do you get annoyed when people wear your e ring on their ring finger?

[Alexiszoe]

When i was engaged a lot of friends and acquaintances were fascinated by the ring, and usually they would ask for me to take it off so that they can take a closer look, which i don''t mind.

my only beef is that some of them actually take my e ring and proceed to wear it on their ring finger. I don''t mind if it were close friends, but so far most of these people were acquaintances or people i hardly know. this annoys me since i feel like this is an invasion of privacy.

does anyone feel the same way or you guys don''t mind it at all?

 

[Fly Girl]

Just don''t take it off. It''s a safety issue. It simply won''t get dropped if it is on your finger.

If you are o.k. with handing them your ring to examine, I don''t think it should matter if they hold it to examine it or if they slip it on to see how it looks on their hand. Since it bothers you, I wouldn''t put myself into the situation.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I think it is rather rude for anyone but a close friend or relative to ask you to take off your ring! So I think I''d just answer that you do not take it off. But my daughters love to try on my rings, so I think it is natural to try it on the ring finger in that case.

 

[Harriet]

Nope.

 

[BeachRunner]

I don''t take off my ring to let people see it, exception being family and close friends. The only person that has actually put it on their finger was FMIL, which I did not mind one bit!

 

[AdiS]

Date: 1/19/2009 10:48:36 AM
Author: diamondseeker2006
I think it is rather rude for anyone but a close friend or relative to ask you to take off your ring! So I think I''d just answer that you do not take it off. But my daughters love to try on my rings, so I think it is natural to try it on the ring finger in that case.

Ditto. I never take my rings off, unless it''s my two BFF or relatives asking. Otherwise I just say "Sorry but no way. These rings stay right where they are."

No wonder people don''t like me much...

 

[platinumrock]

Date: 1/19/2009 10:17:12 AM
Author: Fly Girl
Just don''t take it off. It''s a safety issue. It simply won''t get dropped if it is on your finger.

If you are o.k. with handing them your ring to examine, I don''t think it should matter if they hold it to examine it or if they slip it on to see how it looks on their hand. Since it bothers you, I wouldn''t put myself into the situation.

Ditto. I never take off my rings. I only take it off if a trusted family member or friend asks. But that rarely ever happened. When people stop to look at my rings, they usually hold up my hand for a closer look. But rarely do they ask to wear it.

I agree, it is an invasion of privacy. I certainly don''t do that to others.

 

[Burk]

I don''t really mind letting others try on my e-ring. I just take it as a compliment that they like it so much they want to inspect it closer.

 

[Bliss]

It''s so funny -- I think people do it because all things "wedding" are lucky, happy and exciting. E-rings are very special and personal so I don''t see why everyone HAS to put it on their e-ring finger, too. It''s not as personal as trying on someone else''s underwear, but it''s pretty personal! I wear my grandmother''s ring on my right hand and people ask about that all the time... but no one has ever tried that ring on. Just the e-ring. I have heard it''s good luck for single girls to try on e-rings. At least that''s what my girlfriends tell me when they''re trying it on!!! If it helps them, have at it, girls!

 

[Haven]

It doesn''t bother me, but if it did I wouldn''t take my ring off in the first place. Problem solved.

 

[bee*]

It doesn''t bother me at all. I''ve has a lot of people try on my ring and most of them pop it on their ring finger. I''m just flattered that they love it.

 

[Pandora II]

I try it on whichever finger fits - most of the time it''s my ring finger.

I''m more than happy for my friends/colleagues to try my ring on. I don''t really get the problem with it - if you don''t want people to try it on then don''t take it off...

 

[EyeElle]

My grandmother would always say this in regards to engagement rings:

Never take it off if someone asks to see it, if you do it shows others he''s just a stand-in
and never let anyone try on your engagement ring, for they will steal you luck in love.

Its an old european tale. But like most things its just a supersticious thing. But it always stuck with me.

 

[jewelerman]

Date: 1/19/2009 10:10:29 AM
Author:Alexiszoe
When i was engaged a lot of friends and acquaintances were fascinated by the ring, and usually they would ask for me to take it off so that they can take a closer look, which i don''t mind.

my only beef is that some of them actually take my e ring and proceed to wear it on their ring finger. I don''t mind if it were close friends, but so far most of these people were acquaintances or people i hardly know. this annoys me since i feel like this is an invasion of privacy.

does anyone feel the same way or you guys don''t mind it at all?

I only let people I know handle my jewelry and only when they ask in a selective enviroment(carpet underfoot and not alot of strangers around)I never let strangers take my wrist of hand when complimenting me on my rings,bracelets or watch...grab and runs are getting too common.Most people will take off their jewelry for a closer look when i compliment them on their jewelry...when they find out my backround they usually want a second opinion on cost or quality.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I have let me SIL wear my e-ring (on her ring finger) for HOURS before. She loves it and it doesn''t bother me. I don''t think I would take my ring off for just ANYONE to see. I have to know the person pretty well (or they have to be PSers

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[diamondseeker2006]

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[diamondseeker2006]

I think Tacori let me try her ring on, and it is GORGEOUS!!!!

 

[Sizzle]

Date: 1/19/2009 10:10:29 AM
Author:Alexiszoe
When i was engaged a lot of friends and acquaintances were fascinated by the ring, and usually they would ask for me to take it off so that they can take a closer look, which i don''t mind.

my only beef is that some of them actually take my e ring and proceed to wear it on their ring finger. I don''t mind if it were close friends, but so far most of these people were acquaintances or people i hardly know. this annoys me since i feel like this is an invasion of privacy.

does anyone feel the same way or you guys don''t mind it at all?

