Do you ever discuss your LIWitis with your girl friends?

[PrincessNatalie]

I dont, because it tends to become speculation about my relationship or the girls giving "advice" that doesnt at all work for my relationship. And I just end up more frustrated than before I spoke with them.

Advice I have been given: "I would just explain to him getting engaged doesnt mean getting married" (um wtf?!)

"Natalie. He wont do it at the end of the year. And he probably wont do it for a long time, so just stop thinking about it" (coz she knows BF better than I do..?)

"Tell him you just want the ring as a symbol of his commitment to the relationship"

"You think about this way too much!" (um, ouch. This was only the second time I had ever wanted to talk about it, and after I had been keeping my feelings to myself for a couple of months, and was going through a rough LIW week, I just needed an ear basically).

And there was the thing that first actually gave me full blown LIWitis, my best friend saying SO's mother spoke to her MIL (they are friends) and told her that she was glad that I didn't seem to want to get married because SO would not want to for a long time. I mentioned to SO about this and he said he never spoke to his mum about that kinda stuff... ever! So either my best friend was making it up or SO's mum was speculating.

My girl-friends just seem to completely miss the point or get b|tchy about the whole thing.

I was just wondering if anyone else expeirences the same things? I just do not talk about it to friends or anyone. Not even my best friend (though she does know I am hoping for an end of year proposal). The only person I discuss it with is SO occasionally, and he seems the most understanding (maybe because he is right there in the relationship with me )

And thinking about it has made me wonder what the worst advise you girls have been given?! I would love to hear the pearls of wisdom us lucky LIW are bestowed with lol.

 

[maebelle]

I don't talk about it with my non-work friends, mostly because all of them are the girlfriends/fiancees/wives of my SO's guy friends (we're one big group) and I feel like that might be a bit much.

My work friends though... we may talk about rings...um... every day! These girls give me all sort of advice, mostly they are sure that my SO is going to propose ANY SECOND. It makes it hard to think straight while I'm around all of this surety, I want to believe them at the same time as thinking it's going to be more like 6 months before he'll do it, minimum.

At least they understand the whole LIWitis thing, unlike some of my other friends. The other friends would probably be telling me to cool it and calm down like some of yours. It's important to be able to let it out sometimes, don't they get it?

 

[mmi]

Hey Natalie, I'm like you. I'm more comfortable talking to SO about it than my girlfriends. Most of them haven't been dating their SOs as long and are in the "what's the rush?" category. I am not in a rush, exactly, I just like to know where things are going. We do watch Say Yes to the Dress etc. together and ooh and ahh over rings, but they are much more into that stuff than I am. Yeah, they are icing on the cake, but what I really want is a partner and a family. That's where our views differ these days, so I don't think they would really understand.

 

[4ever]

No, I don't talk to my friends about it at all.

Firstly because they are all single or have not been together with their BF's very long so I don't think they'd understand anyway.
Secondly I'm embaresed at what a psycho LIW-itise can turn me into. I never throught I'd let myself get this crazy waiting for a man to propose.

But that's why I post on PS, it's thre only place I have where people are in the same boat and understand where I'm coming from.