Do you comment on attractive people to/in front of your SO?

[musey]

Another poll! Yay!

Do you comment on attractive people to/in front of your SO?

Here are the options and clarification (I''m trying to get more clear in my polls

something is always confusing!):

1. I comment on attractive people of the gender my SO is attracted to AND of the gender that I am attracted to.
If you are a woman in a heterosexual relationship, you comment on attractive women AND men to/in front of your SO.
If you are a man in a heterosexual relationship, you comment on attractive men AND women to/in front of your SO.
If you are a woman in a homosexual relationship, you comment on attractive women to/in front of your SO.
If you are a man in a homosexual relationship, you comment on attractive men to/in front of your SO.

2. I comment on attractive people of the gender my SO is attracted to but NOT of the gender I am attracted to.
If you are a woman in a heterosexual relationship, you comment on attractive women but NOT men to/in front of your SO.
If you are a man in a heterosexual relationship, you comment on attractive men but NOT women to/in front of your SO.
If you are a man or woman in a homosexual relationship, do not vote for this option.

3. I comment on attractive people of the gender I am attracted to but NOT of the gender my SO is attracted to.
If you are a woman in a heterosexual relationship, you comment on attractive men but NOT women to/in front of your SO.
If you are a man in a heterosexual relationship, you comment on attractive women but NOT men to/in front of your SO.
If you are a man or woman in a homosexual relationship, do not vote for this option.

4. I do not comment on attractive people in front of my SO, regardless of their gender.
Self-explanatory!

5. I plead the fifth.

6. Show me what other people do.

 

[geckodani]

Heh. Funny related story. Adam and I were at dinner on Friday. We'd just run into a friend from high school that now has a baby and my head was reeling. I mean, totally spinning in circles trying to wrap around the concept that this person now has a child, LOL.

Adam looked at me after the waiter came and the conversation went like this:

A: Wow, your brain really is fried isn't it.
Me: What makes you say that?
A: You completely missed the fact that the waiter is totally yummy didn't you?
Me: Erm. That would be an affirmative.
A: Well, you should look. He's worth a second glance.

ETA: I comment on girls. He comments on guys.

 

[sunnyd]

Musey, you are to crazy polls what DF is to random questions!

I voted that I don''t comment, because I don''t like it if he does. Meh, my self esteem isn''t the greatest I guess.

 

[Lauren8211]

FF and I are always checking people out together. We always try and guess if someone is each other''s "type"

There''s a lot of attractive people out there, it''s fun to look!

 

[misskitty]

I comment on both, but B comments on neither (with the exception of celebrities -- he''ll share his thoughts on whether famous people are attractive or not).

 

[E B]

I have no problem letting my husband know if I find either a male or a female attractive, but this mostly happens when we're watching a movie or a TV show. I don't normally point someone out in public, but we've both done it.

My husband thinks I'm incredibly picky when it comes to women (and I'm not!), so while we were waiting to leave for a doctor's appointment, he jokingly laid the newest Victoria's Secret swimsuit catalog in front of me. "Do you find any of these women hot?" he asked. I proceeded to flip it open and review them. He laughed when I pointed to one famous model and told him I thought she had a great little body, but otherwise, she wasn't really *my type.

*I'm not bi-sexual, but I definitely have a 'type' when it comes to women I find (the most) attractive.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:19:54 PM
Author: sunnyd
Musey, you are to crazy polls what DF is to random questions!

Aw, man!

I just thought it was fun.............

 

[CurlySue]

I comment on both genders, but I do so very, very, very rarely.

The comments are usually made in one of two scenarios:

- Me admitting that I have a crush on a celebrity. For example, I rooted for the Steelers in the Superbowl b/c I have a little thing for Ben Roethlisberger.
- Me noting that somone has particularly remarkable features, like gorgeous eyes or really nice teeth. Usually these comments are made about complete strangers and not anyone we would run into in real life.

I''d say over the course of about a year and a half, I have made maybe three or four comments like this.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:18:52 PM
Author: geckodani
A: Wow, your brain really is fried isn''t it.
Me: What makes you say that?
A: You completely missed the fact that the waiter is totally yummy didn''t you?
Me: Erm. That would be an affirmative.
A: Well, you should look. He''s worth a second glance.