I never let anyone even HOLD my ring! I just don''t play that AT ALL. I dont want anyone to be in the position where they would get comfortable enough to think about slipping it on their finger!

 

[iluvcarats]

As long as I know the person I don''t mind. I have small fingers so some people can''t even get it on their pinky. It makes quite a pinky ring.LOL

 

[tlh]

Date: 1/19/2009 10:10:29 AM
Author:Alexiszoe
When i was engaged a lot of friends and acquaintances were fascinated by the ring, and usually they would ask for me to take it off so that they can take a closer look, which i don't mind.

my only beef is that some of them actually take my e ring and proceed to wear it on their ring finger. I don't mind if it were close friends, but so far most of these people were acquaintances or people i hardly know. this annoys me since i feel like this is an invasion of privacy.

does anyone feel the same way or you guys don't mind it at all?

OMG, YES! IT depends on who it is really. My mom and I wear the same size, and she loves my ring and wanted to see how it looked on her finger. (She has the Marquis cut and wanted to see how a different ring would look.) Did I mind. NOPE, not one bit.

I do mind when someone I am aquianted with puts it on w/o asking. Because I would say NO. When someone asks to see it, if I could take it off so that they can get a closer look, I dont expect them to put it on. I am fortunate enough to be blessed w/ small fingers. Most women couldnt put it on the magic finger if they wanted to... and trust me they've tried. I have one girl I am aquanted with and she tried to put it on her magic finger and failed, so she put it on her pinky. Stood up from the table and says... see you later. I got POd and said I dont think so... and she laughed and sat down and said- you have insurance, why does it matter? and I said, because I'd have no problem calling the police and reporting a felony theft- I'll give them your address and phone number too. She then took it off, gave it back and said that I'm not any fun.

That was pretty scary. I dont know this girl enough to know if she was kidding... but I have heard some stories... and she's kinda a loon. So now if anyone wants a closer look, and I'm not confortable enough to have them put it on w/o asking... it will stay on my finger. If anyone asks to see it, I'll hold my hand out... and if they ask to try it on, and it is someone I DONT want to put it on.. I'll just say, I never take it off. Sorry.

(Plus I HATE IT when they have lotiony hands and my rings get all cruddy! Gross... straight to the cleaners!!!)

 

[Kelli]

Doesn''t bother me at all.

 

[Circe]

I just don''t take it off - partially because I''ve had butter-fingered friends drop other jewelry, and partially because I don''t want to dilute the emotional significance, if that makes any sense. Other jewelry, I''ll let my closest friend try on - it''s kind of the opposite of the folk tradition EyeElle quoted. Like the accumulation of good vibes!

 

[LuckyTexan]

The first friend of mine who wanted to see it off my finger proceeded to DROP IT on her DRIVEWAY... so um... the rule now is... I don''t ever take it off for anyone!

I have always found it really weird that someone wants to put on someone elses bridal jewelry... I''m kinda superstitious about that sort of thing!

 

[Elmorton]

If I''m close enough with someone for them to ask to try on my ring, it makes sense that they''ll put it on their ring finger, IMO - the fun of trying the ring on is the "pretending," yanno?

I will say though with my size 8 finger, it usually winds up on a friend''s thumb because all my friends seem to have tiiiiiny little fingers and my ring swims on them.

 

[Steel]

Put me in the yes column…

I almost had a nervous breakdown when customs stole (sorry…seized) my ring for fear that they were prancing around the office wearing my beauty.

I went to a jeweller once to try on diamond bands and one sales assistant picked up my full eternity band which I had put on the counter and looked at it.Then the woman put it on her ring finger and admired it!!!!I almost died.I always hold my rings or put them on my right hand now…it is like the x-files; trust nobody.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Honestly, in the scheme of things, I don''t think it really matters. Possibly the polite thing to do would be for the person to ask first.

 

[LGK]

I don''t take my e-ring off for strangers to look at, even when people ask. I do let friends and family play with it and usually, the first impulse people have is to stick it on their ring finger, which, if I''m comfy enough to take it off for someone, doesn''t bother me at all.

One of my co-workers who I''m friends with kidnapped it for a bit though. She put it on, gave me an evil grin and pranced off with it. I eventually had to track her down and pry it off her finger

She was soooo not gonna part with it easily!

 

[deegee]

I don''t mind. My mom, sisters, nieces and friends have had my ring on bunches of times. When I got my ring last year (insurance replacement), everyone that came to my office to look at it tried it on. I usually took it off and handed it to them rather than leaving it on and them twisting my finger trying to get a good look.

One day at work a group of us tried on each other''s rings, and it was awesome! One lady has an almost 4 ct rb, one has a 5 ct tw 3-stone oval ring, one has a gorgeous emerald cut, one has a 5-stone marquise, and there were a bunch of others. We had so much fun passing rings around!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 1/19/2009 12:55:53 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
I think Tacori let me try her ring on, and it is GORGEOUS!!!!

Thanks DS! Hopefully I''ll get to try on your Leon/Tiffany beauties!

 

[Clairitek]

It doesn''t bother me. Most people have asked. A few of my girlfriends have just plopped it on. Personally I NEVER put someone else''s e-ring all the way on my finger. If I want to see it on my hand I normally just put it on the tip of my index finger. Weird how I wouldn''t dare do it to anyone else even if they tell me to but I don''t really mind when its my ring. I know that the ring is only symbolic to me and FI, to them its just jewelery.