/4/2009 11:18:12 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 12/4/2009 9:53:47 PM
Author: kenny
Before the sale, yes.
After the sale, no.

Before the sale you can direct them to where they can get a better diamond for less.
After the sale you just say, 'Oh, it's beautiful.' no matter what it looks like or where it came from.

Agreed.

I don't think anyone has ever told me where they got their ring, though. I wonder how that even comes up--does someone else *ask* where the ring is from? That seems like it would be a rude question.

I asked a coworker today about her studs. I had never noticed them before, but today they were blinging in my face and I asked her if I could see them. She took one out and I examined it closely. I absolutely loved the tiny halo around the stud even though it looked somewhat like a jacket, it wasn't. They were exquisite. She told me that she received them as a wedding present from her in-laws. I asked her where they were purchased and she told me "an asian store" on such and such street. I complimented her on them and told her they were way nicer than my studs, even though I am not sure that is entirely true. She just has nicer looking earlobes.

 

[BeachRunner]

Date: 12/4/2009 11:18:12 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 12/4/2009 9:53:47 PM

Author: kenny

Before the sale, yes.

After the sale, no.


Before the sale you can direct them to where they can get a better diamond for less.

After the sale you just say, ''Oh, it''s beautiful.'' no matter what it looks like or where it came from.

Agreed.


I don''t think anyone has ever told me where they got their ring, though. I wonder how that even comes up--does someone else *ask* where the ring is from? That seems like it would be a rude question.

Also agree with this.

 

[BeachRunner]

Date: 12/4/2009 11:18:12 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 12/4/2009 9:53:47 PM

Author: kenny

Before the sale, yes.

After the sale, no.


Before the sale you can direct them to where they can get a better diamond for less.

After the sale you just say, ''Oh, it''s beautiful.'' no matter what it looks like or where it came from.

Agreed.


I don''t think anyone has ever told me where they got their ring, though. I wonder how that even comes up--does someone else *ask* where the ring is from? That seems like it would be a rude question.

Also agree with this.

 

[february2003bride]

Date: 12/4/2009 11:18:12 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 12/4/2009 9:53:47 PM
Author: kenny
Before the sale, yes.
After the sale, no.

Before the sale you can direct them to where they can get a better diamond for less.
After the sale you just say, ''Oh, it''s beautiful.'' no matter what it looks like or where it came from.

Agreed.

I don''t think anyone has ever told me where they got their ring, though. I wonder how that even comes up--does someone else *ask* where the ring is from? That seems like it would be a rude question.

I''ve never asked where a ring was from but almost all of my friends or DH''s have said where they bought their rings from (newly engaged at the moment, not months or years later)!

 

[that_someone_special]

I don''t care a bit!

I guess the only thing that would cross my mind is, "I hoped they didn''t get ripped off!"

But that''s none of my beeswax anyways...

 

[AprilBaby]

Outside of this forum I don''t think I have ever known where anyone got their ring, so no. I don''t ask and if it is lovely and they are proud of it, what does it matter what I think?

 

[4ever]

I think there are people on here who it would honestly change their opinion of a ring to hear it was from certain chain/mall stores, I''ve read a lot of catty things on here about mall store rings (amoungst all the helpful advice).

I don''t think just because it''s from a mall or chain store means it is nessesarily less beautiful or nessesarily more expensive then it would be from a price scope vendor (although it often may be the case).

In NZ the quality B&M stores charge extortionate prices for good stones and there are very few certified stones out there. the chain stores are really all we have if you want to avoid import taxes. My ring came from a discount outlet for a chain store (It''s an unusual ring that they would have had alot of trouble selling at full price- we got 60% off) which is the only way I could imagine getting somthing as large as I did and as unique. I could not buy the same thing for the same price from a price scope vendor.

However, I''m not beyond pre-judice to certain stores- there is one in particular I would never buy anything expensive from. A firend of mine got her e-ring from there, it was bezel set and the stone fell out. She found the stone and took it back to have it put back in and they lost her e-ring and stone. She eventually got a replacement but still.....

 

[LilyKat]

Oh no, I asked a friend last week where her engagement ring was from, because we are in the process of choosing mine and wanted ideas

Was this rude? She is a good friend and she knows we are looking.

 

[zoebartlett]

I wouldn''t say anything at all. If my friend and her FI like it, that''s what matters. If I knew ahead of time that they were looking, I''d try to steer them towards PS though, of course.

 

[Liane]

Date: 12/5/2009 6:24:24 AM
Author: LilyKat
Oh no, I asked a friend last week where her engagement ring was from, because we are in the process of choosing mine and wanted ideas

Was this rude? She is a good friend and she knows we are looking.

Under these circumstances it''s not rude at all. I''d find it flattering that a friend liked my ring so much she wanted to know where I bought it because she was looking to buy her own.

As far as the original question goes -- no, I wouldn''t think less of a ring that I originally thought was beautiful because I found out it came from Zales or whatever.

I''ll admit I''m one of those people who doesn''t have a very high opinion of these stores, but that''s because most of what I see there is stuff that I wouldn''t be thrilled to see a friend wearing as her e-ring (although of course I would never say anything post-purchase if this happened). Still, it''s possible to find beautiful stones in chain stores (Lorelei doesn''t advise people to go look at Jared''s Peerless stones for nothing), and there are certainly worse places to buy your engagement ring -- such as one of the B&Ms here in town that recently got busted again for dealing in stolen jewelry. That is an origin that would make me go

 

[Madam Bijoux]

It wouldn''t matter to me. If they''re happy, I''m happy.