Do you comment on attractive people to/in front of your SO?

[princesss]

Date: 5/14/2009 1:28:14 PM
Author: musey

Date: 5/14/2009 1:06:27 PM
Author: Selkie
We''re both pretty comfortable with remarking on people of either gender but it''s generally limited to actors/celebrities. We know each others ''Freebies'' for instance

.

The freebie thing fascinates me!! I think that it''s fun, but in our case it''s too likely that we''d actually run into said freebies

The freebie thing kind of weirds me out. I don''t know...I don''t mind BF pointing out attractive women, and we joke about our other "girlfriends" and "boyfriends," but when push comes to shove I couldn''t even jokingly given him permission to pursue anybody else. I guess I just don''t get it.

 

[crown1]

no comments. it doesn''t seem wise to me.

 

[pinkstars]

I voted that I comment on people that my BF is attracted to. It usually doesn''t go "Hey look at her, isn''t she just beautiful?"
If I notice a girl, I usually point out her cleavage or something about what she''s wearing. If BF notices a girl(doesn''t happen often) usually it''s along the lines of "She has a pretty face, but ..." and then he points out that she hasn''t smiled the whole time that we''ve seen her.
I don''t think BF ever says anything about guys.

 

[Kelli]

I voted #1. You gotta realize there''s a lot of hotties out there, and NO ONE is just gonna stop noticing good looking people because they''re in a relationship. Sometimes it hits a sore sopt with me if the girl my FI finds attractive looks NOTHING like me (but has something I want, like thick lush hair or super smooth thighs

), but it''s not like I don''t do the same thing myself. I''m much happier knowing that my FH is comfortable enough around me to make a comment and know that I''m not going to freak out.

 

[Bia]

We check out people. We do a thumbs up, down, sideways when we see someone who might have potential. Not all of the time but when we''re sitting somewhere people-watching.

Sometimes he''ll say, "she has a nice booty" (he''s an @$$ man) and I''ll say, "On a scale from 1-10, better than mine?" LOL Or I''ll do the same with some guy who is really niiiiice

.

It''s light and it''s all in fun.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 2:01:11 PM
Author: crown1
no comments. it doesn''t seem wise to me.

Afraid your SO will find this and call you out?

 

[courtney5638]

I picked #1. FI have been together a really long time, and it just doesn''t bother me if he looks or makes a passing comment. Usually it''s all in fun. He knows I have my celeb crushes, and I know he has his (although I am sure he will deny that).

 

[Burk]

ack...ate my post AGAIN! In short, I voted number 1.

 

[HollyS]

If someone is really striking in the good looks, why not comment? It''s only acknowledgement that they are a pretty/handsome person. We both know we aren''t ''looking'' for someone better. Besides, DH knows I would never leave him for anyone but maybe Lyle Lovett. And he ain''t pretty.

DH and I also comment to each other on ''hoochie mommas'', guys doing their best Spicoli impersonations, ''flamers'' whose over-the-top behavior begs for ridicule, homeboys who wear their pants below their ass, overly endowed women sporting teeny-tiny tops that leave only the nips to the imagination, and a whole host of other ''stereotypes''.

We''re so bland and boring, nobody would ever comment on us.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 3:19:20 PM
Author: HollyS
We''re so bland and boring, nobody would ever comment on us.

You never know, Holly.....

 

[iwannaprettyone]

I comment more on women then men- weird.

Me: "psst, babe, check her out she is sooooooo pretty/hot/cute blah blah blah".....
DH: "errrrr, seriously? ok then"
Me: "am I prettier?"
DH: "Yes babe"
Me: "promise"
DH: "Yes babe"
Me: "pinky swear"
DH: "Seriously?"
Me: *pinkie extended*
DH: "Feel better now?*
Me: "Yes babe"......

 

[lucyandroger]

We only comment if there is some other reason for example..."why is she wearing that outfit that makes her look frumpy when she otherwise has an awesome figure" or "that couple is so mismatched. He''s gorgeous and she''s so unattractive."

We also talk about celebs...love to read as much of the gossip mags as possible on line at the grocery store.

But, we would never say "check out that guy (or girl)...he''s hot!" It''s just not us.

 

[geckodani]

Date: 5/14/2009 3:54:58 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone
I comment more on women then men- weird.