LOL!! Too funny. Adam just won some brownie points in my book, he sounds hilarious

 

[E B]

My husband would fall into the second category. He'll let me know when he thinks an actress (and rarely, a 'real person'

) is attractive, but he won't comment on another man.

We've been watching In Treatment for the last week or so on DVD, and during an episode yesterday, I told him I don't care if he's as straight as they come- he cannot deny that Blair Underwood is a good-looking man. He just rolled his eyes, but he knows I'm right.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

We''re more likely to comment on celebrities to each other or when we catch someone checking out the other person (like a chick checking out FI and vice versa). More often than not we''re just commenting on REALLY unattractive people/couples or people dressed strangely.

 

[tyty333]

I usually only comment on celebs or people on TV (both guys and girls) ...not like friends or people out in public.
He rarely comments on either.

 

[alli_esq]

I will generally comment when I think FH is looking at a woman or the woman is very obvious (we live in NY and you see people wearing the most insane or provocative clothes)... I''ll comment on people I see on TV typically only if they''re women and I think they''re beautiful. FH almost never agrees with me--he always says "What do you know? You''re not attracted to women--you don''t know what ''hot'' IS!"

Which I guess is good because he is attracted to me, and I would not be "my type" if I saw myself on TV

 

[geckodani]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:28:34 PM
Author: musey

Date: 5/14/2009 12:18:52 PM
Author: geckodani
A: Wow, your brain really is fried isn''t it.
Me: What makes you say that?
A: You completely missed the fact that the waiter is totally yummy didn''t you?
Me: Erm. That would be an affirmative.
A: Well, you should look. He''s worth a second glance.

LOL!! Too funny. Adam just won some brownie points in my book, he sounds hilarious

He has his moments.

 

[tlh]

I can... he can''t. I don''t care if he were to say, she''s pretty, or whatever, but since he doesn''t comment about dudes being good looking... he''s not allowed to make comments at all.

But I make up for it with my comments... like "WHOA look at her abs, I could eat sushi off of those" to which my DH has replied... "why can''t you just use a plate?"

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:29:55 PM
Author: EBree
My husband would fall into the second category. He'll let me know when he thinks an actress (and rarely, a 'real person'

) is attractive, but he won't comment on another man.

Mine is the same, except in joking (he knows I have a thing for JKras

and if I say anything about him hubs will say "Why? Because you think he's seeeeexxy??" which puts me in the awkward position of having to lie and say "no" ! ). He also won't call another women an "attractive" label that has a sexual connotation (hot, sexy, etc.), only "pretty" or "cute."

I guess I'm pretty much the same, actually, when it comes to commenting on men. It'll be factual observations ("he's really handsome" or "his eyes are beautiful") or joking ("he smolders" - usually re: Chris Pine

ha!). When I comment on women, it's nothing with a sexual connotation because I just don't think that way. I WILL be taken aback by someone's beauty, feel moved to comment (even to them sometimes), but never that they're "sexy."

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I don''t say anything at all. If I say a guy is cute, my DH gets mad. If I say a woman is pretty, my dh thinks I''m weird (even though I mean in a heterosexual way). I just keep my mouth shut and secretly lust over Christian Bale.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:25:55 PM
Author: musey

Date: 5/14/2009 12:19:54 PM
Author: sunnyd
Musey, you are to crazy polls what DF is to random questions!

Aw, man!

I just thought it was fun.............

It is fun! Did you not see the

?

HH, we always comment on the weirdos too.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Yeah, I comment to my DH on attractive people no matter what gender they are.

 

[Pandora II]

I will tend to comment on both men and women - but mainly women, DH almost always on women.

It''s a standing joke that my husband has always gone for small, curvy blondes - and yet I''m 5ft 10", dark haired and not exactly curvy - and so if I see a girl who looks ''his type'' I''ll normally point her out and ask if I''m right.

I had a dream that DH ran off with some girl a few weeks ago and had a real go at him for it the next morning - he made me spend the whole weekend trying to find someone who looked like this supposed ''mistress''. I did find one in the end - but he wasn''t very impressed!

My father has always commented to my mother on ''pretty girls'', so I''ve never seen it as odd or worrying. It''s human nature to appreciate beautiful things and anyone who says they ''don''t notice'' is telling fibs in my opinion. I would be far more worried about a man who had a problem saying he thought another woman was attractive when he thought they were - what''s to hide?

A lot of my female friends get really upset of they think their SO is looking at other women - I''ve always said to them that if they think the guy will stop looking then they are very mistaken and to wise up and realise that it doesn''t mean that their SO thinks they are unattractive, or that he wants to sleep with this woman and have kids with her any more than they probably want to run off with Diet Coke Man...

Window shopping is fun and harmless - BUT - trying on the goods is a no-no and let''s not even discuss buying them...

 

[Dancing Fire]

i would never comment about men. now,if i see a hot woman...that''s a different story!!

 

[chiquitapet]

I comment on both genders, no problem. However, DH would only comment on women.

 

[princesss]

I chose option 2, but thinking about it, I''m kind of split between 1 and 2. BF and I will joke about his friends, and I''m free to comment on them if I want to ("So and so is a dream boat," "Bob is seeeeexy," etc.). But we don''t comment on random guys.

Girls are a different story. Both of us will point out an attractive girl (or an attractive feature on a girl). We''ll bicker about whose favourite celeb is hotter (he likes Megan Fox in Transformers but not when she''s on the red carpet, and I like Evangeline Lily and 13 from House). We were best friends before we were dating, so this is something that kind of carried over from that. It is funny when we''re around new people, though. I have to awkwardly acknowledge it sometimes, "Yeah, we''re not....normal...I don''t think." But normally it''s around people we already know and like so it''s not too bad. It was just when BF was interviewing potential roommates that it was weird, lol!

 

[Selkie]

We're both pretty comfortable with remarking on people of either gender but it's generally limited to actors/celebrities. We know each others "Freebies" for instance

. Mostly it's discussed in a facetious tone, however, and it's pretty rare that we'll comment on someone we know in real life. As for random strangers, we'll occasionally comment, but it's usually women. I guess I just don't see or know that many men I find attractive in real life!

ETA: I made some comment on twitter to a friend about how I found a couple of the characters in the new Star Trek VERY attractive, and DH saw it and just laughed at me. Maybe it was the fact I was drooling over the young Spock and Bones, rather than Kirk? I dunno...

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:56:00 PM
Author: chiquitapet
I comment on both genders, no problem. However, DH would only comment on women.

he''s normal.

 

[mrscushion]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:22:36 PM
Author: misskitty
I comment on both, but B comments on neither (with the exception of celebrities -- he''ll share his thoughts on whether famous people are attractive or not).

Ditto for us.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 1:06:27 PM
Author: Selkie
We''re both pretty comfortable with remarking on people of either gender but it''s generally limited to actors/celebrities. We know each others ''Freebies'' for instance

.

The freebie thing fascinates me!! I think that it''s fun, but in our case it''s too likely that we''d actually run into said freebies

 

[Shoopy]

I comment on both but the funny thing is that FI never comments on another female in front of me. What he does do is take the time to point out flaws in another female. I think he thinks it makes me feel better or something. He''s a silly man.

He is even hesitant to agree with me.

For example a conversation will go like this:

Me: Wow, did you see that girl? She''s like a supermodel.
Him: She''s alright.
Me: What do you mean "she''s alright"?
Him: Well its just that she...(searches for any type of flaw)...has big ears.

 

[crystalheart1]

I would be comfortable commenting on women in front of my DH. I think it is not too nice saying other men are handsome. I don''t think he would care, but I do.

The only time I made a comment was Hugh Jackman in the new Wolverine movie... My DH even made a comment on how "cut" those men were... and he tickled me when Wolverine was naked

 

[tigian]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:31:11 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
We''re more likely to comment on celebrities to each other or when we catch someone checking out the other person (like a chick checking out FI and vice versa). More often than not we''re just commenting on REALLY unattractive people/couples or people dressed strangely.

We do that too! But then we feel guilty and say how mean we are.