Me: ''psst, babe, check her out she is sooooooo pretty/hot/cute blah blah blah''.....
DH: ''errrrr, seriously? ok then''
Me: ''am I prettier?''
DH: ''Yes babe''
Me: ''promise''
DH: ''Yes babe''
Me: ''pinky swear''
DH: ''Seriously?''
Me: *pinkie extended*
DH: ''Feel better now?*
Me: ''Yes babe''......

Hee hee!!!

 

[HollyS]

Date: 5/14/2009 3:30:43 PM
Author: musey

Date: 5/14/2009 3:19:20 PM
Author: HollyS
We''re so bland and boring, nobody would ever comment on us.

You never know, Holly.....

Maybe in a "Geez, look at those ''ol farts! A little tattooing and piercing would do them good!"

 

[btrflygrl23]

I do comment if another girl looks good/pretty, nice figure type thing I tell him and we both look and discuss briefly. I think it is nice to be that comfortable with him but like someone else said I seem to do it more with girls than guys but then honestly although I know there are tons of good looking guys around and it''s not that I don''t notice but I don''t really care b/c I''m really happy content with FI so I''m good...
He sometimes tells me about girls or something about them he notices and I think it''s kinda cute! Like one time he said oh look that girl is wearing a ton of foundation and I was like how cute I didn''t even know you could spot too much foundation on a girl LOL!

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

We comment on appealling qualities of both genders: we don''t always agree with each others persepctive, but then again we don''t have to! Moreover, I am not bothered in the least he finds others attractive, it is normal/natural and I am glad he feels free to express the same.

cheers--Sharon

 

[sammyj]

I definitely comment on the attractiveness of both genders and my FI only comments on attractive women if I prompt him. He claims to be unable to tell if a guy is good looking or not (uh huh

). I am also more inclined to comment if I don''t know the person...as in, I''d never tell him if I thought that any of his or my male friends are hot.

 

[Haven]

I comment on people with striking looks or outfits, men or women. DH doesn''t ever comment on anyone in front of me.

I know his type, though, so if I see a woman who I know he''d appreciate, I''ll point her out. He usually glances over and says something like "She''s okay" even though I''m pretty sure he''s really thinking "

." He''s too sweet to actually say it.

As for celebrities, he knows I lurve Christian Bale and Eric Bana.

 

[Clio]

We both make comments about people and tease each other (nothing meanspirited). We also have a running joke about his undying love for Sarah McLachlan.

 

[Haven]

Date: 5/14/2009 3:58:17 PM
Author: HollyS

Date: 5/14/2009 3:30:43 PM
Author: musey

Date: 5/14/2009 3:19:20 PM
Author: HollyS
We''re so bland and boring, nobody would ever comment on us.

You never know, Holly.....

Maybe in a ''Geez, look at those ''ol farts! A little tattooing and piercing would do them good!''

HA! That''s funny. I like the idea of sprucing up ''ol farts with tattoos and piercings. I think I feel a side business coming on . . .

I know people comment on us when we''re out and I''m wearing heels because I am significantly taller than DH anyway, so I can really tower over him if I''m all dressed up. DH is one of those shorter, smallish guys, too, and "small" just isn''t a word you''d use to describe me. A guy once came up to DH in a bar and said something like "Dude, you must be really confident to date such a tall chick."

 

[Steel]

I can''t do the poll because I need clarification on what is a ''comment''.

I hate when I overhear couples saying either in front of each other or not ''that x is sooooo hot; I''d love a go!'' Because I feel it is offensive to their SO. I would hate if DH acted like that.

But sometimes we will be watching a movie and say - do you think he/she is attractive? Usually in reference to somebody winning hottest man/woman of the year and our disbelief.

So I didn''t vote.

 

[bee*]

I make comments a lot more than D would and usually it''s pointing out hot women. D always goes "they''re only ok". I think that it''s fun to look at good looking people and it''s not as if either of us want to run away with them.

 

[trillionaire]

He asks me sometimes if I think a guy is attractive, and I am honest. I will compliment pretty women with or without him soliciting. I comment less on attractive guys, but I still comment. With that being said, I don''t see many attractive men where I live.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 4:56:11 PM
Author: Steel
I can't do the poll because I need clarification on what is a 'comment'.

I hate when I overhear couples saying either in front of each other or not 'that x is sooooo hot; I'd love a go!' Because I feel it is offensive to their SO. I would hate if DH acted like that.

But sometimes we will be watching a movie and say - do you think he/she is attractive? Usually in reference to somebody winning hottest man/woman of the year and our disbelief.

So I didn't vote.

It can be whatever you want it to be

it's just a poll. I had more the latter in mind when I wrote it. I wouldn't imagine most people would comment (seriously, anyway) in such an overtly sexual way.

Somehow I always manage to leave SOME important info out on these things!!

 

[April20]

I voted both but it''s really not a conscious thing for me or for DH. We''re people watchers by nature and typically comment back and forth on people.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 5:08:56 PM
Author: April20
I voted both but it''s really not a conscious thing for me or for DH. We''re people watchers by nature and typically comment back and forth on people.

I cant imagine doing it consciously

I just say whatever pops into my head most of the time, and sometimes that happens to be comments on others'' looks!

 

[princesss]

Date: 5/14/2009 4:43:37 PM
Author: Haven
Eric Bana.

Yes. Yes. A thousand times yes.

When the Time Traveler''s Wife movie FINALLY comes out, he will be playing a punk rock librarian who occassionally moves through time and ends up naked.

I. Can''t. Wait.

 

[Steel]

Date: 5/14/2009 5:07:14 PM
Author: musey

Date: 5/14/2009 4:56:11 PM
Author: Steel
I can't do the poll because I need clarification on what is a 'comment'.

I hate when I overhear couples saying either in front of each other or not 'that x is sooooo hot; I'd love a go!' Because I feel it is offensive to their SO. I would hate if DH acted like that.

But sometimes we will be watching a movie and say - do you think he/she is attractive? Usually in reference to somebody winning hottest man/woman of the year and our disbelief.

So I didn't vote.

It can be whatever you want it to be

it's just a poll. I had more the latter in mind when I wrote it. I wouldn't imagine most people would comment (seriously, anyway) in such an overtly sexual way.

Somehow I always manage to leave SOME important info out on these things!!

I can imagine you muttering 'for Pete's sake' at my post! I didn't mean to be so particular

, it just comes naturally

.

ETA: I'm sure you have been holding your breath. But I went a-voting and chose #4. I am sure you are ecstatic.

 

[Selkie]

Date: 5/14/2009 2:00:46 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 5/14/2009 1:28:14 PM

Author: musey

Date: 5/14/2009 1:06:27 PM

Author: Selkie

We''re both pretty comfortable with remarking on people of either gender but it''s generally limited to actors/celebrities. We know each others ''Freebies'' for instance

.

The freebie thing fascinates me!! I think that it''s fun, but in our case it''s too likely that we''d actually run into said freebies

The freebie thing kind of weirds me out. I don''t know...I don''t mind BF pointing out attractive women, and we joke about our other ''girlfriends'' and ''boyfriends,'' but when push comes to shove I couldn''t even jokingly given him permission to pursue anybody else. I guess I just don''t get it.

Well, the thing about Freebies is that it''s strictly limited to celebrities that your actual odds of meeting are about a million to 1 (or better, in Musey''s case

), let alone meeting under circumstances that would allow pursuit of (or by!) said Freebie. So in other words, just a total joke, for us anyway. In previous relationships I was not secure enough to even joke about things like that, but with DH it''s completely different.

 

[princesss]

Date: 5/14/2009 5:48:55 PM
Author: Selkie

Date: 5/14/2009 2:00:46 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 5/14/2009 1:28:14 PM

Author: musey

Date: 5/14/2009 1:06:27 PM

Author: Selkie

We''re both pretty comfortable with remarking on people of either gender but it''s generally limited to actors/celebrities. We know each others ''Freebies'' for instance

.

The freebie thing fascinates me!! I think that it''s fun, but in our case it''s too likely that we''d actually run into said freebies

The freebie thing kind of weirds me out. I don''t know...I don''t mind BF pointing out attractive women, and we joke about our other ''girlfriends'' and ''boyfriends,'' but when push comes to shove I couldn''t even jokingly given him permission to pursue anybody else. I guess I just don''t get it.

Well, the thing about Freebies is that it''s strictly limited to celebrities that your actual odds of meeting are about a million to 1 (or better, in Musey''s case

), let alone meeting under circumstances that would allow pursuit of (or by!) said Freebie. So in other words, just a total joke, for us anyway. In previous relationships I was not secure enough to even joke about things like that, but with DH it''s completely different.

I think I''m just a fuddy duddy, lol. That''s what BF says. We do play "Who would you do?" but the premise of that (at least in my head) is that you''re single, so it doesn''t bug me.